The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games.
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Yeah I think a lot of people's perceptions of polyamory come from it being different from what people are used to resulting in things like frequency biases (watch someone do something they don't have the skills for and have 3 bad breakups at once rather than over 3 years, even though each lasted the same amount of time), differing points of failure (boundaries of monogamy are assumed natural even though there are disagreements and therefore monogamy is assumed unrelated to the failure, meanwhile if rather than cheating being the cause of failure its someone neglecting an existing partner for a new one, then polyamory gets blamed), polyamory giving people enough rope to hang themselves, and the tendency for it to be a mid relationship change in the basic expectations and rules of the relationship which is something always fraught. I also think people go in not realizing that most of the good ones are already polysaturated and it's largely the train wrecks and partner hoarders that are constantly seriously looking.
And yeah I think it may be geographic but I think its less that and more subcultural. Being involved in queer and kinky irl scenes led to be being in communities with people who'd been nonmonogamous since well before it was cool and who'd already had expectations of high communication skills.
Like, I don't think central ohio managed to just be way better at polyamory than most places, though I do think some local cultures still remain
Great perspectives, thank you! Very informative and much more plausible than what I was saying.
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I've written porn comedy before. No I will not be linking it, but yeah I enjoyed it and the bad porn book club I was in over the pandemic enjoyed it too.
I think part of the problem is that oftentimes once something erotic has merit beyond the erotic it often loses its porn classification in the public eye. Venus in Furs is porn, the word masochism is a reference to Sacher-Masoch who wrote it the same as sadism is named after the Marquis de Sade, but it's also classic literature.
I definitely do want to get back into writing porn comedy, but I haven't been pissed off sufficiently stupid porn writing since that book club stopped.
Hit me up if you ever want to collab. I'm a shit writer with a sense of humor who would love to read what you have.
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got any recommendations?
I wish.
I'm terrible at bookmarking, and most of it's random stories on the internet. My favorite was about a girl, raised by wolves, who meets a werewolf, found on DeviantArt when I was a teenager when I didn't know what erotica was. Must be gone because I haven't been able to find it. But had a hell of an impact since I remember it, vividly.
Literotica has fantastic writers. I'm in a discord server with other amateur/professional writers, too. 9/10 are bad to meh, but that one in ten can rattle in my brain for days.