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The best thing you can do for the fediverse is just be kind

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  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

    • Be kind

    • Ask people what they think, and why

    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

    • Engage sincerely

    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

    • Make this small space worth being in

    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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    If I'm in a toxic mood, I go to reddit.

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    • tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT [email protected]

      Im not a US citizen (or a citizen of any other country that has a republican party), so that may be more work than you're signing up for on your end.. getting a citizenship can take ages :3

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      Not if you ask Republicans. You can be fresh off the boat than you can run to the nearest voting booth and steal the election

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        OP simply asks people to be kind, People proceed to tear each other apart..

        OP now knows how Jesus felt 🤣

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        Or how Doctor Who felt after asking the master for help.

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          Not if you ask Republicans. You can be fresh off the boat than you can run to the nearest voting booth and steal the election

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          Well wouldn't know :3 I've not tried it x3

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          • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

            I can empathize with your anger but I do think it's easy to forget just how much propaganda can shape peoples world views and idea of reality. It's used so heavily because it works 😞

            Regardless, I'm not trying to start a fight, I can appreciate having no more tolerance for the increasing cruelty of the state of the world. Take care ❤️

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            Republican core values are anti-human. Right from there, we have nothing to talk about.

            Get these lizard people off our planet!

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            • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.deG [email protected]

              that's what i've been saying for a while now. like a healthy organism that has both left and right hands, society too shall have both right and left people in it. that is not a problem. what is the problem is that these different parts are not communicating clearly enough and it's causing dysfunction of society.

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              Which one of your hand has the ideology that hinges on erasing the other?

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                If you know what you are arguing and argue with tankies/Nazis in good faith, nine times out of ten they will eventually lose their temper and make fools of themselves. There is no need to be hostile to begin with, they just defeat themselves basically because their ideologies are totally flawed (kinda like in real life).

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                These people don't deserve validation.

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                • A [email protected]

                  Technically anyone can spin up an instance centered on whatever dark and inhumane topic. That's the reality of an open network. That's why defederation and whitelisting are such important tools as Fediverse grows. You don't actually want access to every last bit of information on the network.

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                  That's what you think. My head is a blackhole, and it's hungry for more!

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                  • davel@lemmy.mlD [email protected]

                    You’ve once again shown your empty accusations and insults, contrary to OP’s advice in this post.

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                    You will never be accepted in this space no matter how many alt accounts you make to downvote people.

                    This isn't reddit you fascist, your tactics don't work here.

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                      Technically anyone can spin up an instance centered on whatever dark and inhumane topic. That's the reality of an open network. That's why defederation and whitelisting are such important tools as Fediverse grows. You don't actually want access to every last bit of information on the network.

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                      Glad we agree then.

                      Defed all intolerance.

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                        These people don't deserve validation.

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                        It is not to validate them, it is to discredit them and provide red flags to would-be readers how dangerous their ideas are.

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                        • davel@lemmy.mlD [email protected]

                          https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tankie#Modern_Internet_uses but actually https://www.joewrote.com/p/jfk-files-reveal-the-cia-role-in

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                          A broken clock is right twice a day. And it is not like the Hungarian freedom fighters are mujahideen turned Taliban.

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                          • L [email protected]

                            A big problem is too much politics, feels like politics is always brought up even in posts where it's not the topic of discussion. Just look at this post. Then if someone disagrees with your view they'll attack you and then they'll claim they "are on the right side". People have forgotten the golden rule.

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                            It's very front of mind because these are the "interesting times" from the Chinese curse. Even people I've always known to say they don't pay attention to politics, can't watch the news it just makes me sad, etc. These people are talking politics every day. It's hard not to.

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                              Love how the point of the post is “hey try to be nice” and everyone sounding off in the comments like “FUCK YOU AND FUCK THOSE SPECIFIC GUYS TOO”

                              Maybe more people should just post their reviews of vacuums here

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                              I have a shark vacuum, I don't know the model. It's really good for two reasons. First, it slides down low profile to go under things easily. Second, it has a three foot long detachable suck stick so you can get bigger stuff or get down in cracks. It's great for around the litter boxes. 4.5 stars because things could always suck more.

                              C/dullmensclub

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                              • vanilla_puddinfudge@infosec.pubV [email protected]

                                A lot of people dive in as if the entire fediverse has the same level of nerve as 4chan.

                                There are a lot of sensitive people here. The best thing I learned through my dealings with Mastodon is to be kind, and lurk before hitting that comment button.

                                The level of discord on the fediverse waxes and wanes depending where you are. There are conversations I'd never have here, that I'd gladly have elsewhere with no ill effects. The right words for the right group of people.

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                                "Sensitive" people can be really toxic too. Some people just enjoy being outraged.

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                                  It is not to validate them, it is to discredit them and provide red flags to would-be readers how dangerous their ideas are.

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                                  It makes them feel validated, they're not capable of self reflection

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                                  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                    • Be kind

                                    • Ask people what they think, and why

                                    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                    • Engage sincerely

                                    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                    • Make this small space worth being in

                                    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                    I disagree, yes being kind is very important but even more important is people engaging and upvoting comments.

                                    Reddit was great because of what happened in the comment section, not the headliners, and I see very little voting engagement even in active posts.

                                    Remember, it's free to do and it encourages others to engage as well. But yea be kind too

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                                      Ikr, I like pissing people off then making much of them for not being able to defend their position. I think it's good for engagement

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                                      We do not need all the engagement. Just engagement that most lemming users enjoy. The comments of spam bots for example are also good for engagement but are not enjoyable content. I personally hate being pissed of online cause it caries into my real life and people in general also do so most people come to this general idea that they don't piss anyone of and expect other people to come to the same conclusion of not pissing anyone of. This leads to a less toxic environment which allows them to spend more of their time and energy on more productive stuff. Cause at the end of the day needlessly making other people feel bad for your own entertainment is a downwards spiral if everyone's doing it.

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                                        A big problem is too much politics, feels like politics is always brought up even in posts where it's not the topic of discussion. Just look at this post. Then if someone disagrees with your view they'll attack you and then they'll claim they "are on the right side". People have forgotten the golden rule.

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                                        I disagree, if political discourse can't survive public debate, then it isn't a very good political ideology.

                                        We have been artificially hampered on other platforms by having to be nice to the nazis, we don't have to do that here and I fully welcome such debate because none of their abhorrent ideologies hold up under scrutiny

                                        As for left leaning political debate, we have ALWAYS argued with each other. That is one of our greatest strengths that we just don't all into line with everything the top says. Also one of our greatest weaknesses.

                                        But to stifle that artificially will just force it to bleed into other discussions.

                                        I say up with political discourse and let the marketplace of ideas be conceptually free of bias and the results will be that humanity in general considers nazis pretty bad people

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                                        • M [email protected]

                                          Most people know this in some capacity, but it's not talked about enough: the shape of the platform massively shapes its culture. Every mechanism, intentional feature or not, is a factor in resulting user behavior and should be accounted for.

                                          Reddit Karma was (shitty) reputation from the start, but Slashdot user IDs became one despite being mere sequential identifiers; negative user feedback such as downvotes can be harmful to communities (yet, users without an outlet may lash out in other ways e.g. reports); even how the platform communicates with users influences them; and so on.

                                          I'm not saying you shouldn't be nice and incentivize others to do the same, but unless the system naturally leads to the desired behavior, you'll have a bad time in the long term because building culture by interactions doesn't scale. By the time you realize there's a shift, it's too late; interactions will compound and affect how the average user acts faster than you can try to course-correct.

                                          I wish lemmy was more experimental, because by building a clone of reddit, we've copied too many of its faults. We've already got gatherings to complain about mods, and the one time devs considered changing a core component, discussion was killed by an onslaught of users. Problems with the current setup that were brought up then will likely never see that amount of people thinking about how to solve them.

                                          Contrast with Mastodon, which gets crap for not being a more faithful copy of twitter, but their reasoning for not including quote-reblogs is understandable. They're now putting a lot of thought into how to add them safely. Not ignoring functionality users want, but also not ignoring how it will affect culture, that's compromise.

                                          I'd like it if we could talk more about how our platforms work and, specifically, how they affect us.

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                                          People were right to be angry about removing voting visibility.

                                          The surest sign a community is toxic is voting patterns and removing our access to that removes our ability to combat the continuing enshittification of lemmy.

                                          And there are many, many mods that need to be complained about.

                                          Though you are right that no-nuance upvote/downvote is a really shitty metric

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