And they even get a seizure when you take their ipads away
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And that having a child is so hard that sometimes you just need to do things that are maybe not optimal, like giving them coke or letting them be on an iPad in public to avoid another hour of screaming, but that doesn’t mean they are not doing super much before.
mhm yes, because instant gratification is always a trait to foster...
I saw it in the development of my nephew that he gets so easily frustrated and also scared to break anything, because toys like the iPad are expensive as heck (and when its broken it can't give him any dopamine shots).
So we get highly temperamental kids that have super short attention spans. Hurrah for dumbification of your civilisation. Two hails for our corporate overlords!
Congrats, you perfectly missed the point of the message you replied to.
Maybe your nephew gets the iPad all the time and that messed up his frustration tolerance. Ok. You might have a closer inside to how he is parented. When you see someone outside with a kid on an iPad you cannot know these things about them. Whatever it looks like to you, you're judging strangers based on a one point observation.
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Quantity is an important factor. A half hour a day of brainrot isn’t a big problem, constant brainrot during all your free time is going to impact your concentration abilities, your mental image of the world, your ability to build meaningful logical connections and so many other mental development elements.
Exactly. We gathered together around my friend’s monitor, and laughed at FreddyW videos for 10 minutes, the continued our board game / rpg session.
Compare this to how some kids are watching mind numbing shit whole day on their personal screens. Very diffrent effect
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Sometimes that iPad is there for you not the kids, try raising an autistic kid with unlimited energy, when you get them in a restaurant or bus, if the iPad is gonna keep him quiet and occupied, that means you don’t have to hear him complain.
Kids aren’t robots, they’re people, and some have special needs and get overwhelmed in the fucked up world we made. If super kitties is gonna keep him relaxed for a bit so be it.Thanks for this thoughtful and considerate response. As a parent myself, your kindness is so appreciated!
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Congrats, you perfectly missed the point of the message you replied to.
Maybe your nephew gets the iPad all the time and that messed up his frustration tolerance. Ok. You might have a closer inside to how he is parented. When you see someone outside with a kid on an iPad you cannot know these things about them. Whatever it looks like to you, you're judging strangers based on a one point observation.
It’s like they were telling they don’t have kids without telling they don’t have kids.
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I used to think exactly that and judge that heavily, but after my sister became a mother, we talked about this and she said essentially, that you don't know them, you don't know the day they've had and what they have done all day and what happened before. And that having a child is so hard that sometimes you just need to do things that are maybe not optimal, like giving them coke or letting them be on an iPad in public to avoid another hour of screaming, but that doesn't mean they are not doing super much before. Because everybody has a breaking point and you cannot be perfect, but you don't know the arguments or deals or time spent earlier, and sometimes it's necessary to also keep care of yourself and relax a bit when you're done.
I had a similar change of perspective when I became a parent. We do our best to raise our kids to be the best people they can be. But, if we want to do normal people things and that requires some screen time, so be it. I know what’s going on with my kids and idgaf what others think.
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Don't judge the kid, judge the parents. Parents who should not be parents prefer to make their kids less of a burden to them by handing them over to the overstimulation square
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I'm not having kids, but this always feels like such a missed opportunity to let kids do something more mentally stimulating on that tablet.
Drawing apps and eBooks are right there! Hell, set up Termux and Acode up for them and let them program a bit (or like, I bet there's a mobile version of Scratch they could use if they can't read yet). Let them take photos and make little collages. Get them some music Synthesizer App so that they can tinker on their own little beats. Literally just show them that they have the tools to make something great instead of just shoveling in mindless content all day..bet there’s a mobile version of Scratch they could use if they can’t read yet
And for older kids apple made a scratch-like game for teaching their Swift programming language!
Scratch also works entirely in the web browser
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This is actually me when I'm in public and see someone judging a family based on exactly one frame of their lives.
I know a family with small kids who watch stuff like this on an iPad. One kid figured out how to get onto regular YouTube, and now watches tutorials to bypass parental controls. A true hacker in the making.
It's been a nightmare for the parents tho, the kid figured out how to turn on all the game systems and plays stuff they're not supposed to now lol.
Also, for anyone feeling high and mighty about the content from their childhood: https://youtu.be/EIyixC9NsLI
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The fun thing is you pull even worse faces when the brainrot is taken away from them and now youre stuck in an enclosed space with a screaming toddler running away getting wrestled back, jostling against your chair while youre trying to eat.
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I find myself in awe on how this much of brainrot can be watched by a little kid every time I encounter that..
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I'm not having kids, but this always feels like such a missed opportunity to let kids do something more mentally stimulating on that tablet.
Drawing apps and eBooks are right there! Hell, set up Termux and Acode up for them and let them program a bit (or like, I bet there's a mobile version of Scratch they could use if they can't read yet). Let them take photos and make little collages. Get them some music Synthesizer App so that they can tinker on their own little beats. Literally just show them that they have the tools to make something great instead of just shoveling in mindless content all day..I am the donor for a lesbian couple. I'm pretty involved in my son's life. I took him for his third haircut. Midway through, he was bored, and shooting me one of the angriest looks I've ever gotten from him. I took a pic and sent it to his mom.
"Oh god look how mad he is, give him your phone!"
What? He's being quiet and learning how to be patient while a haircut happens. Some parents think reality is a BAD substitute for devices, it seems.
At least one night a week, he comes to my house and plays without any screens. We talk and explore the world.
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Don't judge the kid, judge the parents. Parents who should not be parents prefer to make their kids less of a burden to them by handing them over to the overstimulation square
100% My kids have tablets. The only time they get them is on road trips and plane rides. Some parents we know bring them to restaurants, family gatherings, you name it. It's fucking annoying. Make your kid socialize or they're going to grow up weird AF.
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100% My kids have tablets. The only time they get them is on road trips and plane rides. Some parents we know bring them to restaurants, family gatherings, you name it. It's fucking annoying. Make your kid socialize or they're going to grow up weird AF.
I was at a friends and family barbecue recently, and it just so happened none of the parents there brought tablets for their kids. It was just kids running around the backyard being kids. The parents generally let them do whatever but were attentive enough to prevent them climbing on the shed and stuff.
I can't remember the last time there wasn't some kid glued to a screen at that type of party. It was a joy to see.
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100% My kids have tablets. The only time they get them is on road trips and plane rides. Some parents we know bring them to restaurants, family gatherings, you name it. It's fucking annoying. Make your kid socialize or they're going to grow up weird AF.
When I was a kid, we'd get together with family and do our thing. Then we'd all eat a meal, and usually after the meal it was all right, everyone go do whatever you want, and the kids would usually go down the basement and play toys or video games, and adults sit around digesting, having some drinks, etc.
Fast forward to now, I'll bring my kids tablets or whatever, and when the party is entering the food coma stage, I say do whatever you want, you've spent the last couple hours talking to people, or just existing around people who are 30-60 years older than you.
I feel like it always comes to this, but everything in moderation. I played a lot of Nintendo as a kid, and I grew up well adjusted (enough), and I don't doubt my kids can do the same. For me, the whole tablet thing just stretches out the amount of time I get to hang. Kids get antsy. Shit, I get antsy and I'm an adult, but if letting them do whatever for 30-60m at the end of a party let's me unwind with my family and friends, it's fine.
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Most often the iPad is not for the kids but for inattentive Parents that just want to doomscroll in peace and not deal with their offspring.
You don't know that it's "most often".
That's just how you feel about it. You're being judgmental but don't have any idea.
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Sometimes that iPad is there for you not the kids, try raising an autistic kid with unlimited energy, when you get them in a restaurant or bus, if the iPad is gonna keep him quiet and occupied, that means you don’t have to hear him complain.
Kids aren’t robots, they’re people, and some have special needs and get overwhelmed in the fucked up world we made. If super kitties is gonna keep him relaxed for a bit so be it.Hey, super kitties is quality content compared to YouTube. We have a YouTube ban in my house - the only exception is if it's an actual show that can't be found on streaming services.
The rest of this is spot on. We use iPads to keep our kids quiet in public places that are boring to them, like restaurants or planes.
We've all experienced an annoying kid in a restaurant, or a crying baby on the plane. It sucks, but usually that's short lived. This post just seems like child-free snark/elitism signaling to me.
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Exactly. We gathered together around my friend’s monitor, and laughed at FreddyW videos for 10 minutes, the continued our board game / rpg session.
Compare this to how some kids are watching mind numbing shit whole day on their personal screens. Very diffrent effect
That’s even different because what you are describing is brainrot as a social activity, strengthening the bonds with your friends through shared experience
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And their parents allow them to blast the sound in public with no headphones. I can't fathom the lack of give-a-fucks for their fellow humans (to include their own children).
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When I was a kid, we'd get together with family and do our thing. Then we'd all eat a meal, and usually after the meal it was all right, everyone go do whatever you want, and the kids would usually go down the basement and play toys or video games, and adults sit around digesting, having some drinks, etc.
Fast forward to now, I'll bring my kids tablets or whatever, and when the party is entering the food coma stage, I say do whatever you want, you've spent the last couple hours talking to people, or just existing around people who are 30-60 years older than you.
I feel like it always comes to this, but everything in moderation. I played a lot of Nintendo as a kid, and I grew up well adjusted (enough), and I don't doubt my kids can do the same. For me, the whole tablet thing just stretches out the amount of time I get to hang. Kids get antsy. Shit, I get antsy and I'm an adult, but if letting them do whatever for 30-60m at the end of a party let's me unwind with my family and friends, it's fine.
The annoying part is when the kids roll into the party iPad already blasting.
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100% My kids have tablets. The only time they get them is on road trips and plane rides. Some parents we know bring them to restaurants, family gatherings, you name it. It's fucking annoying. Make your kid socialize or they're going to grow up weird AF.
Yeah or they're really introverted they'll at least use their imagination to disassociate.
Like I used to look around and imagine little beings making their way around objects and walls. Or looking into the distance and imagining things farther away were right in front of me, but the same size — so now you've got a miniature waiter running around the table, trying to catch the little beings.
My ability to zone out probably masked a lot of brain problems, but it did also make me a champ at sitting in waiting rooms while having the time of my life.
