Let delivery drivers keep their
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I hate this heteronormative bullshit that topping is the same as domming
Wait, can you not be a hetero top or a hetero dom?
I... don't see how it is heteronormative to use an image that evokes sexual acts... to... imply a sexual interpretation of a typo.
Its... just a way to use a more SFW, recognizable meme.
Like, they could have used ... whats her name, Anhka, from that Animal Crossing porn anim that went viral a few years back, very obviously topping someone... but that would have been a lot more explicit.
Lois is also like, in the act of suiting up, with a non plussed, unenthusiastic expression, implying that ... there is a job-like aspect to this, yet another dumb charade/performance demanded by society to keep participating in it.
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Education would be more effective than complaining.
As a straight, isn't all this is missing for "topping" a strap-on? As in the "top" is usually doing the penetrating?
Its actually somewhat confusing.
Sometimes, to some people... topping just means you are literally, physically on top of them.
Sometimes, it means you are doing the physical penetrating.
Sometimes, top/bottom are the same as dom/sub... to mean authoritative vs submissive...
But you have terms like power bottom, and service top.
A power bottom is physically underneath the partner, but doing almost all the work, and is often also in the authority position.
A service top is physically on top, and/or doing most of the strenuous/penetrative physical work... but they are actually submissive, subervient to the other partner, who is authoritatively directing all their actions.
The vocab for all this is still quite varied and usually only standardizes fully amongst geographically constrained areas, as you would expect with what is basically a set of slang terms.
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It doesn’t bother me one bit if people want to use a word to mean something different to them. It changes nothing in my relationships what they do or say.
What I do hate is your complaining about a group of people based on their sexuality. Seems so bitter.
"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious
if you don’t know a word, you can just look it up yknow
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"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious
if you don’t know a word, you can just look it up yknow
You're the only person here saying that.
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You're the only person here saying that.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]and it’s only you who’s saying that ryedaft was "complaining about a group of people based on sexuality"
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and it’s only you who’s saying that ryedaft was "complaining about a group of people based on sexuality"
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Oh please, it's clearly obvious there is nothing heteronormative about hetero people using topping to mean something else. Peoples having a different meaning is not the same as enforcing themselves as the default, it's not even tangentially related.
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Wait, can you not be a hetero top or a hetero dom?
I... don't see how it is heteronormative to use an image that evokes sexual acts... to... imply a sexual interpretation of a typo.
Its... just a way to use a more SFW, recognizable meme.
Like, they could have used ... whats her name, Anhka, from that Animal Crossing porn anim that went viral a few years back, very obviously topping someone... but that would have been a lot more explicit.
Lois is also like, in the act of suiting up, with a non plussed, unenthusiastic expression, implying that ... there is a job-like aspect to this, yet another dumb charade/performance demanded by society to keep participating in it.
Give her a strap on and it's fine
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Oh please, it's clearly obvious there is nothing heteronormative about hetero people using topping to mean something else. Peoples having a different meaning is not the same as enforcing themselves as the default, it's not even tangentially related.
Fwiw, I'm hetero and having a girl on top feels like they have more, if not all, control.
I never subscribed to homosexual dichotomy of tops and bottoms. Long ago, I learnt that there were "active" and "passive" roles.
I guess it's generational. Like "old" terms that sound antique or even "wrong".
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It doesn’t bother me one bit if people want to use a word to mean something different to them. It changes nothing in my relationships what they do or say.
What I do hate is your complaining about a group of people based on their sexuality. Seems so bitter.
It's heteronormative if you equate topping with being dominant.
Dancing is typically heteronormative because there's a standard (that's enforced for competitive dancing) that the man leads and the woman follows. And you can absolutely follow this as a same sex couple by assigning femme and butch roles and having the femme follow and the butch lead. But you can also switch it up, even while dancing.
When someone talks about heteronorms it's not about straight people. Of course toxic masculinity and ditto femininity is sad but the goal is not to reproduce that for queers, not too change what the straights are up to.
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"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious
if you don’t know a word, you can just look it up yknow
"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious
But does "heteronormative bullshit" imply that?
What if they'd said "I'm tired of this homosexual bullshit that glitter goes everywhere?"
That definitely reads as "I believe it's the fault of the queer people" to me, do you believe otherwise?
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Its actually somewhat confusing.
Sometimes, to some people... topping just means you are literally, physically on top of them.
Sometimes, it means you are doing the physical penetrating.
Sometimes, top/bottom are the same as dom/sub... to mean authoritative vs submissive...
But you have terms like power bottom, and service top.
A power bottom is physically underneath the partner, but doing almost all the work, and is often also in the authority position.
A service top is physically on top, and/or doing most of the strenuous/penetrative physical work... but they are actually submissive, subervient to the other partner, who is authoritatively directing all their actions.
The vocab for all this is still quite varied and usually only standardizes fully amongst geographically constrained areas, as you would expect with what is basically a set of slang terms.
Excellent answer.
I'd argue that the outfit in the meme is generally considered a Dom outfit which is what triggers the start of this thread.
Although inaccurate it makes the point for the joke. A TOP image would be much more vulgar and hard to find a clean image for.
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The safe word is "banana."
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Beer in the US is too cold. That is the crime here.
Here I am, putting my beer in the freezer because I forgot to resupply the beers in the fridge. In fact, I'll go stock up right now. Thanks.
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I will never tip a delivery driver. But he can fuck my butt i guess
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shit, thanks. I was being a bottom
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"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious
But does "heteronormative bullshit" imply that?
What if they'd said "I'm tired of this homosexual bullshit that glitter goes everywhere?"
That definitely reads as "I believe it's the fault of the queer people" to me, do you believe otherwise?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Heteronormative != heterosexual
I fail to see any issue with the post (like fucking everyone associates topping with dom that doesn't mean it has to be, and the image works), but it's decidedly a complaint about social norms rather than a group. Even if I think it's not a valid complaint because wtf does it have to do with heteronormativity.
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Heteronormative != heterosexual
I fail to see any issue with the post (like fucking everyone associates topping with dom that doesn't mean it has to be, and the image works), but it's decidedly a complaint about social norms rather than a group. Even if I think it's not a valid complaint because wtf does it have to do with heteronormativity.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I understand heteronormative to be about social norms centered around heterosexuality, and how that is the dominant cultural factor.
With that understanding, viewing things through a heteronormative lens is to exclude or diminish the views of non-heterosexual folks.
Then "heteronormative bullshit" is comparable to "heterosexual bullshit".
I might've missed some nuance - this is not my forte. However my naive understanding is that saying this was commentary on "cultural norms" is similar to saying to civil war was about "states rights". States rights to do what? (Slavery) Cultural norms centered around what? (Heterosexuality)
I definitely agree with you re: comment being confusing - it seems to largely be a complaint about folks being vanilla and not knowing the nuances of vocabulary describing relationships, which affects folks regardless of sexual orientation.
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top 1.9% of only fans
This is a complete aside, but does anyone feel like putting "top 2%" sounds better than "1.9"?
Like when I hear top 2 percent I think wow this person is somewhere between 1.5 and 2% but 1.9 makes me think 1.90 to 1.99.
Maybe it's just me.
I was going to say. I see so many touting this. Does OF tell everyone they're top 1.9%?
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top 1.9% of only fans
This is a complete aside, but does anyone feel like putting "top 2%" sounds better than "1.9"?
Like when I hear top 2 percent I think wow this person is somewhere between 1.5 and 2% but 1.9 makes me think 1.90 to 1.99.
Maybe it's just me.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]That’s the idea behind significant figures in high school science
1.9 is more precise because it has 2 significant figures
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I understand heteronormative to be about social norms centered around heterosexuality, and how that is the dominant cultural factor.
With that understanding, viewing things through a heteronormative lens is to exclude or diminish the views of non-heterosexual folks.
Then "heteronormative bullshit" is comparable to "heterosexual bullshit".
I might've missed some nuance - this is not my forte. However my naive understanding is that saying this was commentary on "cultural norms" is similar to saying to civil war was about "states rights". States rights to do what? (Slavery) Cultural norms centered around what? (Heterosexuality)
I definitely agree with you re: comment being confusing - it seems to largely be a complaint about folks being vanilla and not knowing the nuances of vocabulary describing relationships, which affects folks regardless of sexual orientation.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Hmm, as someone relatively deep into lgbtq issues (though particularly trans issues), I'd say the term itself is perhaps a bit misleading. The way I understand it and see it used is that it's about heterosexuality and also gender norms within that traditional heterosexual relationship (so some people think that even in a homosexual relationship there's always "a man" (dominant) and "a woman" (submissive)).
In that sense (to directly relate to the post) a dominant woman in a relationship with a submissive man would actually go against heteronormativity a bit.
On second thought I guess I can see the relation though, in the sense that the traditional "man is dominant in a hetero relationship" combined with the fact that by default most men probably mostly top could make someone see "topping is considered dominant" as reinforcing those traditional relationship norms. Still feels very overreactive by the original commenter but eh.
