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What's one beauty standard that you don't agree with?

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    I don't get why people try to hide freckles. They're so unique!

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      Tabs over spaces, always

      ... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

      Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

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        Septum rings. They just remind me of cows.

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          Tabs over spaces, always

          ... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

          Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

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          Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

          Do you mean styling baby hairs?

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            I've never dated a woman wearing false nails. The same with botox.

            Also, I'm not seduced by make-up. Contrary to false nails, I don't mind it, I find it useless. I like to look at actual people, and I may even feel attracted to some of them. I'm not interested as much in looking at the fantasized image people may have of themselves.

            I'm also not obsessed with a person looking young, meaning I don't mind grey hair and wrinkles. Why would I? I do wear my own wrinkles with no worries, alongside those (short) grey hair I would have on top of my own big head if I was not completely bald.

            Not considering the body itself, there is a 'sexy' thing that always left me wondering what was so hot about them: high heels.

            I mean, I get it they help shape the legs. But they're also quite obviously less stable to walk with and they seem rather uncomfortable to wear for hours. I would tend to favor the company of a woman able to go out for a long walk with me, be it in nature somewhere or to visit some art gallery or museum in town.

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              Flat stomach

              It looks gross

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                Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.

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                Beards are one of those things that are at least natural and have uses beyond beauty standards (e.g. some men have sensitive skin that easily gets irritated by shaving, and it protects the skin from sunlight, cold and drying out). If you don't go all out styling it or having it impractically long, a trimmed beard is less effort than a clean shave (at least for men who have to shave daily to maintain the clean look).

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                • fujiwood@lemmy.worldF [email protected]

                  Not everyone is beautiful. Most people are average and many are not attractive.

                  Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy and honestly delusional.

                  Edit: Most people are thinking of this when mentioning obesity.

                  https://duckduckgo.com/?q=real+obese+people+&t=h_&iar=images

                  Not this.

                  https://duckduckgo.com/?q=heavy+rugby+players&t=fpas&iar=images

                  Complaining about the BMI scale is a disservice to those who truly need to lose weight for their health.

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                  Average is plenty beautiful, though. At least in countries where 'average' doesn't mean 'severely over- or underweight'.

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                    My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

                    Chasing 'beauty standards', I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn't that what most people really want?

                    If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to 'comparative society'.

                    Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

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                      "Beauty has to be gendered"

                      I think you don't need to "look like a man" or "look like a woman" to be pretty

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                        This is the worst. So damaging to the overall health of everyone.

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                        Yeah, and especially mental health. Not many people are really going to go that far (it's a LOT of effort), but it's so unattainable that even fit people often don't feel good about themselves. Especially if you add all the makeup and doctored photos.

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                          I would’ve said the tanning obsession, for health reasons, but that’s changed over the years.

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                            Symmetry.

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                            I’m still learning to embrace the beauty in asymmetry to this day😭

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                              Not a beauty standard per se, but I don’t like tattoos one bit.

                              It used to be “rebellious” to have a tattoo, but nowadays it seems like everyone has one - so maybe the truly rebellious thing now is not having them.

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                              • notnotmike@programming.devN [email protected]

                                I've always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that's normal enough

                                My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They're so cumbersome, I truly don't understand how people love with them

                                Edit: Thread is locked; it somewhat spiraled from what I originally envisioned for the discussion. Just wanted to dump by thoughts in this edit.

                                I created the thread from a perspective more of pointing out things people do to their bodies in the name of "fashion" or "beauty" that are invasive, cumbersome, or unnecessary, when people should be proud of the bodies they have. Some took this in the same light but others didn't.

                                I would have liked to have a whole discussion about it, communicate my perspective a little more clearly, but by the time I came back after work to view the monster I'd created, the thread was locked. It's a shame that we couldn't have a more mature and nuanced discussion about what it means to follow a beauty trend to everyone, but I suppose it's better that rhetoric not escalate

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                                welcome to the evening news, man creates thread so he can bitch about Black women. more at 5 when he phones back in to say how he's entitled to his opinion.

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                                  Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy

                                  I'd even go so far as to say obesity is unattractive, because it's unhealthy.

                                  Healthy is of course beautiful.

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                                  People speculate that this is one of the reasons why those most opposed to weight loss medications like Ozempic are, in fact, fit people. In a world where most people around you are obese or unhealthy, being fit becomes a way to signal discipline, long-term planning, a healthy lifestyle, competence, and so on. But now that you can get lean without putting in the effort, it dilutes that signal.

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                                    thanks to all the men in the comments providing women with a free incel blocklist. your opinion may be useless, but at least no one appreciates you.

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                                      Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.

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                                      My SO would never let me shave mine. It's also a good way to immediately change my appereance/look 10 years younger if I ever want/need to.

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                                        Flat stomach

                                        It looks gross

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                                        Agreed. Should be bumpy like a washboard.

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                                          People speculate that this is one of the reasons why those most opposed to weight loss medications like Ozempic are, in fact, fit people. In a world where most people around you are obese or unhealthy, being fit becomes a way to signal discipline, long-term planning, a healthy lifestyle, competence, and so on. But now that you can get lean without putting in the effort, it dilutes that signal.

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                                          I've never heard that about Ozempic or had those thoughts about weight loss medications.

                                          The only thing I've ever thought about weight loss medication is "that's probably snake oil" or "that doesn't sound healthy for the body".

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