A skill or knowledge that you have that is typically associated with people of the opposite gender but that you think is odd or stupid that people of your own gender don't have?
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I'm a woman and the manliest thing I do is woodworking, the husband sews clothes (occasionally from fabrics I weave).
I also do bodybuilding, but that's hardly masculine anymore, yay!
That's so cool!
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It’s kind of ridiculous that any skill is gendered.
Men and woman have different mental and physical strengths and weaknesses.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
Intimacy. Emotional intelligence. Not subscribing to "manliness."
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It's absolutely wild that the ability to cry when you need to is considered to be a trait exclusive to women. It's absolutely essential for a healthy mind, and I've gotten quite good at it despite my useless Y chromosome.
Yeah, I used to cry constantly as a kid and got so self conscious about it, thinking it's not something to do as a man or wtv. Now it's basically impossible to cry when I need it, extremely frustrating
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It's absolutely wild that the ability to cry when you need to is considered to be a trait exclusive to women. It's absolutely essential for a healthy mind, and I've gotten quite good at it despite my useless Y chromosome.
it's not really that it's a trait exclusive to women, it's a trait that is beaten out of us (for some of us literally) as we grow up. Different people enforce that onto us for different reasons, and sometimes it is "only women cry" but too often it's "don't be weak"
I've been working on it for a decade and I still can't. I can get close when I think about how upset I am that I can't cry when I'm upset, but I still can't do it, and I had loving and accepting hippie parents ffs
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You've asked women to let you nurse their babies? Many times, no less? I think they're right to not give you the chance
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Nursing. There is still a stereotype that nursing is a women's profession, while men are supposed to become doctors.
Doctors seem to have much less of a gender divide than before in defiance of the stereotype, but nursing is still a profession dominated by women.
That one's really funny to me. Used to be that tending to sick and wounded people was considered a man's job, because the harsh realities of healthcare were considered too much for the fragile female sensibilities.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
I arranged the flowers for my wedding.
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Woodworking is so fun, and it covers an enormous range of activities.
Favorite project?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I'm working on an 8 heddle (the things that make the string go up and down, it determines how complex your pattern can be), 80cm wide loom. They're about 1200 euros to buy, and I really really want one.
It's not really working well, tolerances are pretty tight, but I'm pretty motivated.
Best succesful project is probably an armor stand, handmade for husband's larp armor. Not technically complex, but with a lot of cool hand carving
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I'm working on an 8 heddle (the things that make the string go up and down, it determines how complex your pattern can be), 80cm wide loom. They're about 1200 euros to buy, and I really really want one.
It's not really working well, tolerances are pretty tight, but I'm pretty motivated.
Best succesful project is probably an armor stand, handmade for husband's larp armor. Not technically complex, but with a lot of cool hand carving
That sounds awesome! Do you post on woodworking or diy communities?
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You've asked women to let you nurse their babies? Many times, no less? I think they're right to not give you the chance
Imagine if both parents could nurse, that would be awesome. Don't have to prep the titty juice and remember it every time mom's not around.
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I was going to come here to say the same thing. So many women I’ve dated are surprised at my cooking because it’s stupidly considered to be a women’s skillset.
They're probably not surprised because it's considered to be a woman's skill so much as they are surprised because most man still don't do the cooking. You may be the first guy they've dated who knew how to.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
Cooking. Maintaining a clean household. I'm the cook/baker and cleaner and I'm male.
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They're probably not surprised because it's considered to be a woman's skill so much as they are surprised because most man still don't do the cooking. You may be the first guy they've dated who knew how to.
Very possible. It’s definitely a lot more prevalent now.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
I am great with kids, and regularly get the cops called on me for taking my own nieces and nephew to the park
Because male
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Men and woman have different mental and physical strengths and weaknesses.
While this is true, there is a considerable amount of overlap between men and women, and a great deal of skills and tasks can be done by either gender.
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While this is true, there is a considerable amount of overlap between men and women, and a great deal of skills and tasks can be done by either gender.
Of course, but those differences are the root causes of gendered work. It doesn't get ridiculous, as OP stated, until one says, "Men/women can't do that!" Or suck at whatever.
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Of course, but those differences are the root causes of gendered work. It doesn't get ridiculous, as OP stated, until one says, "Men/women can't do that!" Or suck at whatever.
There is generally a greater range in the physical capabilities of either sex than there are between the sexes, and in our modern world the number of jobs that require brute strength, those traditionally done by men, are progressively fewer simply due to the benefits of advanced machinery.
As for mental tasks, there are almost none that men or women are better at for any other reason than social programming and, again, in those the variability within the sexes are very nearly as great as those between the sexes.
So, at this point, the biggest reason for gendered tasks is tradition, which is generally the stupidest reason to do anything. So it's just as ridiculous to bring gender into the task in the first place.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
Having a barely passable sense of style and cooking, I guess.
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I start with a couple: knitting and crocheting. They are two of the two most useful things I've learned so far, all thanks to my grandmother and one of my aunts. Creating bags to carry things, repairing pants, jackets and backpacks, creating little cushions for my lower back or to support my wrist when I'm in the office, etc.
I still remember with some humor how my grandmother insisted to me that, as a man, I should not be ashamed of knowing how to crochet.
Oddly enough, my sister is the one who doesn't know how to do either those things lol
The amount of male to female ratio of comments on this post is wild. We’ve been tackling the female taboo skills so much in the last few decades. Obviously we’re not done but it’s time for the men to make progress too.
Also I guess I can code. And while it’s hardly weird for a woman nowadays most of my field is still 80-90% male
