And they even get a seizure when you take their ipads away
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App suggestions make it so hard to keep kids away from slop. I started out only letting my toddler watch PBS Kids programs and a few other educational programs, but then your kids start seeing suggestions for all sorts of shlock, and they want to see the show with the superhero kitties is (it's called Super Kitties and it is garbage). God help you if you try to watch something on YouTube; every suggested video is either low-quality home movies of people playing with toys (which is like crack to toddlers or weird shit like this that absolutely shouldn't be on YouTube Kids but often is anyway.
Set YouTube kid to only show selected channels. My kid is actually bored of youtube now.
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Mechanisms of manipulation and control are getting more and more sophisticated and it's really fucking sad.
Its like watching someone overdose. It sucks. And we don't have language about it, even shitty language, like we do for drugs, so it's hard to even talk to people about.
we have it. but its too technical and people seem to have developed an aversion to technical sounding things.
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App suggestions make it so hard to keep kids away from slop. I started out only letting my toddler watch PBS Kids programs and a few other educational programs, but then your kids start seeing suggestions for all sorts of shlock, and they want to see the show with the superhero kitties is (it's called Super Kitties and it is garbage). God help you if you try to watch something on YouTube; every suggested video is either low-quality home movies of people playing with toys (which is like crack to toddlers or weird shit like this that absolutely shouldn't be on YouTube Kids but often is anyway.
So don't give a tablet then. Or if you do, don't have Apps like that. Get an wifi only android tablet, install VLC and specific shows and games. Real games and real shows. Not short form shit or bs mobile "games".
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Set YouTube kid to only show selected channels. My kid is actually bored of youtube now.
Holy shit, I did not know you could do that. That is going to be life changing.
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So don't give a tablet then. Or if you do, don't have Apps like that. Get an wifi only android tablet, install VLC and specific shows and games. Real games and real shows. Not short form shit or bs mobile "games".
I don't give him a tablet, he only watches at home on TV (or a phone on very long car trips). I don't know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids, and even if you do have the time, things like that fall apart eventually. My wife and I managed to avoid most crap TV until we wound up in a hotel room with two dead phones and a fussy toddler, and that's when we finally caved and put on Nick Jr. For a while, we managed to convince him that Paw Patrol was only available in hotels, but eventually he saw the thumbnail for it when we were trying to show him Dora the Explorer, and that beautiful lie finally died.
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I don't give him a tablet, he only watches at home on TV (or a phone on very long car trips). I don't know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids, and even if you do have the time, things like that fall apart eventually. My wife and I managed to avoid most crap TV until we wound up in a hotel room with two dead phones and a fussy toddler, and that's when we finally caved and put on Nick Jr. For a while, we managed to convince him that Paw Patrol was only available in hotels, but eventually he saw the thumbnail for it when we were trying to show him Dora the Explorer, and that beautiful lie finally died.
Paw Patrol is a regular length cartoon with a real, albeit basic, plot. I'm talking Cocomelon or Five Finger Family or other short form shit.
I don’t know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids
No. Curating what your child consumes, both dietary and cultural, is the basic requirement raising a child. It takes very little tech skills to download files and load them on a device. Even just an old school portable dvd player and a disc wallet is preferable. The point isn't to cut all media, but to cut the short form shit the drains attention. Even a show with a plot that takes ~22 minute to get to the end teaches some degree of patience.
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People when kids screech at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids run around at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids use an ipad at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
There's no winning here. Children just aren't allowed to exist.
We are the exception because we most definitely weren't like that at all as a kid. /s
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App suggestions make it so hard to keep kids away from slop. I started out only letting my toddler watch PBS Kids programs and a few other educational programs, but then your kids start seeing suggestions for all sorts of shlock, and they want to see the show with the superhero kitties is (it's called Super Kitties and it is garbage). God help you if you try to watch something on YouTube; every suggested video is either low-quality home movies of people playing with toys (which is like crack to toddlers or weird shit like this that absolutely shouldn't be on YouTube Kids but often is anyway.
So them put some effort into acquiring good health media for your kid to watch and put that into the tablet and remove all other apps so they can only engage with content that has been pre veted by you, parenting takes effort
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Paw Patrol is a regular length cartoon with a real, albeit basic, plot. I'm talking Cocomelon or Five Finger Family or other short form shit.
I don’t know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids
No. Curating what your child consumes, both dietary and cultural, is the basic requirement raising a child. It takes very little tech skills to download files and load them on a device. Even just an old school portable dvd player and a disc wallet is preferable. The point isn't to cut all media, but to cut the short form shit the drains attention. Even a show with a plot that takes ~22 minute to get to the end teaches some degree of patience.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Paw Patrol is empty calories. It doesn't teach emotional regulation like Daniel Tiger, or shapes and colors like Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, or numbers, letters, and problem solving like Sesame Street. It's not harmful like Cocomelon, and I've accepted that my son loves it, but that doesn't mean it's good.
Curating what your child consumes, both dietary and cultural, is the basic requirement raising a child.
Yeah, I curate what my child consumes, thanks, I just don't have the time or energy to create a bespoke tablet of torrented kids shows to present him, or track down a circa-2002 portable DVD player and start a new physical media collection. If you've got that kind of free time, great, but I've just got to use the apps I've got, accept that he's going to want to watch some shows that I find worthless, and make sure he doesn't consume anything actively harmful.
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I don't give him a tablet, he only watches at home on TV (or a phone on very long car trips). I don't know a toddler parent that has the time to download a curated media library for their kids, and even if you do have the time, things like that fall apart eventually. My wife and I managed to avoid most crap TV until we wound up in a hotel room with two dead phones and a fussy toddler, and that's when we finally caved and put on Nick Jr. For a while, we managed to convince him that Paw Patrol was only available in hotels, but eventually he saw the thumbnail for it when we were trying to show him Dora the Explorer, and that beautiful lie finally died.
Saying downloaded media or physical media collections are hard and fall apart is illogical considering that's how everyone on the planet used to engage with media before internet streaming became such a huge thing
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Saying downloaded media or physical media collections are hard and fall apart is illogical considering that's how everyone on the planet used to engage with media before internet streaming became such a huge thing
wrote last edited by [email protected]Except they didn't. They mostly watched live TV.
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So them put some effort into acquiring good health media for your kid to watch and put that into the tablet and remove all other apps so they can only engage with content that has been pre veted by you, parenting takes effort
Yeah, thanks, I'm not looking for notes.
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Except they didn't. They mostly watched live TV.
Maybe that was the case where you grew up, the world is a large place and people live different lives, I grew up on bottleg and official CD's and DVD's, physical comics and novels, mp3 songs downloaded from limewire and torrented movies, friends and family would exchange flash drives and other media regularly for new content, all my content was both curated and organically found and diverse, and I consumed content from all over the world and my life was better for it. And I still rely on some of these methods to get my media, tech companies benefit from taking away ownership of things from people and packaging it as convenience, I'm not falling for that, I'm building my own home server now to host my own open source apps and services, it's not even that difficult anymore.
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Yeah, thanks, I'm not looking for notes.
Parent of the year over here lol
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People when kids screech at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids run around at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids use an ipad at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
There's no winning here. Children just aren't allowed to exist.
We are the exception because we most definitely weren't like that at all as a kid. /s
#2 is shitty parenting. Kids running around a restaurant puts them and staff in dangerous situations with hot food and steak knives etc
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Maybe that was the case where you grew up, the world is a large place and people live different lives, I grew up on bottleg and official CD's and DVD's, physical comics and novels, mp3 songs downloaded from limewire and torrented movies, friends and family would exchange flash drives and other media regularly for new content, all my content was both curated and organically found and diverse, and I consumed content from all over the world and my life was better for it. And I still rely on some of these methods to get my media, tech companies benefit from taking away ownership of things from people and packaging it as convenience, I'm not falling for that, I'm building my own home server now to host my own open source apps and services, it's not even that difficult anymore.
Yeah, I was a teen in the early 2000s too. Most people still consumed most of their media through live TV. Anyway, you're right, I should build a home server and start burning my own torrented DVDs. That's the only reasonable solution to, "apps suggest crappy shows to my kid," and it's definitely the thing a parent of a toddler has the time to do.
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Parent of the year over here lol
wrote last edited by [email protected]Sees someone articulating the problem of streaming platforms elevating low quality or toxic media in children's feeds.
You (a genius): "This is bad parenting."
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I've recently gotten a hold of an older ipad. I've been installing apps and stuff on it and playing with all the things.
And godDAMN that os has problems. I'm back on my android phone and it's so much smaller, but Jesus Christ having a back button and responsive apps and ui and os feels like coming home.
Android isn't without its problems though. The apps are all definitely aimed at a poorer/cheaper demographic, the audio drivers suck big fat rectum, and the hamburger-scrolly-floating-button design philosophy is straight up garbage.
But there are so many missing QOL and presumably standard features on Android. On iOS, I get so lost in the loose ux standards that often end up bewildering me. I used procreate for like 8 hours today, and by the end, I had memorized a ton of really really bad designs. They work, and within the app, they're.................... Mostly consistent. But I have this deep down rage for whoever made some of these decisions.
It's entertaining, at the bare minimum, to see UX and UI slowly develop over the years, and neither OS (or Samsung's OneUI) are perfect. It's fascinating to see what the other camp is doing.
But yeah... Kids crying over having their ipad taken away? Shame.
Get them something better.
Like a desktop computer.
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Set YouTube kid to only show selected channels. My kid is actually bored of youtube now.
Which channels did you select?
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People when kids screech at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids run around at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
People when kids use an ipad at a restaurant: 'Must be shitty parents.'
There's no winning here. Children just aren't allowed to exist.
We are the exception because we most definitely weren't like that at all as a kid. /s
I’m guessing it’s because the perception of people who don’t have kids have the thought “every time I’m in a restaurant I see kids on their parents phone/ipad so that must be what they do 24/7”, and I’m totally guilty of that too. Once I had a kid, I think me and my partner had a pretty good no screen time rule but when we wanted to go out to eat at a restaurant that rule was relaxed not just for us but for everyone else as well.
