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Has anyone else decided not to swear?

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  • dzso@lemmy.worldD [email protected]

    The word itself isn't bad. In fact, many languages use the equivalent word as a regular part of their vocabulary. What's bad is the intention and history behind it. Using a racial slur isn't wrong because of the word being said, but rather because of the intention to offend or demean the people it's used toward.

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    What word is that?

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      Swearing is brilliant if you smash your thumb with a hammer, or break something expensive. If you swear all the time in normal conversation you don't have any special words left to use when those things I mentioned happen.

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      Shouting “asparagus” is just as good, neurologically. It’s the action that matters, not the word.

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      • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

        I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

        My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

        I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

        I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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        I swore for emphasis in a job interview and got the job! It was definitely a risk but they received the message I was trying to convey so it worked.

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        • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

          I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

          My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

          I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

          I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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          I think swearing is good if not overused.

          I've heard studies show that people who swear are trusted more, something about them coming across more open and genuine.

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            I think swearing is good if not overused.

            I've heard studies show that people who swear are trusted more, something about them coming across more open and genuine.

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            I agree, I save my good swears for special occasions.

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            • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

              I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

              My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

              I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

              I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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              I've considered removing or at least reducing swearing in my common language usage, but I don't consider it enough to just replace swearing with placeholder words. "What the fudge" doesn't work, in my mind, because it is still clear to everybody what my brain was trying to say before my resolution not to swear intervened. "What on earth are you talking about?" Much better.

              I kind of realised through running that through to its end that what my issue was, with swearing, was lazy use of language. So I still swear, but I try not to lean on the words as crutches.

              Where this puts me, language usage-wise, is in a position where I'm using swearing as a tool to accentuate my meaning or express emotion succinctly, since I don't swear as often it carries more weight.

              For instance, my high school bully was a reprehensible human being but Donald Trump is a worthless fucking cunt.

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                Personally, I try not to swear even when I stub my toe… but it's quite difficult sometimes. When I do swear, I want it to be a deliberate decision.

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                I mostly agree but there really is no more powerful painkiller than "fuck" after the moment of impact

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                • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                  I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                  My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                  I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                  I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                  I would be the odd one out if I did. Hell, my general manager curses more than I do. It's just how it is in my line of work.

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                  • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                    I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                    My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                    I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                    I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                    I pump the brakes with the swearing if I'm around kids, complete strangers, or people I know really take offense to it.

                    Other than that, no. I swear a lot and have no intention to lessen that. It's an excellent coping mechanism for stress.

                    Replacing it with things like "what the cluck" would only add to the anger I feel in the moment because I think that's horribly cringe.
                    I would much rather just not say anything.

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                    • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                      I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                      My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                      I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                      I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                      I don't understand why such minced oaths are socially acceptable among people who don't want to swear for religious reasons. Do they really not realize that they're thinking "fuck" and effectively saying "fuck"?!

                      And what about the Catholics who take the position that a sin in thought is just as evil as a sin in deed?

                      Either say "fuck" or stop even thinking "fuck". Anything in between is disingenuous bullshit.

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                      • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                        I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                        My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                        I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                        I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                        No fucken way cunt!

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                          I'm trying to swear less. Or rather, to swear only where a swear is warranted.

                          My Dad has a habit of interjecting constant cuss words into everything he says,ike "I was at the fucking supermarket right and then I'm just trying to find a fucking tin of beans..." and it's just so unnecessary, to the point where the swears mean nothing because they are just peppered everywhere. I have to keep.reminding him, "Dad, please tone it down a little"

                          And that's an easy habit to get into but its exactly what I don't want to be doing - swearing just as punctuation.

                          If a situation calls for a swear then I will swear quite happily, "Ouch, my fucking toe!!" and I'll use the proper word. There's no need to find childish swear-alternatives.

                          But I don't want to sound like I can't even stop it.

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                          Yeah it's reduction not elimination. Swearing all the time robs those words of their intensity.

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                          • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                            I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                            My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                            I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                            I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                            Which commandment does saying "fuck" violate?

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                              Mixing it up can be fun. "Gosh fucking darn it" usually gets some sideways looks.

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                              "what the hecking shit??"

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                              • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                                I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                                My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                                I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                                I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                                I try to avoid it as much as possible since I think its a good habit. I don't have any issue with people who swear I just choose not to. It does become an issue occasionally since there just is not always good replacements for a lot of swear words meaning it can be difficult to express the emotion you are trying to say. I don't think there is anything wrong with choosing to do this but I still find it odd that we as a society just kinda accept that a certain set of words are special and can't always be said.

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                                • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                                  I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                                  My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                                  I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                                  I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                                  no that's fucking stupid

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                                  • crmsnbleyd@sopuli.xyzC [email protected]

                                    I don't have a thing against swearing but I do sometimes say heck instead of fuck

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                                    "Fuck dude, like what the H man!"

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                                    • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                                      I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                                      My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                                      I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                                      I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                                      As an online gamer:
                                      Call someone a slur - boring, stupid, causes harm but rarely to the target.
                                      Call someone an 'absolute potato' - seething rage, I am NOT a potato!

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                                      • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                                        I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                                        My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                                        I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                                        I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                                        No, I swear a bunch. But not all the time in all company.

                                        People who do stand-in words like you described are really slimy to me. The last moment edit of thoughts right before it becomes voice indicates you're hiding something.

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                                        • voytek709@lemmy.caV [email protected]

                                          I used to swear a lot. I decided to not swear at all (except for possibly mild swears), instead replacing most swears with minced oaths.

                                          My family is Christian and I would get yelled at for swearing even if it just slipped out. So far, I don’t swear unless I’m feeling a strong emotion or acting impulsively, but I’ll usually say things like “F/eff” or “fudge” instead of the F-word.

                                          I like to be “creative”, so my go-tos are usually “Go fudge yourself”, or “What the cluck?”

                                          I might say “mother lover” instead of MF

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                                          Fuck no. Though I have removed gendered swears from use.

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