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  • What are you most basic principles for life?

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    Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind."
  • What made you realize your parents aren't good people? /srs

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    People on here would probably think my parents are evil but I just think they are from a different generation. There's only so much adaptation a human brain can do in a lifetime and at some point your views will be set in stone if you've been alive since the 1950s.
  • What's your plan for the Zombie Apocalypse?

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    Absolutely! I'll have your bone ready when you arrive
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    This. I don't understand why murdering your alt-self is "necessary". Wouldn't you actually want to preserve your alternate-self at all costs, to ensure you can continue to make return trips? The real issue here is that - if your home reality works by the same rules - once you leave it, you can never return home ever, because no alternate version of yourself exists in the one you originated from after you leave it. Before you say "hey, that sounds awesome, this place sucks!", consider that finding a better reality is not guaranteed.
  • I can no longer see lemmynsfw communities on my lemmy world account

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    Lemmynsfw disables federating downvotes. You can only see downvotes made by users of your own instance.
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    My girlfriend discovered my cat loves to play rocket ship. Doobie hops into her box and looks at one of us expectantly, we then have to pick up the box and swing it around while spinning. She LOVES IT. She grabs on to the holes in the box and holds on for dear life. No distress, when we set the box down she slow blinks at us and stays in the box. Cat tax: [image: 05f2c3b6-942e-4169-a3b4-d71da1d531c0.jpeg]
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    Boostcamp does that, and gives some access to predefined workout programs as well.
  • Legalization has only positives

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    Trying a substance before 13 is so much out of the way drugs are used in a regulated way, that I'm not sure if this data is relevant here. Only the dark market doesn't care about your age...
  • People who's entire life has been a lie, what is your story?

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    explain the feelings behind transitioning to me, a cisgender? SEX = Physical characteristics of a body assigned at birth GENDER = The gender someone identified as along the gender spectrum, such as male or female Transgender people experience gender dysphoria where they are born one gender but their body doesn't match the gender they where born with say someone was born male but their body was female or they where born female but where born with a male body Having a body that doesn't match the gender you where born with can he debilitating for trans people The closest way I could describe how it feels is to imagine someone body swapped a cis person into the opposite sex body, the cis person would feel uncomfortable in that body because it's the opposite sex to the gender rather identify with Is it a matter of societal forces imposing masculine expectations because of your physical characteristics when ultimately, what you feel deep down are effeminate characteristics of the true you? (Or am I wrongly assuming that one is transitioning to another gender and not instead to non-binary?) I feel like my above answer would be a better explanation to this in addition to my following answer to this I feel like this is a smaller part of the entire trans experience Transgender people's experiences aren't really binary, it's more of a spectrum So I can't answer for every trans person but personally as a currently closeted trans woman I do hate societal forces imposing masculine ideals on me I may need more clarification on this question because in 90% sure of it but theres still the 10% I'm unsure about I personally don't like to apply masculine or feminine labels to my own characteristics because they are a part of what makes me and I don't see them as masculine or feminine yes to the first, if society was more receptive to, say, masculine women or effeminate men at face-value, would that have made you more comfortable prior to transitioning? I cannot answer this as I'm closeted so haven't physically transitioned yet Bit off topic here but this does remind of how I don't like the unrealistic portrayals of strong women in movies and media A lot of movies and media like to potray strong women as Mary Sue's or just write a male character but just change the sex to female I feel this doesn't portray strong women in movies and media realistically at all because it doesn't realistically protray the experiences, feels, struggles, etc of women and there can be strong women who choose to be feminine and / or sexy as well So I don't think society is fully understanding of masculine women and effeminate men just as they aren't fully understanding of Transgender people unless they go out of their way to properly study and learn theese things I'm interested in better understanding how this sort of realignment for lack of a better word improves the feelings of gender dysphoria if it's more an internal pressure than one imposed upon you by society. I assune your talking about transitioning here Trans people transitioning their body to align with the physical characteristics of the gender the align with can alleviate or get rid of the symptoms of gender dysphoria In terms of physical attraction, are say MtF by the statistics more attracted to M or F, or is it split, are the bisexual/asexual/pansexual, or is data unclear? Is the aspect of gender dysphoria entirely decoupled from the notion of partner attraction (gay, straight, etc.)? Personally I'm attracted to women which would make me trans lesbian or lesbian which some trans women who are lesbian have portmanteau'd into the term "transbian" but not every trans women will use the "transbian" term as it's personal preference I thought I was straight before I realised I was a trans woman I also have this weird imposter syndrome (I don't know if I'm using the right term) where it does feel weird to call myself lesbian because I'm still closeted and haven't physically transitioned yet so I look down, see a male body and it feels weird to call myself lesbian even though I'm I know I'm a trans woman who just hasn't physically transitioned yet because I'm still closeted. I do also read and watch a lot of girls love / wlw / yuri content because I feel I can relate to it both because I'm a trans woman and because I'm lesbian ... I've tried to answer your questions to the best of my understanding, sorry if I misunderstood something because sometimes it can take a while for it to fully click mentally for me
  • I learnt to solve them in school 17 years ago or so.

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  • I was like you.

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    Mom and I left and she's doing well now but no idea about dad or anyone from that side of family. Though, I've heard that karma caught up with everyone eventually. My mom ran into one of the dads friends who arranged the acid a few years back and it turns out he got almost fully blinded in an accident of his own and flipped his personality 180° and started doing charity work. It kinda goes against this pop culture idea of bullies being fixed by "understanding and love" when in reality it's usually a catastrophe like this that really sorts them.
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    use "your god" and "evil" instead of satan and you get the polytheistic religions to join in as well.
  • Most likely, I'll lie down and will listen to music/a long YouTube video.

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    Music videos! Bingeing some of the live sessions posted by artists is a healthier time sink than most everything else on YouTube.
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    When I was with my ex, after he fucked me over. He chased me irl in his car and was screaming out his car to me while I was riding my Bike. I was petrified and was crying the whole time running away. But now I get it. People who love go great measures to get u back. Thats how I feel now. Look, that's an incredibly unhealthy thing to take from that interaction. People with real love in their hearts are willing to let go of who they love if it means better things for that person. They love them enough to want the best for them, even if means losing them. They don't follow screaming and crying demanding that the other give up a better future for them. I've done all I can, and I think most others have, too. If you don't actually want to listen to the advice given by many people who have taken time out of their days to try to encourage you into healthy relationship habits, that's your choice. Because in this thread and the last, all I've seen is healthy advice given and healthy advice ignored. Maybe that's just because you're young and haven't learned enough to understand that it is indeed healthy advice, but it is. Beating yourself up for your past and treating yourself like you don't have worth due to it is a choice, and it's an unhealthy one. I really do hope things get better for you. Doing this to yourself won't make it better, it will just make your depression and mental health worse. Freeing yourself from the chains of treating yourself like you are a bad person is the healthy choice and will improve your mental health. It's okay if you're not prepared to go down that path, but it's also okay if people want to stop giving you advice because you can't or won't listen.
  • Are you able to hear your blood flow/ heartbeat in your ear?

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    Yes! Exactly the same. I can only hear it when laying down, mostly at night only when trying to sleep. If I sit or stand up I can't hear it anymore. Not every night but I sure hear it often. It does make sleeping harder.
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    Monty Python and the Holy Grail (1975) Battle Beyond the Stars (1980) Time Bandits (1981) The Dark Crystal (1982) Krull (1983) Brazil (1985) Big Trouble in Little China (1986) The Princess Bride (1987) Any one of these are both campy and thought provoking.
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    lunarloony@lemmy.sdf.orgL
    Depending on the tone, say it in your best Matt Berry voice