How do I get rid of my verbal humilation and degradation kink
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
You really have to feel good in your own body and see yourself as someone who can be healthy about that. I guess you like the thrill of relating to these type of videos, but some day you'll wish for normalcy. Boredom, even.
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I have always felt that I'm a loser and very Inadequate. Because I'm 27 year old and I have never even been on a date and I got made fun of alot for my appearance throughout highschool. So I guess that why watching porn videos of hot women verbally humilating me and degrading is such a turn on for me.
Or maybe it's really a normal healthy kink that you could be exploring further.
I'd advise you to go to Fetlife, look for munches near you, go there and get the vibe of the people. Go several times because vibes can change from week to week.
You should be able to learn there that the people there aren't freaks but normal people. That what you're feeling is normal and that you're not the only one. And most importantly that you're not an ugly loser but also a normal person.
Don't go there with the expectation of finding a sexual partner. These are supposed to be safe spaces where one can go to exchange feelings and knowledge. Also don't go there with the expectation that everyone will be talking about sex and BDSM and fetishes all the time. Often enough they talk about all kinds of things.
If you're lucky your munch has some kind of way of onboarding new people. The organisers are the right people to talk to. They are usually very nice and not judgemental.
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I have always felt that I'm a loser and very Inadequate. Because I'm 27 year old and I have never even been on a date and I got made fun of alot for my appearance throughout highschool. So I guess that why watching porn videos of hot women verbally humilating me and degrading is such a turn on for me.
Also, if you're really lucky you might discover that your fantasy isn't actually that exciting in real life.
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
hold up.
you have a humiliation kink and you're afraid you're going to be too humiliated to let your partner know?
bruh, that's a level of simp I've never even thought of. you're like the simp god. lean into that shit and find you someone that will treat you like the piece of trash you know you are, because you deserve it.
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Well, it depends. Is it at all appealing when you're not horny? Or is it only during horny you find it appealing. If the latter, stop watching it. If it's the former you can't, it's part of you and you're probably going to have to find a way to be okay with it. I'm kind of into it to an extent but I draw the line at things that actually hurt my self-esteem. It could also be it's only part of it you find appealing.
Edit: It could also just be a fantasy and you'd hate if you actually tried it irl. I think I know how you feel. It'll be okay regardless.
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
The more common the kink, the more porn of it there is. You'll be ok. Everyone wants a spanking sometime.
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hold up.
you have a humiliation kink and you're afraid you're going to be too humiliated to let your partner know?
bruh, that's a level of simp I've never even thought of. you're like the simp god. lean into that shit and find you someone that will treat you like the piece of trash you know you are, because you deserve it.
Why would you assume it to be appropriate to attempt humiliating someone, even as a joke, just because you happened to discover they were into consensual practice of the kink? Super fucking weird bro. Would you just tie a random person up without asking them if they mentioned they were into rope bondage?
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Why would you assume it to be appropriate to attempt humiliating someone, even as a joke, just because you happened to discover they were into consensual practice of the kink? Super fucking weird bro. Would you just tie a random person up without asking them if they mentioned they were into rope bondage?
Jesus Christ, get over yourself.
you want an answer to your question then ask yourself this, did I honestly assume my feeble attempt to chastise a complete degenerate on the internet would result in my expected outcome?
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Jesus Christ, get over yourself.
you want an answer to your question then ask yourself this, did I honestly assume my feeble attempt to chastise a complete degenerate on the internet would result in my expected outcome?
By calling it "[your] expected outcome" I believe you've answered your own question there.
Consent is important, dickweed. Cry about it.
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By calling it "[your] expected outcome" I believe you've answered your own question there.
Consent is important, dickweed. Cry about it.
I'm not the one whinging on about it like a bitch, am I?
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
Find a Domme into as well be with her and be happy ?
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I'm not the one whinging on about it like a bitch, am I?
OP asked for advice, not horny role play. You leaning into their kink is icky at best.
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OP asked for advice, not horny role play. You leaning into their kink is icky at best.
and you getting icked out by a response that wasn't even directed at you is pathetic and screams "snowflake", what's your point?
I gave op advice. I told them to find themselves someone who would accept them for who they are. why are you getting so butthurt over a stupid comment on the internet? are you some kind of righteous white knight that feels an injustice has occurred and now you feel a strong sense of responsibility to put me in my place?
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and you getting icked out by a response that wasn't even directed at you is pathetic and screams "snowflake", what's your point?
I gave op advice. I told them to find themselves someone who would accept them for who they are. why are you getting so butthurt over a stupid comment on the internet? are you some kind of righteous white knight that feels an injustice has occurred and now you feel a strong sense of responsibility to put me in my place?
Nah the thing you're trying to describe is just basic social awareness.
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hold up.
you have a humiliation kink and you're afraid you're going to be too humiliated to let your partner know?
bruh, that's a level of simp I've never even thought of. you're like the simp god. lean into that shit and find you someone that will treat you like the piece of trash you know you are, because you deserve it.
I agree with Scranulum, this definitely isn't an appropriate response. They're asking for help and advice and you're throwing it in their face and making a joke of it.
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I agree with Scranulum, this definitely isn't an appropriate response. They're asking for help and advice and you're throwing it in their face and making a joke of it.
so instead of ignoring it and providing your own opinion you take attention away from OP and chastise me in an attempt to "teach me a lesson".
yeah, that makes sense.
I gave my opinion. you clearly don't like it. that's fine with me. I don't care much for your opinions either.
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
If you are kinky and are feeling bad about I would highly recommend you start listening and reading to my boy Dan Savage America's longest running sex-advice columnist. Hearing and understanding other people's kinks will put your own into perspective and you will understand that the only thing typical about human sexuality is how atypical it is. Almost everyone has at least 1 "non-normative sexual desires" so keep that it mind.
How do you get rid of kink? You don't. You can't. You can try but it will always come back. So you will need to understand this about yourself and accept it. Sexuality has been keep our species alive and fucking since before we were Homo sapiens. You can't fight it.
There is a potential to pivot a kink if you understand what it is about the kink that turns you on. If you are interested in humilating and degrading the root of this may just be a power exchange. Power exchange is pretty typical and almost all kinks have an aspect of that which may fulfill that itch for in person sex. You also can keep a kink to yourself even in a relationships. So you might be "out" about being into a submissive role but not share you are in degradation with your partner.
If you are interested in learning more I would recommend you read The New Bottoming Book and the The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. (Note the cover change in these pdfs). They will really open your eyes about how kinks are not some curse but a fun quirk of your sexuality's that gives your partners something fun to play with. Congratulations have Fun.
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so instead of ignoring it and providing your own opinion you take attention away from OP and chastise me in an attempt to "teach me a lesson".
yeah, that makes sense.
I gave my opinion. you clearly don't like it. that's fine with me. I don't care much for your opinions either.
Okay, this confirmed you actually are just trying to bait people. I'm a little slow so it went over my head at first.
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I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I'm a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don't want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I'm into this because it's so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
If this kind of play makes you truely happy Im sure you can find someone willing to be your dom. A lot of women are way kinkyer than they ever let on.
If you want to kick the fetish then just stop engaging with it. Make it off limits and find other things you like that are more socially accepted.
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Okay, this confirmed you actually are just trying to bait people. I'm a little slow so it went over my head at first.
how am I baiting people? I made a comment, you responded to me and continue to attack me. if anything you're baiting me.
