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What keeps you hopeful?

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    Wait, You guys have hope?

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      Hey, talking to a counselor or a therapist can seriously help. Even just having someone to bounce thoughts off of, totally worth it. Please consider it.

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      I need a job. I'm eating less to afford housing. This isn't a case of "my life is fine and I have feelings". I don't have family willing to help me.

      I'm hungry and worried about becoming homeless, again. Talking to people does not help me or make me feel better. I've tried, I paid a lot of money for therapy, and they all failed me.

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        I was in that state 10 years ago. Something good did happen and I'm happy I stuck around for it. It was worth all the misery. In fact, the misery raises the value of all the good things.

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        Did you do something for it happen? Because sometimes I think "Nothing changes, if nothing changes" is true and but then again I get tired of doing things, I'll spiral back to "I'll just stick around" mood.

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          To hope is to be disappointed. Embrace depressive realism.

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            The awesome people in the world. The loud, mean ones are easier to spot and spew their crap confidently, but the less obnoxious, actually nice people are everywhere.

            Don’t let the media and Internet fool you.

            PS: And if you can help a decent human in need, please do.

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            Getting involved in activities has really helped me see there are a ton of folks out there still doing amazing and positive things.

            I've started playing music with other people again and we've played 2 small public shows and some events where we just play for each other and everyone has been very supportive and we have a great time.

            I also volunteered at the wild animal rescue this year, and it's hard to choose if the people or animals are more amazing. Well, the people are much friendlier than the animals, but seeing the things they can come back from really can feel like witnessing miracles sometimes.

            But that's twice a week I get to hang out with people that help me grows, support me being a better and more rounded person, and we forget about outside troubles and put everything into a positive activity together. It's been a major help this year.

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              Rice and beans curry: Pinto beans, basmati rice, diced tomatoes, chopped spinach, garlic, cumin, coriander, butter, habanero sauce

              Cook the beans for however many hours. Add the rest of the stuff plus a little less water than you'd normally need for the amount of rice since there's some in the tomatoes. Bring it to a boil, let it simmer for however long it takes your rice to cook.

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                goth latinas

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                  My life is pretty easy all things considered, so it's hard to lose hope in my own future wellbeing... When it comes to the destiny of the world, I have more or less lost hope for at least many regions of the world, and believe their self-destruction (which will also cause pain and suffering to others, ofc) is inevitable and perhaps necessary for the human race as whole. Hopefully the world isn't completely fucked, but if it is, well then... "we" made our bed so now we have to lie in it? And, of course, the most important pillar of my emotional stability when everything seems dark is my belief in God and the Day of Judgment, and going to sleep every night knowing I did my best, I controlled my impulses and treated people politely and generously. I know many of you think it's nonsense and won't even give it a try but the benefits for any deeply existential and sensitive person are undeniable, I'd say. 👍

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                    Hey, talking to a counselor or a therapist can seriously help. Even just having someone to bounce thoughts off of, totally worth it. Please consider it.

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                    Idk where the user above is, but mental health is just so fucking expensive in the US. I have a good job, but it's hard for me to stomach a $150 bill for each appointment (average price I've found). I've started and stopped quickly after so many times because it's really hard for me to rationalize draining my HSA account for something that might never end up benefiting me.

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                      i don't know. i might have a dark sense of humor, or maybe i am just a bad person, so the world goes to shit is somewhat amusing to watch. which is a terrible thing to say, because so so many people will be/is suffering because of all this.

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                      Sorry to get too political, but take Trump for example. It's horrifying and depressing watching him and his rabid cult.

                      But...I just love the memes it can generate.

                      Maybe shitty of me to say/think, but you have to find humor somewhere in life. Make sour candy out of your lemons when you can't make lemonade.

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                        For me? The fact that life always changes.

                        A lot of times, I really really hate change. When I have a good thing going, the possibility of change makes me really anxious and sometimes depressed.

                        But when I'm in a bad spot? It's really really fucking hard, but I know eventually it will change. Will it change for the better or change for the worse? You can't know, but there's at least a chance that your situation will change some day, and there is a chance it will get better. It has got me going through some really very incredibly dark times where I really wanted to end my life. I still struggle with that now and then, but it's always good to have the thought of chance in the back of your mind.

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                          Hikes and bike rides help me stay positive.

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                            Wait, You guys have hope?

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                            Why do you think I'm asking? 😅

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                              We're going through a shaky patch in the UK right now, with fascist wannabes like Tommy Robinson and Nigel Farage rising in popularity. It's sad because I thought we were better than that but then Brexit happened and I wouldn't be surprised if our next government was a Reform majority. And if they get in they'll do everything they can to secure power forever.

                              What keeps me hopeful, in the face of this shitstorm, is the sense of community in my neighbourhood. People on my street look out for each other and support each other.

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                              My short term goal in life right now is to move from where I live to somewhere with a greater sense of community that isn't based around being old and white

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                                Wait, You guys have hope?

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                                I try not to.

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                                  Did you do something for it happen? Because sometimes I think "Nothing changes, if nothing changes" is true and but then again I get tired of doing things, I'll spiral back to "I'll just stick around" mood.

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                                  Yes, I changed a lot of things, but I also met a lot of wonderful people that made my life much better.
                                  I do believe that you have to take action. I kinda love being lazy, but I never feel particularly good after an entire day on the couch. The more I do, the more I accomplish, the better I feel.

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                                    Looks creamy

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                                    Ha, yeah, New England IPA style is very juicy. Looks very similar to OJ.

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                                      Still illegal federally. A DEA agent still has the legal authority to arrest you (although, I doubt a jury would actually convict you). A non-citizen caught smoking weed can be denied citizenship if they try to naturalize. And they could face deportation proceedings. Even if you naturalize, if they found out you lied about the smoking weed, the administration could try to denaturalize you, especially this current administration would definitely attempt to.

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                                      Really didn't oversell the username, huh?

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                                        Evil destroys itself. Even if all good is destroyed it can be relearned and rebuilt as it exists in our hearts

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                                          My wife flashing me when we're alone for a moment.

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                                          Be sure to flash her back!

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