What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?
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That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.
We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.
Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.
If more people realized this, life would be a lot more simple. I never grew up. I just got older.
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Shower sex.
In the movies it looks so hot, but in reality, you've got a eyes and mouth full of soap and your freezing. 2/10
You are doing it wrong.
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i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.
your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources?
I'm sorry, I'm not going to divulge my personal financial details on the open internet. Why does this number matter to our discussion? I appreciate if you're trying to offer financial or life planning advice. I don't think I'm in need, but I appreciate your concern.
I'll say this. On this chart, I believe I am past the fourth level (Esteem) and working on number 5 (self actualization).
there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck.
Getting the job initially is a whole series of lucky events sometimes decades in the making.
There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you.
Not only do you have do work hard on keeping relationships (this is part of the 25% I was talking about) you have to live to enjoy it. Further, your mate has to live and there's all kinds of things that can happen to them through no fault of their own (this is part of the 75% luck I was talking about earlier).
i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.
There is a tiny tiny fraction you can do to keep/improve your health vs the vast majority of the things in this world trying to kill you or make you sick/injured. I'd change the percentages on this even further: 10% in your control to 90% luck.
I don't mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don't make near what the CEO does but many more get there.
i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don't always agree)
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Nobody gives a single shit about you.
It’s true I give a multiple shit about you
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Nobody cares. You're homeless? Nobody cares. You just got dumped? Nobody cares. You're sick? Nobody cares. You're struggling? Nobody cares.
Sure you might have some friends who care in a very superficial way, but when the going gets tough, everybody leaves.
There's just no hope, and you're on your own.
You need better friends, but I don’t want to discount your feelings sometimes it is that way, and I’m sorry for it, but there are good people out there
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I don't mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don't make near what the CEO does but many more get there.
i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don't always agree)
I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria.
Gotcha, I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. My apologies for misunderstanding your question.
if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.
All of those examples assume you're starting from a reasonably high baseline of stability, mental & physical health, resources, and likely education. My point is that you can't assume those things. Lots and lots of people aren't even lucky enough to have that starting baseline to even start working toward any of those achievements in your examples.
That's why I said that my particular personal goals are irrelevant, but where I've gotten most would look at and define it as successful, and that I recognize that so many points on that path I was lucky to have the "upside" outcome rather than the "downside" outcome which would have left me far less successful, or at worst, dead. It really doesn't take many of the inflection points in our lives to not go our way for us to be knocked way down or knocked out entirely. I am very lucky that hasn't been my fate.
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Shower sex.
In the movies it looks so hot, but in reality, you've got a eyes and mouth full of soap and your freezing. 2/10
You start in the shower. Wash yourselves, wash each other, tease a little, then dry off, get into a clean bed and have at it. Standing sex in the shower is mediocre at best.
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What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.
Microwaving at full power for whatever time feels right
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
I never became adult
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What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.
Microwave
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Life is only shades of gray it’s not a marvel movie with clear cut Good and Bad
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.
Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.
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I never became adult
"You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."
Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.
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How easy and fast it is to cook good food. My mom acted like making real mashed potatoes was sooo difficult.
I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.
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That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.
We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.
Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.
No they’re not still kids!!
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I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.
I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.
That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".
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Mike Judge must have psychic abilities or something because literally everything in the movie is coming true rofl.
Man Mike Judge is great. Between Common Side Effects and the KotH renewal, Judge fans are eating good.
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"You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."
Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.
Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?
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I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.
That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".
Do you have a freezer? If not buy one.
You can make enough food for ten meals in the time it takes to prepare one meal.
I have a five quart pot and a lot of pint size containers. I'll make a pot of stew/chili/soup and freeze portions for later use. Right now I have three choices sitting in the freezer.
Another trick is to roast an entire chicken on Sunday, and then have roast chicken as a main ingredient for the rest of the week. Chicken sandwich, chicken taco, etc.
A big salad can last two or three days in the fridge.
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Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?
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