What’s an unspoken rule that absolutely everyone should know, but most people clearly don’t?
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If your seat reclines in an airplane, you have every right to recline it except during takeoff and landing. This one is controversial.
I’m 6’6” and my knees push against the seat in front of me even when not reclined.
I have a right to be able to travel without you causing me discomfort, and that’s a bit stronger than you having the privilege of getting more comfortable.
If you are the kind of person who asserts this “right” when someone asks you not to, you’re kind of a dick.
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Looks like it's time to test the waters of Lemmy. This one has generally gone over poorly on reddit every time it's come up, so let's find out how it does here:
What about people who have a high degree of difficulty getting around? A good friend of mine has a herniated disc and a bunch of neurological issues as a result of a car accident he was in, he walks with one of those rolling walkers at a very slow speed grunting and groaning the entire time, and that was at the best of times. He barely manages shopping by using those electric cart things, but with all the reaching and bending he has to do, by the time he got back out to the car he was sweating like crazy and in obvious pain, even with my help. The idea of expecting someone in that situation to endure another couple minutes of horrendous pain just to make someone else's life very slightly more convenient by bringing his cart back up to the store even from the handicapped parking spaces strikes me as absurd, but he can't always get help with his shopping so I know he has to sometimes.
I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go 'No, if you don't bring your cart back you're a BAD PERSON no matter what!'.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Likewise, "don't talk loudly on your phone in public" is a rule everyone should know, but no one's going to judge you if you're talking loudly on your phone to 911 because you just saw someone get hit by a car.
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Don't make phone calls on speaker when in public. Not even if you hold it up to your ear.
People that do this are inviting you to join the call. Announce yourself and ask what the caller is wearing.
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Looks like it's time to test the waters of Lemmy. This one has generally gone over poorly on reddit every time it's come up, so let's find out how it does here:
What about people who have a high degree of difficulty getting around? A good friend of mine has a herniated disc and a bunch of neurological issues as a result of a car accident he was in, he walks with one of those rolling walkers at a very slow speed grunting and groaning the entire time, and that was at the best of times. He barely manages shopping by using those electric cart things, but with all the reaching and bending he has to do, by the time he got back out to the car he was sweating like crazy and in obvious pain, even with my help. The idea of expecting someone in that situation to endure another couple minutes of horrendous pain just to make someone else's life very slightly more convenient by bringing his cart back up to the store even from the handicapped parking spaces strikes me as absurd, but he can't always get help with his shopping so I know he has to sometimes.
I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go 'No, if you don't bring your cart back you're a BAD PERSON no matter what!'.
The major problem with this kind of pattern is you're looking to establish edge-case boundaries, rather than the most broadly applicable standard. The attempt to document and "solve for every case just leads to overly complicated and disingenuous discussions. Our fascination and obsession with "accuracy and precision" as applied to human behavior is one that breaks down very quickly unless you're attempting to be hyper-rational, at which point, any rules assigned to human behavior break down.
In short, "use your best judgement."
Note: I think that we have passed the golden moment where "human judgement" had any kind of value. There was a long time where we (all humanity) were stumbling in the dark, and we have now stepped back into that cave. But for a brief, shining moment, the percentage of people who had critical reasoning skills was growing, and it was majestic.
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
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Looks like it's time to test the waters of Lemmy. This one has generally gone over poorly on reddit every time it's come up, so let's find out how it does here:
What about people who have a high degree of difficulty getting around? A good friend of mine has a herniated disc and a bunch of neurological issues as a result of a car accident he was in, he walks with one of those rolling walkers at a very slow speed grunting and groaning the entire time, and that was at the best of times. He barely manages shopping by using those electric cart things, but with all the reaching and bending he has to do, by the time he got back out to the car he was sweating like crazy and in obvious pain, even with my help. The idea of expecting someone in that situation to endure another couple minutes of horrendous pain just to make someone else's life very slightly more convenient by bringing his cart back up to the store even from the handicapped parking spaces strikes me as absurd, but he can't always get help with his shopping so I know he has to sometimes.
I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go 'No, if you don't bring your cart back you're a BAD PERSON no matter what!'.
There are always outliers and exceptions to rules, they are usually not who/what is being discussed lol
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Looks like it's time to test the waters of Lemmy. This one has generally gone over poorly on reddit every time it's come up, so let's find out how it does here:
What about people who have a high degree of difficulty getting around? A good friend of mine has a herniated disc and a bunch of neurological issues as a result of a car accident he was in, he walks with one of those rolling walkers at a very slow speed grunting and groaning the entire time, and that was at the best of times. He barely manages shopping by using those electric cart things, but with all the reaching and bending he has to do, by the time he got back out to the car he was sweating like crazy and in obvious pain, even with my help. The idea of expecting someone in that situation to endure another couple minutes of horrendous pain just to make someone else's life very slightly more convenient by bringing his cart back up to the store even from the handicapped parking spaces strikes me as absurd, but he can't always get help with his shopping so I know he has to sometimes.
I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go 'No, if you don't bring your cart back you're a BAD PERSON no matter what!'.
Thats like saying ik murders bad but what if the guy you killled kidnapped your whole family and held them hostage, like nah shit well consider it being okay in that case, but that is a fringe case far from common
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Zipper merging.
If your lane is closing ahead, it is better for everyone in traffic if you drive all the way to the end of the lane and cut in at the last moment.
Note that this does not apply to exit lanes. The basic rule is if late merging blocks someone from going somewhere, merge early. Otherwise, merge as late as you can.
Zipper merge isn't a thing where I live. It's advised in the provincial drivers' handbook to merge early. Some folks from other provinces are trying to change things but it's too ingrained, been this way for as long as I can remember.
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When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.
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If you're boarding a train or bus let people exit first instead of squeezing your fat ass past everyone to get a good seat
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
You've got my vote for president.
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Looks like it's time to test the waters of Lemmy. This one has generally gone over poorly on reddit every time it's come up, so let's find out how it does here:
What about people who have a high degree of difficulty getting around? A good friend of mine has a herniated disc and a bunch of neurological issues as a result of a car accident he was in, he walks with one of those rolling walkers at a very slow speed grunting and groaning the entire time, and that was at the best of times. He barely manages shopping by using those electric cart things, but with all the reaching and bending he has to do, by the time he got back out to the car he was sweating like crazy and in obvious pain, even with my help. The idea of expecting someone in that situation to endure another couple minutes of horrendous pain just to make someone else's life very slightly more convenient by bringing his cart back up to the store even from the handicapped parking spaces strikes me as absurd, but he can't always get help with his shopping so I know he has to sometimes.
I think rules, written or otherwise, should have exceptions to account for extreme circumstances like this, but a lot of online people just go 'No, if you don't bring your cart back you're a BAD PERSON no matter what!'.
The carts go back in the corral so they don't damage other people's cars, not for convenience. I'm sorry your friend is hurt but my property shouldn't be damaged because of that. And nobody's going to judge him if he leaves it next the handicapped parking space he was in. Anyway, all the grocery stores by me will literally send someone to push the cart and put your groceries in the car for you if you're unable. The cashiers will even straight up ask if they think you need help.
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The carts go back in the corral so they don't damage other people's cars, not for convenience. I'm sorry your friend is hurt but my property shouldn't be damaged because of that. And nobody's going to judge him if he leaves it next the handicapped parking space he was in. Anyway, all the grocery stores by me will literally send someone to push the cart and put your groceries in the car for you if you're unable. The cashiers will even straight up ask if they think you need help.
He always puts them in a place where they won't be in the way of other cars, lifts a wheel up onto a curb or something so it won't be blown around by the wind, etc. He is not damaging anyone's property.
Also I've been with him to help him shop several times and never seen anyone offer (and he says he they never offer when he's by himself), so maybe it's different where you live? shrug That sounds pretty great for his situation tho.
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
I also hate when people get angry you didn’t follow their advice. Sometimes their advice was horse shit to begin with anyway. Just because someone seeks advice doesn’t mean they’re obligated to follow it. At least in my case, thank God I didn’t.
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Don't make phone calls on speaker when in public. Not even if you hold it up to your ear.
The worst are people who do that in the bathroom. Like, hello, I'm trying to jerk off in peace here, stop polluting the air with your banal conversation.
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Thats like saying ik murders bad but what if the guy you killled kidnapped your whole family and held them hostage, like nah shit well consider it being okay in that case, but that is a fringe case far from common
Equating not putting the shopping cart back with murder is a bit fucking hyperbolic. One of those ends the life of another person and the other very slightly inconveniences them at most. And I now I can't even take you seriously enough to read the rest of your admittedly-short post after a statement like that.
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When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.
And don’t walk in the middle of the parking lot where the cars drive. Coming from the sparsely populated Midwestern US and moving to densely populated Los Angeles, CA I don’t understand how nobody here fucking knows this (people here have zero self-awareness).
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If you're boarding a train or bus let people exit first instead of squeezing your fat ass past everyone to get a good seat
It's the human equivalent of when dogs want you to throw the ball without taking it from their mouth. People need to exit to make room for people to enter.
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There are always outliers and exceptions to rules, they are usually not who/what is being discussed lol
wrote on last edited by [email protected]You say usually, but I've seen quite a few people (on the internet and off) who like to make blanket statements like 'Anyone who doesn't put the shopping cart back is a shit human being', so it frequently is what is being discussed, and those folks have to be reminded that the world is not as black and white as they'd like to imagine.
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Zipper merge isn't a thing where I live. It's advised in the provincial drivers' handbook to merge early. Some folks from other provinces are trying to change things but it's too ingrained, been this way for as long as I can remember.
Merging early when at speed makes sense, because you still have a lot of lane left before you have to merge - less pressure, more time, less likely to make a bad decision.
Merging late during slow traffic makes sense, as it allows you to align with gaps in the traffic and for the traffic to make space for you without having to actually stop.
