You guys have any conversation starters to offer a poor lemming?
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Hey, what major are you interested in?
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
The one thing that people like to talk about, more than any other thing, is themselves. Ask the right questions and ask follow-up questions. You'll find that if you do that and and you're polite about it, people warm up to you pretty quickly without you having to say a whole lot.
Stuff like the most (and/or least) interesting things they did this summer are good places to start.
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
This is an old post i saved for this kind of moment so here ya go.
About 6 or 7 years ago my college roommate told me: Conversation isn’t something any one person is good or bad at, it’s a skill like anything else. Everything changed once I thought about it like this.
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The more new people you talk to the easier it is. Especially the opposite sex.
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Everyone else has their own anxieties and fears. They’re just better at hiding it or masking it than you. Use this to your advantage to point out things you have in common and relate to them.
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When someone talks, LISTEN. Don’t worry about your posture, your dog, your clothing. Listen to them. If you don’t understand something, stop them and ask. Engage with them. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t know.
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Ask open ended questions. Don’t ask, “Did you have a good day?” Instead ask “What was the best part about your day?” “What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about your job?” Make them feel important. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. So do you. Take that feeling and shove it way down. When they ask about you, that’s your turn to shine. If they don’t, you don’t really want to be friends anyway.
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Never one-up people. Even if you are way better, or know way more than the person talking to you, build them up.
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If someone is telling a story or saying something and they get cut off, find the next opportunity to bring them back in. “Hey, _______ you were talking about X, what did you want to say?”
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Laugh at their jokes. Laugh at your jokes. We’re all weird brains walking around in these skin things. Don’t take it so seriously.
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You will remember your mistakes WAY more than anyone else. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
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My last and 2nd most important tip. Start every conversation with a compliment. I don’t care if they’re a dude and you’re straight as fuck. I don’t care if they’re mean, evil to you, or disagree with you politically in every way. Find something about the way they look, and compliment it. Someone did this to me once when I was a new guest at someone’s apartment. “Hey man, that’s an awesome jacket, where’d you get it?” I fucking loved that jacket. And I was self conscious about it. I felt instantly at home.
Take the things you like, and be that person for someone else. If you’re on a date, be genuinely interested in that person.
These are things that worked for me. Find your own style.
The #1 tip!! Go into EVERY room as if people will like you. Seriously. Walk through any door, in front of any group of people and smile. They. Will. Like you. Keep that in the front of your mind and you will enjoy conversations with anyone.
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okay, so.
the meter used to be how long a line had to be on a pendulum for it to have a periodicity of one second. This got re-evaluated and standardized to what it is now, which is 1/10,000,000 the length between the equator and the north pole. but that number itself was chosen because it's pretty close to what the meter was before it was set to that value.
So the length of the line to get that period on a pendulum is about a meter, and gravity also has an effect on the speed a pendulum swings.I read something about it on stack exchange, but couldn't find that link anymore, but the one above has the same info
That has nothing to do with either g or pi. Also this definition is long outdated.
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That has nothing to do with either g or pi. Also this definition is long outdated.
t = 2pi*sqrt(m/(mg/l)) is the pendulum formula, it directly calls pi and g.
it's outdated, yes, but it's really close to what we currently use as a meter. and the fact that it's really close made it easier to switch to the new meter basis. -
The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I don't feel like I can give you literal conversation starters that aren't super boring or generic (like chats about the weather), without way more context than is possible to obtain at this stage.
But, one thing that did help me strike conversations and eventually friendships with people, was just hanging around campus doing stuff that piqued other people's interest.
A couple of times it was me playing on my Nintendo 3DS between lectures, and once someone even came up to me to compliment my Sony Discman.
Other times it might be something as simple as there not being any empty tables in the cafeteria, so you ask to sit with someone. If they're not clearly busy or studying, you might start by asking what course they do, how they're finding it, etc. These are all fairly passive approaches though, and that's possibly related to my extreme introversion.
A slightly more active suggestion – take advantage of group assignments! (As much as I hate them.) Make plans to meet up. Get a few hours of work done together then hang out with a few beers or a soda or whatever. Win-win.
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
'Ave you seen that ludicrous display last night?
(apologies, I don't like talking to people)
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Im terrible with small talk. I recently just got a customer facing job, which I had been trying to avoid, and it has honestly helped me a lot. I think like some others have said, conversation is a skill. The more you do it, the better you get. Here is an actual tip though - if you just let people yap about themselves, they will love you for it. I get tons of compliments on my customer service because people love talking about themselves and I don't interrupt.
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That's the third most autistic thing I've read on Lemmy today.
What was the fourth?
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One time conversation or just chatting whenever?
Was the Australopithicus revived in our time, or am I transported to its time?
You said "talk to ". Will either of them intelligibly respond?
You have a universal translator. They're as intelligent as they are/were in real life
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Just check yourself against accidental sexism/intimidation, because I'm sure no lemming would do it on purpose, and rephrase if necessary.
'That's the third best t-shift I've ever seen! I MUST have it!', or what how could you picture if being said wrong?
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Make an observation, any observation, and say something about it. You'll find that it's fun talking to randos even for just a few words. Like if you say "This line is long." And they just grunt.
And about silly things. I was at a restaurant and, as listed in the menu, they has a "boneless chicken pot pie". So I asked the waitress if I coukd have the chicken bone in. Silly things like that.
Hope that helps
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Make an observation, any observation, and say something about it. You'll find that it's fun talking to randos even for just a few words. Like if you say "This line is long." And they just grunt.
And about silly things. I was at a restaurant and, as listed in the menu, they has a "boneless chicken pot pie". So I asked the waitress if I coukd have the chicken bone in. Silly things like that.
Hope that helps
IT GOTTA HAVE THE BONES
I WILL TAKE NOTHIN LESS -
This is an old post i saved for this kind of moment so here ya go.
About 6 or 7 years ago my college roommate told me: Conversation isn’t something any one person is good or bad at, it’s a skill like anything else. Everything changed once I thought about it like this.
-
The more new people you talk to the easier it is. Especially the opposite sex.
-
Everyone else has their own anxieties and fears. They’re just better at hiding it or masking it than you. Use this to your advantage to point out things you have in common and relate to them.
-
When someone talks, LISTEN. Don’t worry about your posture, your dog, your clothing. Listen to them. If you don’t understand something, stop them and ask. Engage with them. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t know.
-
Ask open ended questions. Don’t ask, “Did you have a good day?” Instead ask “What was the best part about your day?” “What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about your job?” Make them feel important. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. So do you. Take that feeling and shove it way down. When they ask about you, that’s your turn to shine. If they don’t, you don’t really want to be friends anyway.
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Never one-up people. Even if you are way better, or know way more than the person talking to you, build them up.
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If someone is telling a story or saying something and they get cut off, find the next opportunity to bring them back in. “Hey, _______ you were talking about X, what did you want to say?”
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Laugh at their jokes. Laugh at your jokes. We’re all weird brains walking around in these skin things. Don’t take it so seriously.
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You will remember your mistakes WAY more than anyone else. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
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My last and 2nd most important tip. Start every conversation with a compliment. I don’t care if they’re a dude and you’re straight as fuck. I don’t care if they’re mean, evil to you, or disagree with you politically in every way. Find something about the way they look, and compliment it. Someone did this to me once when I was a new guest at someone’s apartment. “Hey man, that’s an awesome jacket, where’d you get it?” I fucking loved that jacket. And I was self conscious about it. I felt instantly at home.
Take the things you like, and be that person for someone else. If you’re on a date, be genuinely interested in that person.
These are things that worked for me. Find your own style.
The #1 tip!! Go into EVERY room as if people will like you. Seriously. Walk through any door, in front of any group of people and smile. They. Will. Like you. Keep that in the front of your mind and you will enjoy conversations with anyone.
Honestly some grade A advice!
Im definitely stealing this
No take back!!
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Greetings fellow humans! have you consumed your daily complex carbohydrates and proteins today, and consumed a liquid with a organic suspension of the extracts from the plants coffea arabica.
He speaks of the dirty bean water!
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I've got something for you guys...
reach into coat pocket
hold up thumb with a sight tremour
... a good time!
grimace while trying to smile
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'Ave you seen that ludicrous display last night?
(apologies, I don't like talking to people)
That's the thing about Arsenal
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'That's the third best t-shift I've ever seen! I MUST have it!', or what how could you picture if being said wrong?
wrote last edited by [email protected]"I must have it!" or "where can I get one?" is a good addition, makes it clear you're paying attention to the shirt, not what's under it.
(Edit to add, the same words can come off different depending on who's talking to whom. For example, a guy compliments another guy's new shoes and adds, "I bet you can run really fast in those!" It's a funny nostalgic meme reference. The same sentence to a random girl, she's starting to wonder if she'll be running from him....)
I know you're following up on previous comments but to me, adding "third" feels a bit clickbaity, and also a bit backhanded, like you're starting an argument rather than a conversation.
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
"Did you see that guy on a horse go by? Yeah, it was just a guy riding by on a horse."
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Why couldn't the pirate play cards?
He was sitting on the deck.
