Sloth Demon
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Get in the line, buddy
Are doing like a lottery selection or some time of raffle for this?
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I'm not seeing the problem here.....
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I'll volunteer to keep y'all safe from this demon.
Thanks doom guy.
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Get in the line, buddy
Yeah and the line starts behind me, friend.
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Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships... draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this type of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I'm sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it's not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it's part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
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I'm not seeing the problem here.....
I think anon might be a bit of an incel...
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Are doing like a lottery selection or some time of raffle for this?
I'm going to work really hard to make something of myself to win the attention of the sloth demon.
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Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships... draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this type of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I'm sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it's not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it's part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
I mean, if we're making up a story about a kind of demon it probably shouldn't be a healthy relationship.
A succubus sucks your soul out through your crotch, which feels great until it doesn't. That's why its supposed to be a scary monster.
The post says, "until you die of natural causes", but for a counterpart to a succubus I think it would much more appropriate if it was able supernaturally influence you to reduce your worries and make you more and more dependent on it (just as a succubus can supernaturally charm its victims). Gradually you care about less and less as you lose all motivation, and at the end you don't even bother to struggle as your soul is ripped from your body.
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I mean, if we're making up a story about a kind of demon it probably shouldn't be a healthy relationship.
A succubus sucks your soul out through your crotch, which feels great until it doesn't. That's why its supposed to be a scary monster.
The post says, "until you die of natural causes", but for a counterpart to a succubus I think it would much more appropriate if it was able supernaturally influence you to reduce your worries and make you more and more dependent on it (just as a succubus can supernaturally charm its victims). Gradually you care about less and less as you lose all motivation, and at the end you don't even bother to struggle as your soul is ripped from your body.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Fair point and completely agree, but I was trying to divorce it a bit from the mythical/greentext framing (sorry if I left it ambiguous!) and referring to the more realistic version of such relationships, namely of the spouse/romantic partner/SO/you name it who plays a dutiful/doting parent for their partner.
In that case, I think outright malicious intent is seldom a direct driver for this type of relationship, usually has to do with either codependence, enforced Old Timey norms, or other such quasi-external/artificial sources. I do agree that the mythology around Succubi is a fine cautionary tale of what the result will be on the doted-upon partner's end, very hard to develop one's complexity when little to nothing is required of them in terms of effort in order to exist (not talking about poverty and such, just about normal everyday life stuff, like washing dishes, taking out the trash, cooking, paying bills, etc.).
And that's what generates the confusion and the need to clarify in me. I understand that the way I've been raised hasn't been necessarily conducive to objective reasoning in terms of interpersonal relationships and I'm trying to figure out if/where there are any lingering points of bias from this perspective within my processing.
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Isn't that what the paradise supposed to be?
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I think anon might be a bit of an incel...
Aren't all anons?
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Isn't that what the paradise supposed to be?
Kind of sounds like succubi.
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Fair point and completely agree, but I was trying to divorce it a bit from the mythical/greentext framing (sorry if I left it ambiguous!) and referring to the more realistic version of such relationships, namely of the spouse/romantic partner/SO/you name it who plays a dutiful/doting parent for their partner.
In that case, I think outright malicious intent is seldom a direct driver for this type of relationship, usually has to do with either codependence, enforced Old Timey norms, or other such quasi-external/artificial sources. I do agree that the mythology around Succubi is a fine cautionary tale of what the result will be on the doted-upon partner's end, very hard to develop one's complexity when little to nothing is required of them in terms of effort in order to exist (not talking about poverty and such, just about normal everyday life stuff, like washing dishes, taking out the trash, cooking, paying bills, etc.).
And that's what generates the confusion and the need to clarify in me. I understand that the way I've been raised hasn't been necessarily conducive to objective reasoning in terms of interpersonal relationships and I'm trying to figure out if/where there are any lingering points of bias from this perspective within my processing.
Sounds like a tricky question.
I would say that if my partner would basically do everything for me in housework I would feel uncomfortable if I was not also on some level giving back to the relationship.
Not that I like traditional roles but I feel in those there was at least the assumption that both work, one at home and one for another boss.In a scenario where someone really just does everything for you and there is nothing to contribute that would also feel grating and uncomfortable to me.
Just hearing about a partner who would cozy you up for a while though sounds chill to me and something that has happened to me and I have enjoyed. Especially if it feels contextually appropriate: you having a rough patch and getting more support from them.So when I first read it, thinking about my partner and me just chilling and me not having to do much of anything that did sound slightly tempting on some level as a fantasy.
Maybe that helps as a different perspective?
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Sounds like a tricky question.
I would say that if my partner would basically do everything for me in housework I would feel uncomfortable if I was not also on some level giving back to the relationship.
Not that I like traditional roles but I feel in those there was at least the assumption that both work, one at home and one for another boss.In a scenario where someone really just does everything for you and there is nothing to contribute that would also feel grating and uncomfortable to me.
Just hearing about a partner who would cozy you up for a while though sounds chill to me and something that has happened to me and I have enjoyed. Especially if it feels contextually appropriate: you having a rough patch and getting more support from them.So when I first read it, thinking about my partner and me just chilling and me not having to do much of anything that did sound slightly tempting on some level as a fantasy.
Maybe that helps as a different perspective?
wrote last edited by [email protected]Certainly does, thank you!
We have a lot of points in common from what I see, because I, too, start off feeling uncomfortable in a "hey, that's not exactly fair of me" manner, and evolves into an "ok, I'm starting to feel infantilised/suffocated" coded frustration if it persists after attempting to talk about it and balance things out a bit.
Otherwise, hell yeah! Gimme a lazy weekend on the couch with my SO, we'll binge everything under the sun! I don't mind being an utter slob as long as we both get to be slobs equally! But it's entirely untennable long-term, so I'd much prefer to be allowed to pull my own weight within the relationship, unless objectively incapacitating circumstances apply, as you've mentioned! And would gladly cover for my SO should said circumstances apply on their end (or, to be fair, if I'm in a particularly energised state and know that I can handle more, gotta keep the motivational adrenaline pumping!)
Thank you so much for providing your perspective, clarity is within reach now! Also, deeply appreciate this coming from a former Sloth Demon
(got to see your old tag for a spell, had a good laugh:))) )Edit: nevermind, it was the post title... new app, not used to the layout, also I'm fairly Krispy Kreme right now=))) Sorry :">
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Kind of sounds like succubi.
Slaanesh's sixth circle of seduction: indolency.
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I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You'd be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you're alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won't be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you're a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
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I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You'd be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you're alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won't be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you're a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
You write that as if it's abad thing but I'm sold already
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Anon forgets people actually have jobs.
If a "sloth demon" took care of all my household needs I'd just spend more time doing my job
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Yes please.
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Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships... draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this type of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I'm sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it's not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it's part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
wrote last edited by [email protected]To answer your question, yes, they are draining.
Why? Well you are living with another, who was not raised like you, live like you, or grew like you. Completely different and in each of these minutiae of differences you can find issues. Essentially it works in tandem with expectations and why they are still wanted.
It gives you emotional comfort, it gives you physical comfort, and above all else you start to form a union. Something so uniquely both of you that you have changed and so have they, in ways you couldn't imagine alone. You no longer feel isolated in your mind.
It is your parent and your child. Someone you will care for, and someone who will care for you. It keeps you grounded from flying to high, keeps your mind to consider someone before yourself.
The benefit is the world becoming dominable, while nothing has really changed. A partner is a helicopter parent because you tell them who you are and what you want, they just remind you of your own expectations and keep you faithful to it.
They are just a mirror of your own wants, needs, and wishes. So it is your own actions and words that will reflect.
If it is draining, it is because you have not interacted enough with the world to realize you are always being drained. Finding something of meaning to pour into becomes fantastically magical. Suddenly you are no longer drained, it is a willful action to pour and be captured by a vessel of your choosing.
