She said no: marriages in China plummet to record low
-
1 year here in Germany lol
-
Lord, you're right. Thanks for the fact check.
-
If their society was more equal, I think they’d be able to marry more for love/desire/want than security.
They'd have that possibility, but in at lot of western countries where that possibility is larger marriage rates are lower than in China.
-
North Carolina, it is a year.
-
Of living separated, though (if you don't have the funds for that disentangling as far as possible will suffice), which is waived in nasty circumstances. You can in principle divorce within minutes of filing if the court has a slow day, can squeeze you in, and you have all your paperwork in order. But the judge will want to see some kind of proof that the marriage actually failed for good, that you can't be reconciled.
-
That's true. But I think that idea kind of... Lingers over a lot of western countries. Like you said, a lot of women have it baked in that whoever they marry needs to be daddy 2.0, but I think some of that comes from the fear of "messing up." Not that divorced dads are out there dodging
on the daily, but women get a lot of "You picked the wrong guy, so you deserve it" so they panic about picking the "right" one. -
Or we could have fewer people with higher living standards, humanity does not get extra points for maintaining a high body count.
-
That's a very interesting read. Thank you.
-
so they panic about picking the “right” one.
One of the talking points is that women, when they can freely choose, very often go for the top 10% of men in terms of looks and income. That means of course there will be a lot of disappointment.
A serious rethinking of a lot of things in society needs to happen. Relationships and children are one part of this.
-
I think both sides are often looking for the top percent, but with men usually concerned with looks, since women aren't typically raised to be the breadwinner. Just look at memes about men and their ideal women — it's all about how attractive the cashier is, or the prettiest girl at school, etc. There aren’t that many stunning women in the world, and those who are, are aware that for, many men, their value is often based on their appearance — but that value is fleeting before they're "too old." Powerful men don’t usually end up with regular people, and it’s a common trope that once a man settles down, he’ll "upgrade." When men have money and options, they can afford to be picky, often seeking out someone gorgeous, and if there's a deeper connection, that's just a bonus.
Of course, memes aren’t a scientific reflection of reality, but it’s interesting that you rarely see memes like "model vs. woman I vibe with" instead of "pretty woman VS woman I think is prettier."It’s not that men shouldn’t have standards — there are definitely some wild women out there. But I don't think it's as simple as women just chasing the richest, most handsome men for no reason other than greed. For a long time, marriage was a woman’s only form of security — finding someone who could support her, possibly offer freedom, and ensure safety, all while staying within a timeline before she was seen as 'bargain goods.'" I think that mind set still lingers with a lot of women because there are always worse things for a woman than being single. As women gain more financial and societal freedom, they start getting picky because now no one really needs a partner. Women are now free to choose on looks, charm, sexual prowess, like men have in the past, but some women still hold that standard of the man being the main backbone of the house. So now, men have the same standards they put on women, plus the burden they (culturally) have put on themselves by being the head of household and main provider.
I think both sides need a lot of work.
-
Who could ever ever ask for more?
-
Ah the millennial sexual revolution.
But for real, Chinese people are just people but in China. Some of their conditions are different like the gender disparity but many are similar
-
The living standard doesn't have to be proportional to natural resources consumption. For example, many people would rather live in a walkable 20 min city than needing a car and getting stuck for hours in traffic.
