What strict parents actually teach
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I apologize. I shouldn't have been rude about it.
I appreciate that, no worries.
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There's a difference between strict and abusive.
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Ok but tbf those are all great skills to have
Add subterfuge and sneaking and it's ninja training
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No, don't do that when it's something so niche, it's cringe and disrespectful. Most people probably assume it's a typo.
Jeff Goldblum impersonator
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Only if you get caught.
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strict ≠ abusive
wrote on last edited by [email protected]The difference can often be negligible to a child's eyes depending on how 'strict' lessons are worded or otherwise expressed. If it is always with scolding after a lack of instruction turned in to idle entertainment that went awry, it sometimes doesn't really matter how relevant the information was.
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I found out at a previous position that the best way to get my work done was to be short with people. In that case they wouldn't bother me, and I had more time to do my work.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I found out at a previous position that the best way to
get my work donemasturbate in the mail room was to be short with people. In that case they wouldn't bother me, and I had more time todo my workmasturbate in the mail room. -
There's a difference between strict and abusive.
This post is starting to make me think people say "strict" strictly as a euphemism.
What I think it means: The parents never bend the rules for their kids.
What it apparently means: The parents have anger problems.
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My parents were strict about things that didn't matter. They taught swear words and being gay was bad but never taught me anything about surviving life or making money or managing hobbies or anything having to do with self growth or independence.
They limited my ability to grow. Along with society at the time and then blamed me when for it when I became an adult and was socially dysfunctional.
It's weird... If you're not teaching your kids no one really is. They'll end up learning from entertainment or people taking advantage of them. But still people have kids like it's a set it and forget it process and then blame the kid/person for not knowing x thing.
Religious?
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What is strict? When I was a kid that was a wooden spoon or a belt. Across the backside or hands. As well as a long list of chores. The strap still hung on the wall of the principal's office at school as a warning but didn't get used anymore. Mostly suspensions and expulsions were the flavor of the day.
I got called a strict parent on Lemmy not so long ago because we limit screen time in our house to an hour a day with some exceptions. Our kids walk to town alone at 10 years old though (2 km one way) and have the knowledge and awareness to manage on their own. We trust them and they in turn make mostly good choices. They are kids after all.
Also, strict doesn't necessarily equal bad in the first place
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This one hits a little too close to home...
Also, the word you're looking for might be "abusive" rather than "strict".
The word you're looking for . . .
Might be, but almost certainly is not.
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There's a difference between strict and abusive.
Strict is bad enough.
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This one hits a little too close to home...
Also, the word you're looking for might be "abusive" rather than "strict".
Extreme strictness is a form of abuse. These symptoms are particular, though not individually exclusive, to strictness. As long as you "behave" you avoid the material effects of the abuse. Other forms of abuse typically have fewer "rules" that can be used as safeguards.
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Only if you get caught.
If it is your own parents grave I’m fairly certain you can claim you were mourning and had to go
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There's a difference between strict and abusive.
Both are dumb as shit
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Religious?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]My dad was on point with religion. Partially maybe "got". An ex alcoholic etc... but he is somewhat down to earth.
My mom didn't/doesn't understand spirituality ...i don't think. It's just raw religious power. Her Mom was my babysitter for the first 6 years of my life. I wasn't allowed to watch Nickelodeon. I think I vaguely remember not being able to watch sesame street. She would talk about angels.
I don't disagree with her now.. Nickelodeon and sesame Street is bullshit. But I don't think I wouldn't let a kid watch it or call it evil like if you watched it you'd go to hell.... Ide teach them that it's marketed ideology being taught, or at least try...
But as a kid. Maybe 8 or 9 I didn't realize it absolutely at the time but I was gay curious. I told myself I would kill myself because from my environment I knew that was wrong. I always told myself at least by the time I graduated highschool I would kms. Graduation came... I found weed and alcohol... So I stayed alive. I said... At 21 I will kill myself. My 21st b day came. I got stoned and drank till I was wasted and hated every moment of it. I stayed alive. I'll kms when I'm 25 I said. I turned 25... Same story... Weed and alcohol.. underground interest...
I'm almost 40 now. And life gets more fucked ... But now I dgaf. Fuck this place.
I've put a noose around my neck and tightened it till I pass out.
Everyday it looks more real that you are not actually crazy and American life might be a hell for humanity.
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I found out at a previous position that the best way to get my work done was to be short with people. In that case they wouldn't bother me, and I had more time to do my work.
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This post is starting to make me think people say "strict" strictly as a euphemism.
What I think it means: The parents never bend the rules for their kids.
What it apparently means: The parents have anger problems.
The problem is it's often difficult to admit you had abusive parents, and abusive parents love to describe themselves as just strict. So yeah it's kinda a euphemism
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My folks were technology skeptics and limited access to screens. We had strict allotments of time to access electronics.
This taught us how to game the rules and make up arguments to justify our discretions.
They were also lawyers, so we walked into the first trap.
As someone who was raised in a firmly careered household (engineering though) it's always interesting to see other variations on it.
