should i cut this person slack due to their disability?
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so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic
she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.
she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”
she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.
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so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic
she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.
she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”
she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.
No. Autism is not a reason to be a bigot. Maybe the “lashes out” could be explained by sensory sensitivity (depending on the scenario and what you mean by “lashing out”), but that doesn’t excuse bigotry.
Edit: also, what makes you say she is “mentally younger”? Autism and ADHD don’t stunt maturity in and of themselves
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so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic
she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.
she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”
she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.
Autism or not, this isn't an acceptable way to behave. You should be firm and tell her that she is wrong. I don't know about cutting contact but for sure that can be an option if she doesn't change. You don't need homophobic transphobic people in your life.
Not aiming this at you but: when did it become socially unacceptable to condemn / chastise people with ADHD / autism when they say or do unacceptable things? This only emboldens them to do worse things.
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so this one girl, i’ll call her ella
Laughs in Spanish
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No. Autism is not a reason to be a bigot. Maybe the “lashes out” could be explained by sensory sensitivity (depending on the scenario and what you mean by “lashing out”), but that doesn’t excuse bigotry.
Edit: also, what makes you say she is “mentally younger”? Autism and ADHD don’t stunt maturity in and of themselves
There seems to be evidence that ADHD brains are a few years behind in development. I think I remember it being 3 years on average? Don't quote me, I have ADHD and my brain shouldn't be trusted with details. Anyway, that really shouldn't result in the kind of behaviour OP is describing though.
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There seems to be evidence that ADHD brains are a few years behind in development. I think I remember it being 3 years on average? Don't quote me, I have ADHD and my brain shouldn't be trusted with details. Anyway, that really shouldn't result in the kind of behaviour OP is describing though.
I think I remember it being 3 years on average?
No chance in hell it's linear, the gap would definitely change with age. But, as an adult with ADHD, I have certainly always felt a little younger than all of my peers... obviously anecdotal, but
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Autism or not, this isn't an acceptable way to behave. You should be firm and tell her that she is wrong. I don't know about cutting contact but for sure that can be an option if she doesn't change. You don't need homophobic transphobic people in your life.
Not aiming this at you but: when did it become socially unacceptable to condemn / chastise people with ADHD / autism when they say or do unacceptable things? This only emboldens them to do worse things.
Also:
so this one girl, i’ll call her ella
Laughs in Spanish
Perfecto! Ella se llama “Ella”
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so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic
she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.
she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”
she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.
Nop, they're just autistic and an a bad person. Although not related, those two can happen at the same time
