Is too much self-awareness bad?
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That's fair, I do see a therapist, I just wanted to see what others think about it. I get it that it may also be a little too personal with very scant info given.
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I think self-awareness can be a really positive tool to break yourself out of restrictive situations and thought patterns that may be causing you harm. I’ve found this to be true in my own life, with journaling in particular being one of the most beneficial kinds of self reflection. It’s gotten me out of bad relationships, living situations, and addictions.
That said, self-awareness that states at a wall of things-you-can’t-actually-change can definitely be depressing.
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Backing this, I was going to write up a separate comment but this is really best left with someone professional. Not just anyone can really help with this. We'd have to know history which may be a few more paragraphs, we'd have to know their environment and livelihood, habits .etc
And that's just something that'll be exhausting to read and risks the OP to be set up to be scrutinzed or judged. Don't really want that here.
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in your shoes i would definitely pose these thoughts to my therapist.
i'm autistic and i sometimes see lemming share their own experiences on the nuero-divergent communites scattered throughout lemmy like the https://hexbear.net/c/neurodiverse and https://lemmy.world/c/autism communities
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The question in your title is also different than the question (questions?) in your post, FWIW.
A question that might get you more useful responses us, "I live in a super rural area with limited options for socializing. Looking for ideas for 1) finding people and social events outside what I typically look for (list your go-tos here) and 2) motivation when I know I need more socialization but can't get over the hump to leave my house."
If you ask people what they do for their experiences, it's a lot easier for folks to answer versus telling you what to do, esp when you have a real diagnosis and therapist. Good luck, friend.
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Thank youfor your input. Updooted and saved.
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I appreciate your recommendations. Thank you
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I did end up start writing in the hundreds of the notebooks I have and this year has been dedicated to my mental health. Definitely a good tool to help bring things up to my therapist.
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Not per se, but it depends. I find that usually when people name "too much self awareness" as a problem, it has to do with a focus on exhaustive cataloging of all their issues and shortcomings, with no tools to move past that. It's a sort of mental health target fixation.
I think it becomes a problem only to the extent that it distracts from the actual goal of becoming able to live a life you actually want, that is aligned with your values and desires. The main focus should be on what you can do 'different' to move in a desirable direction, not on the problem. Awareness is good to the extent you can actually utilize the information you're aware of, and not get stuck in it.
As for avoiding "non positive" emotions, I think it's important to keep in mind that emotions are a signal. They convey information. It's a part of your mind saying "Hey I think this is important, please pay attention". I personally like how this is illustrated in IFS therapy, where you sort of personify the part of you that is having that emotion, and listen as if it were a distinct person. Often simply being listened to, and offered acceptance, understanding, love, is enough for the feeling to subside. It needs to know that you got the message, and will act with the information in mind. And the more you do it, the more those parts trust you, and the process.
If you have a history of trauma especially, touching intense emotions (like sadness) can be really overwhelming, and bring up a lot of stuff. One thing that I've found very helpful in practicing, is working with holding intense 'positive' emotions instead. A capacity to hold intense feeling is transferable to different feelings, and immersing yourself in something pleasurable is much more appealing. Try to do something that feels good, and be fully present with the feeling, without needing to do anything about it, just try to sustain it comfortably. It also helps with the target fixation issue above. Orient on what you want, not what you want to fix, the rest will follow.
Hope this helped at all
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The question is what you mean with "too much" self-awareness, which you haven't said. I strongly assume that what you're talking about isn't self-awareness at all, but self-worth issues.
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That's in my wheelhouse, thanks for your input. It's going in my book.
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Oh my gosh, thank you for the reply. I feel that you were able to read my incoherent post and saw my soul. Would you mind either explaining or linking/recommending a place to further understand the last paragraph?
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Aw, that's so nice to hear, I'm glad it resonated. Of course, feel free to message me any questions you have, I know it's a pretty vague/hard to explain subject. I'll try to think of some resources I can link as well, and get back to you. It's a bit of a mishmash of different ideas and things I've tried.
