What are things that you(know/do) think would be useful for others(saves time, improves quality) if they also knew/did it too?

[essell@lemmy.world]

Almost all the reasons I hear for not going to therapy don't apply to holistic therapy, only the medical approach.

Find a humanistic therapist if you want someone to support you rather than fix you.

[___@graffitiwall.net]

Additional suggestions for pc/laptop

ffmpeg for audio and video
pdftk for pdf

Used these for simple tasks, eg cropping/converting movie formats, taking out/combining pdf pages. Both are fast and light and havent failed (so far).

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[marighost@lemm.ee]

culture shock of seeing China having solved all necessities of a civilized society

Except for basic human rights concepts like freedom of speech, right?

[pebbles@sh.itjust.works]

I really like this. Humans are generally kind.

[achyu@lemmy.sdf.org]

Thank you

[readmorebooks@lemmy.zip]

I'm brown. Yesterday, I was moving into a new place and asked a Trump-hat wearing,
ex-military boomer what day was trash day. He gave me an explanation of all the good and bad of the neighborhood, told me to use his trash bin this week, and invited my wife and I to dinner. When we showed up his wife asked why we didn't bring our dog because he's a member of our family.

Many things I thought I understood about others have recently been nuked by experiences.

[anissem@lemmy.ml]

Don’t give up, I believe in you

[evasive_chimpanzee@lemmy.world]

For fitness:

The absolute "best exercise" for someone to do is whatever they find enjoyable/fun, baring some sports, etc, that are harmful to your joints and/or brain (like American football). Fitness is about long term, sustainable effort. Some strict program that follows all the best science isn't going to help you in the long term if you don't stay consistent with it.

As long as you are either creating forceful muscle exertions or getting your heart rate up (preferably both), and it's an activity you can stick with, you are good to go.

It's similar with diet. Whatever you can consistently do to hit reasonable macros, with a nice bit of fiber and minimal junk, go for it. People might tell you that it's better to get 100% of your protein from meals rather than having protein shakes, but for a lot of people, going without that protein shake will just end up with them undershooting their protein needs.

[pebbles@sh.itjust.works]

That's awesome. I have a lot of conservative family and none of them are hateful to people in front of them. They are generally very caring and kind.

From my perspective they are told to fear groups to the point of hating them. Its not rooted in any of their experiences, not originally. So, just like you, given concrete evidence they change.

[readmorebooks@lemmy.zip]

I'll share a little more awesome, then.

My wife and I rented a rental property using a process where neither the landlord or ourselves used a computer. We saw it advertised in the local weekly newspaper, drove by, and the landlord was cleaning. She hadn't advertised anywhere else. She asked about criminal history and jobs. But, she didn't perform background or credit checks. Only after we signed the lease did she ask to take pictures of our government-issued identification.

[sir_kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

You're right, it's not perfect over there for sure.

[58008@lemmy.world]

If you're in debt and it's affecting your mental health and making you contemplate ending it all, don't worry, there is a way to get your life back again. The following info is about the UK and N. Ireland, but it is highly likely similar info is available wherever you happen to be:

StepsChange is a charity that acts as a middleman between you and your debtors. The charity will negotiate reasonable and specially-tailored monthly payments for your debtors, which - depending on your income and savings and all that - will not cripple you every month. You can pay off what you owe and still have money left to life your fuckin' life. Yes it's a charity, but they don't give you free money, you pay your own debts, but you just do it in a way that isn't ruining you.

I've seen this work with multiple family members, so I can 100% vouch for StepsChange and the dream-like positive change it made in their lives. It takes what amounted to many hundreds of pounds a month and reduces it to like 30. It's insane how much they can help you. Please contact them if you're in financial trouble.

Similar charities must exist elsewhere, so look into it if you're not from these parts. There is always hope.

[daskapitalist@lemmy.ml]

What is a humanistic therapist?

[sir_kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

I've been looking but no not yet. Maybe now that this thing is so huge someone is working on one.
The official app has built in translation.

[sir_kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

I'm no longer convinced they have any homeless. Maybe hidden away somewhere like their slaves. It's nothing close to the scale of the US though.
I'm not saying utopia, just eye opening.

[essell@lemmy.world]

Someone who works with a particular style of therapy. I'm gonna over simplify because this is a lemmy post not a classroom.

There's psychodynamic therapy (think Freudian) where the therapist works out what's wrong with you and tells you what you need to do to fix it.

There's behavioural therapy (think CBT) where what you feel isn't the issue, it's about changing your behaviour to fix your life.

And there's humanistic (think Carl Roger's Person Centred, etc) which is about the therapist being an ally, working with awareness, support and warmth. They're the most non judgmental, they're the best for making changes at a deep level and they're least likely to tell you what to do. Advice is not part of the work.