What things do you tell yourself about yourself inside of your own head?
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I want to be a better man, not a bitter man.
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The most dangerous lies you will ever hear are the ones we tell ourselves.
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"I'm not lazy, I'm overwhelmed", "everything's safe and sound" and a lovely "just shut the fuck up" for the demanding parts of myself
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I've always been confused by this whole concept of telling myself things about myself. I see it regularly in self-help things - "You just need to tell yourself 'I'm a good person'" or whatever - but it doesn't even begin to make sense to me.
I don't understand how it's supposed to work. I'm not two different people, so I can't tell myself something that I don't already know. If it's true and I can say it to myself, that's necessarily because I already know it. And it's not as if I can bullshit myself without knowing that that's what I'm doing.
Sorry - probably not the sort of response you were hoping for.
wrote last edited by [email protected]You are not two different people but you have different roles throughout your day and life. Like there may be a childish part that loves to do fun stuff or a grown up part that makes sure you properly care of yourself and so on.
Your thoughts can be viewed as a kind of communication between these parts e.g. when you are conflicted because you'd love to watch one more episode of your favorite tv show even though it's late and you know you'll be tired tomorrow. On the decision making progress your different "parts" communicate and sooner or later you come to a decision.
Beside this situational communication there may be also things we internalized e.g. because our parents told us or because we came to the respective conclusion. Like "if I don't do my work properly, my coworkers will be mad".
Sometimes the relation between your "conscious parts" is off or the internalized thoughts are bad for you. That's why it can be good to be more aware of what you're actually thinking. It's just you in there, but a lot of you.
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twice_hatch hates herself and makes it everyone else's problem
we can't let them find out what we're really like
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"OK. I can do it. I can do it. OK. OK. I can do it."
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Somehow, every time I look awefull I tell myself I look great and everytime I actually look great I tell myself I look awefull. It has happened way too often that people asked me if I was sick or not feeling well, when I thought I looked great. And whenever I felt I look like shit, I've gotten the most compliments...
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A cashier at Walmart yesterday said about herself "I'm so smart"
I replied "SMRT".
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You mean s m a r t
(he corrects himself, thus proving his smartness.)
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I'm not supposed to be here, but I am, so let's bring some happiness to others.
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"Give up on being happy. It's just a distraction. If you do not succeed you will be wretched. If you fail you will not survive."
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I tell myself that if the material world is all there is, then we live in a horror show
Yeah imagine all the immaterial horrors we could be experiencing instead
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“I am a good person.”
My Catholic upbringing really ingrained in me the idea that I’m a fundamentally bad person. Turns out, even if you deconvert, those thought patterns will still plague you. So I have to remind myself often that just because I’m not Catholic or who my parents would like me to be, that doesn’t mean I’m doing anything wrong.
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Yeah imagine all the immaterial horrors we could be experiencing instead
This but unironically
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It's not for mixed company.
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I'm not good, intelligent, interesting enough for anyone or anything.
Other people can be proud or confident. It'll just make me arrogant.
As a tall bald white man, I scare everyone.
I need to have more normal interests.
I want to do more things I like, regardless.
I still haven't made up for being a shitty kid/teenager, over 20 years later. Be more selfless.
Don't ask for things, especially help.
I could go on.
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I'm not supposed to be here, but I am, so let's bring some happiness to others.
Genius. You are an amazing person.
Reminds me of a Kurt Vonnugut quote...."Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind."
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Not much of anything, good or bad, at least I don't think so. I've been on the float for some time.
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“It’s gonna be okay?”
“It’s gonna be okay.”
“It’s gonna be okay!”
“Of course it will be okay, I’m the one who’s going to fix it!”
Awesome. Own that shit.
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“I am a good person.”
My Catholic upbringing really ingrained in me the idea that I’m a fundamentally bad person. Turns out, even if you deconvert, those thought patterns will still plague you. So I have to remind myself often that just because I’m not Catholic or who my parents would like me to be, that doesn’t mean I’m doing anything wrong.
Deprogramming is a bitch of a thing to go through. Best of luck on your journey.
