Share your wisdom (?). Have lots of knowledge but "my bones" crave and cry out for true wisdom
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Stop putting yourself down. Seriously, it’s not fucking helping you. AT ALL.
I'm almost 40 and this has been literally the hardest thing in the universe to do for my entire life. It doesn't help to do it, but to deny it feels like I'm lying to myself anyway.
I have the absolute worst double standard with this. You drop a pencil and "it's ok friend, it happens, no one is perfect." I drop a pencil and it's "wtf butterfingers jackass, you can't even hold a pencil properly no wonder you're still single." Lol
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I think putting myself down does help me. I was raised by a narcissist intent on making me their reflection. I put myself down to counteract 18 years of narcissistic conditioning. Granted, if you weren't raised to be a narcissist you probably shouldn't do it. I'm an edge case.
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There will never be a time in your life when bad things stop happening, but the same is true of good things. Don’t get too high or too low.
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”
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Knowledge is knowing how to make french fries.
Wisdom is to know when to stop eating them.
I'm not very wise.
You stop eating them when they're gone, duh!
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wrote on last edited by [email protected]You'll often have to choose between being right and being kind.
Make sure you choose what you're willing to live with later.
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It's a really good idea to learn what narcissists and people with BPD are like, because being in a relationship with them is often life destroying, and learning to recognize the warning signs and get out once you begin to realize what they are is the key to not wasting your life on someone who has little regard for you as a human. People with BPD CAN improve, kind of, I still think you should be extremely leery of them, narcissists will wreck your life and make you think it's all your fault, without a qualm, and never improve because they don't care if they hurt you. They will both discard you and then try to lure you back in when they need their emotional "supply" or want something else from you. There is NOTHING you can do for a narcissist, so get out before they make it impossible for you to do so. It's definitely more of a buzz word these days, but if someone you are in a relationship with has chronically toxic and manipulative behavior to you, gaslights you, somehow makes everything your fault, lies, cheats, wrecks your finances, family relationships, etc, they are never going to change. This is not something that they have no control over, it's deliberate.
(BPD people can progress if they actually get a diagnosis and intensive therapy and have insight, but there's no question many of them wreck lives. I am sorry if you are a person suffering from BPD and I do wish for healing for you, it's very difficult, but people do have the right to protect themselves from destructive behaviour, and people have the right to say no to having someone with BPD in their lives who have hurt them irreparably and refuse to get help).
