Sloth Demon
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To answer your question, yes, they are draining.
Why? Well you are living with another, who was not raised like you, live like you, or grew like you. Completely different and in each of these minutiae of differences you can find issues. Essentially it works in tandem with expectations and why they are still wanted.
It gives you emotional comfort, it gives you physical comfort, and above all else you start to form a union. Something so uniquely both of you that you have changed and so have they, in ways you couldn't imagine alone. You no longer feel isolated in your mind.
It is your parent and your child. Someone you will care for, and someone who will care for you. It keeps you grounded from flying to high, keeps your mind to consider someone before yourself.
The benefit is the world becoming dominable, while nothing has really changed. A partner is a helicopter parent because you tell them who you are and what you want, they just remind you of your own expectations and keep you faithful to it.
They are just a mirror of your own wants, needs, and wishes. So it is your own actions and words that will reflect.
If it is draining, it is because you have not interacted enough with the world to realize you are always being drained. Finding something of meaning to pour into becomes fantastically magical. Suddenly you are no longer drained, it is a willful action to pour and be captured by a vessel of your choosing.
These types of comments is why I conseder lemmy to be the best of social media.
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Yes please.
It's all I've ever wanted
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I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You'd be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you're alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won't be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you're a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
Now that is worth being scared of. Thank you
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I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You'd be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you're alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won't be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you're a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
That's the wombo combo of depression and poverty.
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I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You'd be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you're alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won't be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you're a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
So, an energy vampire
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Oh, I think there's a misunderstanding, I wasn't referring to relationships in general, only the ones where one of the partners is expected/insists on doing all of the household/caretaking tasks by themselves, those I find overbearing and draining - the ones where, for whatever reason, one partner exclusively acts as a parent for the other.
Relationships overall, quite the contrary! I generally find them fulfilling, although I show a tendency to seek familiarity, which means unhealthy dynamics and, frequently, unpleasant endings... That's 75% on me and my still-mending patterns (because I am aware there are many manipulators who specifically seek out their targets).
And I don't find the world in general draining, either! What drains me is hate, greed, bigotry, xenophobia of all shapes and sizes, everything driving some of our species to commit horrible acts. But to say that the world in general drains me is to be unfair to the myriad people who are beacons of wisdom, who have that particular spark which lights up a whole room, those who can see even the tiniest details and set them into wonderfully intricate webs of causality!
Not just that, but the world itself is wondrous! I cannot but feel recharged when I see a starry night sky, or a warm summer sunset, sit and listen to the waves crashing against the shore, or just lose myself for hours in meditation listening to rain pattering over everything around me!
It fills me to the brim to know you can see the way your cup fills at the marvel of our stars, at the patience within your meditation.
Relationships like this can be draining because you wish to compensate or match somehow. So it creates almost a directionless frustration of inadequacy.
It is how I felt when my love would work 2 jobs and I had so much time and couldn't really do chores because of my upbringing. Making it a threshold I had to cross as an adult.
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isn't the embodiement of the sin
So it's not actually a giant sloth with big titties like I was imagining?
This sounds like a big win. I wasn't going to cure cancer or be president anyway. At least with the sloth demon, I don't have to worry about having a job to pay my bills. The demon's got it covered.
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I'll take this one for the team, please send this demon to me.
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Being the president isn't that a good thing these days... Just saying...
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Doesn't this imply that the world would progress as nornal, just with demons taking care of everything and all the humans just chilling at home? (Assuming the demon actually works and doesn't just conjure up whatever it needs to take care of you)
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Demon? Dude this sounds like heaven.
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Don't threaten me with a good time!
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My wife and I discussed something along these lines today. She said I would probably enjoy a nerdy gamer girl. I told her I'd end up pretty much like the sloth demon victim, completely unchallenged and lazy.
That's not to say a female gamer couldn't be a fulfilling, awesome girlfriend for anyone, but I know it wouldn't be ideal for me.
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Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships... draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this type of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I'm sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it's not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it's part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
wrote last edited by [email protected]all this means is you're more well-adjusted than the average 4chan user.
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Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships... draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this type of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I'm sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it's not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it's part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
Honestly, people on here would find this hot/great for like a day, maybe a week max. If it goes on more than that, the negative side effects will kick in.
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Ah the dream
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Yes, I'd like a big tiddy sloth demon taking care of me, pretty please
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This is my life. Plus 2 cats.
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Can I get the man version of that? Kthnx
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It fills me to the brim to know you can see the way your cup fills at the marvel of our stars, at the patience within your meditation.
Relationships like this can be draining because you wish to compensate or match somehow. So it creates almost a directionless frustration of inadequacy.
It is how I felt when my love would work 2 jobs and I had so much time and couldn't really do chores because of my upbringing. Making it a threshold I had to cross as an adult.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Ooh, I wouldn't consider that a parent-partner type of relationship, sounds like there were some solid reasons for that unbalanced distribution! At least, that's how I would see it, with the context of my upbringing having left me with several deficiencies in other areas of my psyche. They can be hard thresholds to cross, objectively speaking.
As for the frustration, as I understand it from this context, it was generated not by being coddled/babied, but by wanting and being unable. To me, it all comes down to intent. If a person wants to [something] but they can't [something] due to stuff like health issues (physical or psychological), then that's a completely different type of situation, it's part of those objective incapacitators which I've mentioned in my initial comment.
To me, this is perfectly understandable and acceptable as long as it's clear that my partner truly wants to try to rebalance everything. It's when these types of blockers are constantly being used as an excuse, yet nothing is done to try to get through them that I see as a problem, because it basically means said person isn't interested in participating from the start.
Either way, I'm sorry you had to go through that... I know how difficult it can be to want to do something, but to not be allowed to do so by our own brain...
