Anon dates a 19 y/o
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I'm 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the "Half your age plus 7" test
(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24)
Sometimes I still feel weird about it thoughI'm just a bit older, but been there.
I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and... yeah, I don't think I can do this y'all.
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I have not heard someone say "big mood" in years
Anon's girl is already falling behind
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Wow that actually makes sense.
But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.
Edit: to those who downvoted, why?
…those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts.
You’re being very assuming with people and that’s why the downvotes.
Not every person will be “TikTok addicted” or “Facebook-relicts”, you’re just assuming they are which is only affecting your own chances finding someone.
Try just getting to know someone first before you start assuming about their interests or what they do.
… and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together…
Who says you have to spend time with your SO’s siblings for any great length of time? Parties and holidays you can get through, but it’s not like you’re going to go live with the family.
You and your SO should both have your own friends and hobbies (in addition to joint friends/hobbies). I’m not trying to crap on having a relationship with your SO’s family, just that it’s not mandatory.
I feel like removing these two arbitrary requirements would vastly increase your dating pool. I get that people are looking for traits in a potential partner (doesn’t smoke / drinks / poly / not-poly / uses Arch) but the ones you’ve picked are just self limiting
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When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be "hip" or "trendy" to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations "Boomers" just makes you sound like you didn't pay attention in history class.
Born in the 1900s? What'd you do before they invented fire? Ride dinos?
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No one knows the true origin of the idea but there's a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.
The first published example is Max O'Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901
I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.
Interesting, though this sounds like it's not supposed to be the minimum age, but the ideal age.
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I have not heard someone say "big mood" in years
i say it al the time lol
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Can't fathom calling a 28 year old a hag
It's a similar joke to calling 30-yos boomers
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Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?
I never considered that the ages stack
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Just FYI, this rule falls apart after a certain age (in the 60s or 70s).
wrote last edited by [email protected]Nah I think it holds up. Bill Belichick, 73, was in the news for dating a 24 year old and it's not only creepy and gross, but also like she's taking advantage of him by inserting herself into his interviews.
If he were dating a 43 year old, I don't think anyone would be nearly as concerned.
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people both younger and older than me talk like this and I just want to go anywhere else every time I hear it
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When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.
Exactly, this "rule" is really just equivalent to other forms of snake oil there is. It is baseless and completely made up.
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When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.
What's interesting is this rule apparently originated from the early 1900s.
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This reminder me for some reason of how my grandfather cheated on his wife a few years ago and had a heart attack during sex. He's like 80 or so.
When you have heart procedures/ surgery, they tell you, "no sex for 6 weeks with your spouse, 8 weeks with anyone else." Theres science backing up the extra strain/excitement of having sex with someone else
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The brainrot is real, even with "old hags". My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new "memes" that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.
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When did we as a society give up on the "½ X +7" minimum dating age formula?
Probably about the time that we decided that a certain age means you're an adult and can, in fact, make decisions for yourself
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I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.
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When you have heart procedures/ surgery, they tell you, "no sex for 6 weeks with your spouse, 8 weeks with anyone else." Theres science backing up the extra strain/excitement of having sex with someone else
But honey, the doctor said I could have sex with other women if I waited 8 weeks after the surgery, so it's not cheating!
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And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.
They have nothing in common. There's no way. It's pure physical attraction above all else.
Edit: Seemingly a lot of older people down voting this are in denial about how much they have in common with some 18 year old girl/guy as a romantic partner. You understand you're not fooling anyone, right? Not even other people like you. Underneath, you all know what you're about.
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It had to be a thing before how I met your mother, I remember it being a thing during school in the 80-90’s
Totally fair, lots of folks have chimed in about it. Really interesting to see it's over 100 years old (although more focused on ideal partner, not avoiding being creepy)
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No one knows the true origin of the idea but there's a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.
The first published example is Max O'Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901
I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.
Interesting stuff thanks for adding. I added an edit to address. Appreciate you chiming in
