Excellent advice
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To each their own. I don't think I could take someone seriously if they were too attached to toys and dolls as it is, for me, an obvious sign of an arrested development. But that doesn't mean I should ridicule them, nor that others wouldn't be right for them (or that they're immoral people either, of course, which is what truly matters in the end); the world is big enough for both of us, and for your toys too!
I know you think you're coming off as magnanimous, but it's got the same energy as "I've got a lot of gay friends actually" energy.
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To each their own. I don't think I could take someone seriously if they were too attached to toys and dolls as it is, for me, an obvious sign of an arrested development. But that doesn't mean I should ridicule them, nor that others wouldn't be right for them (or that they're immoral people either, of course, which is what truly matters in the end); the world is big enough for both of us, and for your toys too!
I'm really not sure why you're being downvoted. Your comment was polite, contributed to the discussion, and was made in good faith.
I'm on the other end. I don't think keeping a stuffed animal matters really. I have a functionally useless old timer pocket knife from when I was a kid and I just kept it for sentimental/memory value.
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I know you think you're coming off as magnanimous, but it's got the same energy as "I've got a lot of gay friends actually" energy.
I don't, but I do have a gay uncle.
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The problem isn't the toys and dolls, but being overly attached, which can happen to any material possession, even "adult things" like cars or clothes.
100%. Anything that can just be bought and seen but has no depth is definitely on the top of the list. At least if you're into cars but talk to me about engines and technical evolution, or you're into animals but fr and know classifications and curious facts about otters, like, even if I'm not interested at all I can't help but respect a bit. It's a passion with depth, an obsession I could never have but that shows you appreciate the less superficial and consumerist parts of the world. I'd have the same opinion about someone who has a massive collection of Bionicles (I get it, they were cool AF but there's a time and place for everything...) in full display in the living room, or worse, anime bodypillows, lol.
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Two things.
First, dating and commitment is about matching and compatibility, not about some kind of objective ranking system of quality or merit. It's about how a partner or potential partner rates on your own personal scale, not some sort of societal scale built by social consensus. So while it is ok for you to find a particular trait to be a negative, or even a deal breaker, your point is completely irrelevant to the advice being given, which is not to hide important traits of one's identity.
Second, your own preference here is stated in unnecessarily condescending terms, as if your preferences are right and the opposite preference is wrong or the sign of some kind of disorder. Whatever your definition of "toys and dolls" are, it probably isn't a very tightly defined term, and I'd venture to guess that you are OK with some kinds of "toys" but not others. People collect stuff. People develop emotional attachment to physical things all the time. And for you to gatekeep and say which things are acceptable or unacceptable is kinda an asshole move.
I'm taking a somewhat oppositional position to OP! I'm not gatekeeping anything, just expanding on the topic. And no, I personally have never collected anything nor do I particularly care for decoration, and I find being attached to material possessions to that extent says something not necessarily dangerous or immoral about you, but it does still. So, while being obsessed with toys is not at the core of any ideological or personality-dependent negative attribute (nor does it constitute one by itself), it does serve as a litmus test for whether the person is, you know, 'regular'. Come on, you go to a guy's house and he has nothing but Goku and Vegeta inflatable dolls and refuses to take off the Piccolo doorag in his 30s and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile and focused on less than important things?
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Probably because it stole spices and land
This is Netherlands erasure
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How can you tell it's British?
I have a small figurine of an Irishman and I'm fairly sure the hedgehog is bullying it.
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I have a small figurine of an Irishman and I'm fairly sure the hedgehog is bullying it.
Fair enough.
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Eeeehhhh, I'd silently judge anyone with a Funko collection. 2 or 3 would still be fine
wrote on last edited by [email protected]But it's a fucking awesome collection of various villains. I got a Mirror Spock between 10" Skeletor and Storm Trooper enforcers, yo. And a MF Dalek up front, who will exterminate any punk asses.
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I'm taking a somewhat oppositional position to OP! I'm not gatekeeping anything, just expanding on the topic. And no, I personally have never collected anything nor do I particularly care for decoration, and I find being attached to material possessions to that extent says something not necessarily dangerous or immoral about you, but it does still. So, while being obsessed with toys is not at the core of any ideological or personality-dependent negative attribute (nor does it constitute one by itself), it does serve as a litmus test for whether the person is, you know, 'regular'. Come on, you go to a guy's house and he has nothing but Goku and Vegeta inflatable dolls and refuses to take off the Piccolo doorag in his 30s and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile and focused on less than important things?
and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile
The question is: why should I?
I don't believe you're more mature because you have fewer doorags, dude.
I do believe someone having this much contempt for keeping art in their house is a little weird.
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How can you tell it's British?
It has a massive hoard of stuff its grandparents stole from all the other stuffed animals.
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Take care, lady.
Telling that you think I, a 6’-5” cishet male, am a woman when all you have is this conversation.
Big.fuckin’.oof.
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Telling that you think I, a 6’-5” cishet male, am a woman when all you have is this conversation.
Big.fuckin’.oof.
Least prejudiced monotheist
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While I don't have an stuffed animal, I do have an mood pillow that I stitched and fixed for over 20y now. I can't sleep without it, it's part of me
What is a mood pillow?
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Telling that you think I, a 6’-5” cishet male, am a woman when all you have is this conversation.
Big.fuckin’.oof.
Is there something wrong with being a lady? I just assumed from context. I'm glad you're tall and straight though, lol.
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and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile
The question is: why should I?
I don't believe you're more mature because you have fewer doorags, dude.
I do believe someone having this much contempt for keeping art in their house is a little weird.
Because anyone too involved with collecting nonsense instead of deep thoughts and friends is lost in the sauce. Also, art? Or toys? And it's just a convo we're having about it, it's not like I go knocking on people's houses and bully them for being nonsensical.
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What is a mood pillow?
https://amzn.eu/d/hj9FlQz something like that, just depression themed
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and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile
The question is: why should I?
I don't believe you're more mature because you have fewer doorags, dude.
I do believe someone having this much contempt for keeping art in their house is a little weird.
Oh god, you’re dealing with this idiot, too? They’re the whole reason we have the saying “nothing before the ‘but’ matters” and it’s just so disappointing that they think they’re being a good person.
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Is there something wrong with being a lady? I just assumed from context. I'm glad you're tall and straight though, lol.
Oh course you assumed from context because like it or not you got some serious, and possibly unconscious, sexism you should really look into. I never said I had any of these things myself, only defended others owning them, which makes any possible excuse even weaker, too.
I am disappointed, bud, but not surprised.
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This is Netherlands erasure
#PortugueseCrimesMatter
