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    I have some gov contracts and I can confirm this. Also: the big complaint about working with gov is either apparently expensive stuff and/or apparently slow progress . Reality? We as citizens require a crazy amount of justified checking and validation from every part of gov because it affects people's lives that things take longer and cost more to do right ... and many times that to back out a fuck-up and not kill anyone. (Oh Hi Elon)
  • How did you choose your junk email address?

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    mauntra@sh.itjust.worksM
    That's really poor OPSEC. I just visited your github and found the email, because you have no clue how git works. haveibeenpwned.com shows that this email is in 23 data breaches. Now, I can download the ParkMobile data breach and find your license plate and possibly phone number. If I would have the Slickwraps or Straffic breach then I would also be able to get your address. I can also download Collection #1 and get one or few of your old passwords. Your OPSEC can be broken in few minutes by a random internet stranger.
  • Am I a bad person? I have mental illness :(

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    mauntra@sh.itjust.worksM
    If hurting a person makes you a bad person, then everyone is a bad person
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    mauntra@sh.itjust.worksM
    I need 800 GiB to host a Gentoo distfile mirror. This is what I would do.
  • Maxtor Personal Storage 3200

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    empireoflove2@lemmy.dbzer0.comE
    So, my first goto with an unresponsive external would be to remove the drive from its enclosure. Typically these are retail internal hard drive that are put in an enclosure with a small circuit board that converts SATA to a USB or firewire and sometimes those die. If you "shuck" the drive and connect it directly to a computer internally via SATA you can bypass that board. Next step is put the drive in your freezer for an hour or so then pull it out and connect it immediately. Sometimes this frees them up and makes them work for a short while, enough to copy some of the data off. Drives not being recognized also sometimes happens if they corrupt one sector that's part of the file system tables and not the actual file system. The drive may be there but not have a file system for windows to read So there's some other tricks you can try using Linux tools to dump the exact bit for bit contents of the drive, and pass them thru an analyzer that will try to pick out what's likely of the file structure. However, still given the drives age, I'll almost guarantee it's experienced a full mechanical failure and there might not be anything to recover...
  • Don't you like a little apocalypse tease?

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    "I hate fun and having conversations with people" K
  • What's the biggest relationship bullet you dodged?

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    Content advisory: boneheaded discussion of suicidal ideation by an armchair psychologist About a decade ago I was friends with a fellow weird unemployed video game nerd lady who liked books and stuff. Had lots in common. Had fun talking over Xbox games and stuff. Was pretty patient with my depressed stuff. Usually. But I noticed she was pretty often in open conflict with other people. I'm thinking the reason she didn't get mad at me because I was following her "rules". I guess we just agreed to disagree sometimes. Later, I realised I was just doing what I usually did in most social situations, walking on eggshells to not annoy people. ::: spoiler Content warning She "temporarily" blocked me on most venues because I broke one of the rules. You see, I had mentioned razors. She said, essentially, that I should not talk about suicide because she knew what suicidal people were like and I was not suicidal, according to her. She said people shouldn't be suicidal around her because that made her uncomfortable. (...I wonder what do the suicidal people feel like in that situation, you dum-dum?) Now, I was deeply depressed at the time (not suicidal, that's true) and as someone who was walking on eggshells, I tended to look up to most people. But at that moment, the room was filled with light. For I knew, in my very essence, that this woman was a dumbass. In the email, I had been talking about Occam's Razor. Or was it Hanlon's Razor? Can't remember. Metaphorical shit. I also I explicitly said this is just metaphorical stuff and she shouldn't get alarmed. ::: I couldn't keep up with her even if I had bothered to. She went through like 3 email addresses and 3 blogs and 3 gamertags due to getting hacked and due to the drama. Don't know, don't care. Not nominal people numbers. Dumb story, wasn't it?
  • What's something that's free that everyone should know about?

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    ripcord@lemmy.worldR
    Ive definitely never, ever run into that. But I'm sure it happens. Edit: I guess ive seen places that charged some nominal fee for the cup but it's so rare
  • What's your personal number 1 song to do the horizontal tango to?

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    She is also pretty smoking herself, ngl. And funny and down-to-earth.
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    You may not realize it, but you're pointing your laser towards having money and winning at games. These are sensible enough values, since a lack of money can make life difficult and losing at games can be frustrating. In this regard, you are much like other people who share those values. You claim that "low yields games are objectively irrational", a statement that only ever makes sense if you take for granted what objectivity is. From this perspective, it's easy to argue that the Holocaust was a loss of rationality, a mass hysteria, but this ignores the thorough tracking, meticulous record-keeping, massive logistics planning, and investigation that it involved. Once again, rationality is a tool, it's a laser that can be pointed anywhere, including bigotry and inhumane values. There is a difference between science and values, between actions and values, between tools and values. The fact that most humans agree on values doesn't mean they are 'objectively true'. These humans are like fish in water, fish who don't realize they're in water. They have been socialized into the values of this culture and are absolutely certain they are right and others are wrong. Their gods are the only true gods (which is exactly what their neighbors, who hold other gods dear, believe). These humans don't realize it, but they too are pointing their lasers toward their beliefs, their gods, and everything they hold dear. Maybe it helps to look at this inside the brain. Decades of research has shown we build our concepts through relational frames, or conceptual Lego bricks. These tiny bricks relate concepts, such as "low yields games are worse than high yields games", and they combine to create cognitive palaces. Rationality is a set of relational frames, a ladder of sorts that can be taken anywhere in the palace to help us solve problems and embody our values. Once again, to use the tool we need values; we point the laser; we take the ladder somewhere. In our mental palaces, we like to keep things organized. We like coherence. But not all order is the same. There is something called literal coherence, which leads us to use deduction, logic, and probabilistic thought —rationality— so that we are right. "Aktchually" guys are literally coherent. Many OCD patients are literally coherent (it doesn't mean they're not suffering). They always carry their rationality ladder with them, even if it has a high price. And then there's something else, called functional coherence, where we care less about being right and more about what works, what's helpful, what gets us closer to a valued life and what doesn't. With functional coherence, we accept that we can't clean the whole palace. It's okay if there's leaves on the paths next to the gardens. It's okay if the books aren't in alphabetical order. We know we can use the ladder when we need it, but we sometimes decide to be nimble and run to greet our loved ones, or decide to look in the mirror and be compassionate with whom we see, or really savor the banquet we're about to eat. This doesn't mean the ladder can't help us put up the mirror or fetch the ingredients for our meal. It just means that we don't get stuck with the ladder. I'm using metaphorical language because it's a fast way to convey information in limited time, but if you're interested in how rationality is built through cognitive bricks, how we can sometimes get stuck in the webs of thought that we build, and how we can use our cognition to live a valued life, you can check out Relational Frame Theory.
  • does MKV combined with H265 really do a thing?

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    i know. that's what i'm asking. which one is better, H265 with MP4 as container (since it's the standard) or MKV as container.. i do transcoding a lot but haven't experienced using MKV as the container. that's why i'm asking.
  • What majors should I take (CS or Management)?

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    If your goal is money, become an investment banker. I kind of wish I knew about this option when I was young. Those people are all millionaires at age 30. Your life will suck for 10 years but you'll have enough of a nest egg you can retire at 35 if you want.
  • But ur not reading the part where I texted old men for money?

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    snotflickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zoneS
    Don't feel like an idiot. Just accept that it happened and try to use it as a learning experience. If he thinks you're gaslighting him, that's on him, not on you, you're just talking about how you've been made to feel. As an old, lonely man, what I would give to have a woman who just wanted to spend three hours with me, hanging out. To know someone cared that I existed and chose to spend their time with me. Just to not be alone for a while, to have someone to talk to, to feel like I mattered to someone and that out of all the people on the planet, they chose to spend their time on me. That's a gift. I promise, it gets easier as you get older, because the sex drive in men gets lower and they begin thinking with their brains instead of their dicks (not all of them, but some of them). Maybe try to work on having fun for yourself while you're still young and not worrying about what the dumb young men you encounter think of you? Be patient until you and the men you date are older when you can more easily find someone who has matured into understanding that you choosing to give them your time, effort, and compassion is far more valuable than sex.
  • Do you use your turn signal in a turn-only lane? Why or why not?

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    Yes, because if you don't do it every time, eventually you'll forget when it really matters. It also provides clarity to other drivers. People do dumb things in cars. If someone's in the turning lane ahead of me without their signal, there's part of me that's watching to see if they're confused and about to do something foolish. Signals = clear intentions = peace of mind.
  • Mostly thanks because that's the only word I learned when I'm visiting.

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    dack - Dutch Dutch is alsjeblieft (informal), alstublieft (formal), thanks (informal), dankjewel (informal), or dankuwel (formal). The former probably means "as you desired" in old Dutch, the latter "thank you well", and the formal/informal variants simply insert the right word for "you" (je or u). And then there's thanks being commonly used. Or also bedankt, sounds kinda formal to me as well, not sure when you'd use that instead of dankuwel Just "dank" (maybe you wrote that and autocorrupt kicked in?) is not really a thing we say, it just means "thank" which you'd also not say by itself in English (unless you're Rocky) Edit: writing "dank" in an English sentence feels like everyone will think our thank-yous are like dank memes. The pronunciation of the "a" there is as in Clark; the English pronunciation of dank would map to denk in Dutch and means think!
  • I need relationship advice? This hurts a lot

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    I'm not my wife's first. Not the biggest dick she's had. Nor any of the usual male ego things. But she loves me more than any of the others and that's the only important thing. Plus any time I've wanted to do anything kinky she has been game and we've had a lot of cool experiences together she hasn't had with anyone else. You sound really young (at least compared to my fifty) and I hope some day you and your partner can both be comfortable with each other. There's nothing shameful about how many partners you've had.
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    Yeah, their reasons for doing it matter too obviously. If they're just fucking over other people to enrich themselves then I am much more likely to report them (and also stop being friendly, cause that's not the kind of person I want to spend my time with.) Also re:selling guns I should clarify - I don't have an issue with selling guns, even illegally, unless they're selling to people who shouldn't have them.
  • What's the craziest thing that ever happened at your workplace?

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    rob_t_firefly@lemmy.worldR
    That situation could have got so much worse if there were a mage in the party.
  • Do you have a TV in your 2006 Toyota Corolla? Why / Why not?

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    ...i disassembled the factory radio in my 1990 geo prizm and soldered an auxilliary cable onto the pre-amplification stage traces; it worked pretty well suspending a portable CD player from the rearview mirror for shock protection back in the days before memory buffers were a thing, even better with those little vinyl bands installed around the disc edge for additional gyroscopic stability...
  • Why is Germany so prevalent on Lemmy?

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    There are 3 admins including myself from the Lemmy side and one from the foundation.