would dating him be worth it, do you think he could love me and would calm down if i said yes?
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You don’t want that guy. What you want is attention, and he was the last person to give it to you, therefore you think you want him.
Just get dressed up and go to a bar, and you’ll find enough guys who will give you that, without the red flags.
thanks so much!
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You basically just described a walking, talking red flag. What an asshole. That’s your answer btw: no.
Also, just going into a relationship to cure your loneliness is insultingly unfair for your future partner. This red flag is on you.
Just sort your own stuff out and stay away from any relationship for a while. You will only hurt yourself and others when starting one now.
I don't think it's unfair as long as you clearly communicate it and the other person is okay with it. Lots of oddities can be okay and fair as long as they're clearly communicated about and agreed on.
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thanks so much 🫂 gave me the ick a little that he barely acknowledged that i liked girls. he only cared about if i liked guys or had a bf, he only got upset when i liked a guy.
it’s almost as if he was trying to act like i was straight, which was a bit insulting to me. if i had a gf/liked a girl, he would act like that meant i was just single and not attracted to anyone at all.
as a bigender person, i identified as transfem as a teen. i had similar problems online where men would deny my bisexuality because for some reason, it’s gay for me to have a close and intimate friendship with a dude now that i’m more masc, but as a transfem, dating women just means “you’re gal pals”
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i just broke up with my bf who ghosted me. i don't even think i like guys but i have this compulsion to ask out my friend who i blocked just to have a man that treats me right and fit in with straight women who have bfs.
he kept talking about how he could treat me better than anyone else, that i should've ditched my bf for him (obv i said no), and badmouthed not only his ex of a few years since age 16 but also his first time. he left her bc she showed signs of schizophrenia and she blocked all his socials after he left.
he kept guilttripping me when i said i didn't want to be his gf so ik he doesn't care about consent regardless of what he says. he also completely ignored me liking women and acted like i was straight but i feel lonely.
i kinda wanna make him happy and have a bf who pays attention to me but ik i'm probably just saying this out of sadness. we were friends but i had to block.
Someone who will treat you well won't need to tell you that they will treat you well. It's kind of like how liars and scammers make a big deal about how honest they are. Another big clue is that he was telling you this while both of you were with other people. He cheats on one partner, he'd cheat on you, too.
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Someone who will treat you well won't need to tell you that they will treat you well. It's kind of like how liars and scammers make a big deal about how honest they are. Another big clue is that he was telling you this while both of you were with other people. He cheats on one partner, he'd cheat on you, too.
i agree with this. also, i feel like if they do it (he never said if they wore protection), the girl might’ve been acting weird because she was pregnant and he just leaves her. that’s sick.
(i cant say for sure but it might be a possibility)
op, it’s possible that he just wants u to meet up with him, have sex, and then leave once u either dont act how he wants u too or if u get pregnant. since he doesn’t seem to take no for an answer, he could also either pressure you into sex or just pressure you into not wearing protection if you choose to do so.
he doesn’t accept dissent in other matters, why would he in sex? especially if he discusses sexual topics with you.
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Someone who will treat you well won't need to tell you that they will treat you well. It's kind of like how liars and scammers make a big deal about how honest they are. Another big clue is that he was telling you this while both of you were with other people. He cheats on one partner, he'd cheat on you, too.
he broke up before he said all this. he was clearly into me and hitting on me before they broke up though, and the rest still stands. tysm
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thanks so much 🫂 gave me the ick a little that he barely acknowledged that i liked girls. he only cared about if i liked guys or had a bf, he only got upset when i liked a guy.
it’s almost as if he was trying to act like i was straight, which was a bit insulting to me. if i had a gf/liked a girl, he would act like that meant i was just single and not attracted to anyone at all.
Listen to that ick!! That's the part of you that knows your worth
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Sounds perfect for this woman with a nearly equal amount of red flags
I'd argue the man is worse. Not saying it's right, but OP is around 18 and all she did was want to date him out of loneliness. What other red flags do you see that I didn't catch?
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I'd argue the man is worse. Not saying it's right, but OP is around 18 and all she did was want to date him out of loneliness. What other red flags do you see that I didn't catch?
OP, you're still barely an adult, but using people to get over a breakup is not ok under any circumstances. I get you're sad, but you're in no place to date anyone right now
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i didn’t know all the details, he just said that she showed signs of schizophrenia and acted weird. i didn’t know her and didn’t know their relationship, but i know he did leave her because she had hallucinations, paranoia, thought objects were real (like dolls), and apparently age regressed a lot. he said she got too clingy and “weird” and even “crazy” for his liking. (which ik that word is stigmatizing in that context because in high school, we were told not to call ppl who showed signs of mental illness crazy)
He sounds extremely abusive.
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