What’s an unspoken rule that absolutely everyone should know, but most people clearly don’t?
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
I also hate when people get angry you didn’t follow their advice. Sometimes their advice was horse shit to begin with anyway. Just because someone seeks advice doesn’t mean they’re obligated to follow it. At least in my case, thank God I didn’t.
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Don't make phone calls on speaker when in public. Not even if you hold it up to your ear.
The worst are people who do that in the bathroom. Like, hello, I'm trying to jerk off in peace here, stop polluting the air with your banal conversation.
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Thats like saying ik murders bad but what if the guy you killled kidnapped your whole family and held them hostage, like nah shit well consider it being okay in that case, but that is a fringe case far from common
Equating not putting the shopping cart back with murder is a bit fucking hyperbolic. One of those ends the life of another person and the other very slightly inconveniences them at most. And I now I can't even take you seriously enough to read the rest of your admittedly-short post after a statement like that.
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When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.
And don’t walk in the middle of the parking lot where the cars drive. Coming from the sparsely populated Midwestern US and moving to densely populated Los Angeles, CA I don’t understand how nobody here fucking knows this (people here have zero self-awareness).
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If you're boarding a train or bus let people exit first instead of squeezing your fat ass past everyone to get a good seat
It's the human equivalent of when dogs want you to throw the ball without taking it from their mouth. People need to exit to make room for people to enter.
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There are always outliers and exceptions to rules, they are usually not who/what is being discussed lol
wrote on last edited by [email protected]You say usually, but I've seen quite a few people (on the internet and off) who like to make blanket statements like 'Anyone who doesn't put the shopping cart back is a shit human being', so it frequently is what is being discussed, and those folks have to be reminded that the world is not as black and white as they'd like to imagine.
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Zipper merge isn't a thing where I live. It's advised in the provincial drivers' handbook to merge early. Some folks from other provinces are trying to change things but it's too ingrained, been this way for as long as I can remember.
Merging early when at speed makes sense, because you still have a lot of lane left before you have to merge - less pressure, more time, less likely to make a bad decision.
Merging late during slow traffic makes sense, as it allows you to align with gaps in the traffic and for the traffic to make space for you without having to actually stop.
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When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.
I miss Costco having one-way aisles during COVID, it significantly improved the shopping experience.
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When it’s close to closing time, get out of the store. If you have items you want to buy, leave yourself enough time to check out before the store closes. If you’re bringing a full cart to the register 30 seconds before closing time, you’re an asshole.
The employees have probably been there for 7+ hours, and still have to clean, restock, etc. They don’t want to be there for one second longer than necessary. Don’t be the reason they get home even later than usual.
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The major problem with this kind of pattern is you're looking to establish edge-case boundaries, rather than the most broadly applicable standard. The attempt to document and "solve for every case just leads to overly complicated and disingenuous discussions. Our fascination and obsession with "accuracy and precision" as applied to human behavior is one that breaks down very quickly unless you're attempting to be hyper-rational, at which point, any rules assigned to human behavior break down.
In short, "use your best judgement."
Note: I think that we have passed the golden moment where "human judgement" had any kind of value. There was a long time where we (all humanity) were stumbling in the dark, and we have now stepped back into that cave. But for a brief, shining moment, the percentage of people who had critical reasoning skills was growing, and it was majestic.
What I'm looking to do is point out that the world isn't ever black-and-white, that the broadly applicable standards - while I agree that they are in fact broadly applicable - are never universal, and that edge-cases exist everywhere and need to be accounted for or the world is just a worse place for everyone. I'm not saying 'your solution must handle solve for every case', I'm saying 'be aware that your solution needs to be flexible enough to account the fact that the real world is messy and things are never as simple as you'd like to believe.'
I am specifically, as you say, advocating for the use of best judgement over moral absolutes (I have heard it said, in person and online, that anyone who doesn't put a shopping cart back no matter the reason is a shit human being, f.ex, so there are definitely people out there slinging moral absolutes on the subject of shopping carts.)
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Unfortunately, the current capitalist system in place for most of the world is incompatible with most people to varying degrees. This leads to people not sleeping as much as they should, which makes people stupid and behave like dicks.
I mean there are lots of reasons for people to be stupid/be a dick; the point is to rise above that shit. I get it tho, I was born in the 70s so I've been watching this world backslide into shit for nigh on 50 years now, it just keeps bombarding you with more and more shit. But if you let 'fuck it I'm tired' be an excuse then you're not even trying anymore.
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Yeah they want people to fight each other instead of them. What plane situation you talking about?
A combination of the TSA (security theater; jump through a bunch of bullshit hoops just so you feel safe without actually making you any safer) and airlines cramming more people into the same amount of space to increase their profits.
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When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.
And don't look at me like I'm the monster when I push your unattended cart out of my way.
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When it’s close to closing time, get out of the store. If you have items you want to buy, leave yourself enough time to check out before the store closes. If you’re bringing a full cart to the register 30 seconds before closing time, you’re an asshole.
The employees have probably been there for 7+ hours, and still have to clean, restock, etc. They don’t want to be there for one second longer than necessary. Don’t be the reason they get home even later than usual.
Totally this. I’ve never left a store after closing. It was close sometimes, like when I went in at 54‘ and grabbed the stuff and was out at 57‘ but still
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If you're in a drive on the left or right side of the road country, that goes for bike and walking paths too. Eg in Australia, keep left on footpaths.
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What I'm looking to do is point out that the world isn't ever black-and-white, that the broadly applicable standards - while I agree that they are in fact broadly applicable - are never universal, and that edge-cases exist everywhere and need to be accounted for or the world is just a worse place for everyone. I'm not saying 'your solution must handle solve for every case', I'm saying 'be aware that your solution needs to be flexible enough to account the fact that the real world is messy and things are never as simple as you'd like to believe.'
I am specifically, as you say, advocating for the use of best judgement over moral absolutes (I have heard it said, in person and online, that anyone who doesn't put a shopping cart back no matter the reason is a shit human being, f.ex, so there are definitely people out there slinging moral absolutes on the subject of shopping carts.)
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I highly doubt you have heard a significant number of people who would genuinely say "disabled people who don't put their carts back are shit people."
The number of people who would unironically say that is such a small edge case that it's not necessary to talk about them when you say things like "everyone knows that disabilities result in different needs and moral responsibilities," just like it's not necessary to mention disability when you generalize and say "people who don't put their carts back are shit people."
Edge cases don't have to be accounted for in every conversation, not everything is a court of law.
This isn't really any more deep than "only a sith deals in absolutes"
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Don't make phone calls on speaker when in public. Not even if you hold it up to your ear.
Similarly, watching videos/listening to music on full volume in public without headphones
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When you bring your vehicle to a mechanic, please clean your nasty shit out first. It ain't gotta be totally perfect, but hell, clean your own nasty junk and bug infestation out first.
Side note: Please make sure to properly disable your car alarm before getting your oil changed. I can guarantee you that the guy working in the pit really appreciates his (/her) eardrums, and the pit is a literal echo chamber.
You want a sledgehammer to the bottom of your transmission? Sure, just let your stupid ass car alarm go off in the shop, go ahead and test your luck with the mechanic in the pit that probably already has a migraine..
Edit: 3rd respect for mechanics. Please God don't sit in your vehicle running the air conditioner while waiting for an oil change, oil gets fucking hot yo! Please let your vehicle cool off, there's a damn fine reason they have an air conditioned waiting room.
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There's really only two of them:
- Don't be stupid.
- Don't be a dick.
They're not even unspoken, people say them all the time, but some people just don't pay attention I guess.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]You're absolutely correct, but lol this is really weird given your other comments in this post.
Why didn't you clarify about edge cases, like disabilities?
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People that do this are inviting you to join the call. Announce yourself and ask what the caller is wearing.
Uh... Khakis.
