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What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?

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    I never became adult

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    "You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."

    Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.

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      How easy and fast it is to cook good food. My mom acted like making real mashed potatoes was sooo difficult.

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      I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.

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        That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.

        We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.

        Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.

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        No they’re not still kids!!

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          I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.

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          I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.

          That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".

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            Mike Judge must have psychic abilities or something because literally everything in the movie is coming true rofl.

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            Man Mike Judge is great. Between Common Side Effects and the KotH renewal, Judge fans are eating good.

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              "You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."

              Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.

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              Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?

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                I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.

                That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".

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                Do you have a freezer? If not buy one.

                You can make enough food for ten meals in the time it takes to prepare one meal.

                I have a five quart pot and a lot of pint size containers. I'll make a pot of stew/chili/soup and freeze portions for later use. Right now I have three choices sitting in the freezer.

                Another trick is to roast an entire chicken on Sunday, and then have roast chicken as a main ingredient for the rest of the week. Chicken sandwich, chicken taco, etc.

                A big salad can last two or three days in the fridge.

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                  Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?

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                  Have you ever considered buying a device that connects to the internet and has a 'search engine?'

                  Have You?

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                    Man Mike Judge is great. Between Common Side Effects and the KotH renewal, Judge fans are eating good.

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                    Common Side Effects was stunning. Absolutely recommend.

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                      Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.

                      Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.

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                      This is v true

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                        Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.

                        Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.

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                        You mean.. mothers breastfeeding feeding their children? You mean men who find big rocks and throw them into water from heights to make a big splash? Do you mean people who donate their organs to other people? Do you mean the many artists, scientists, teachers, and basically everyone else that gets their ass out of bed every day to then put a smile on their face for other people, despite feeling existential despair inside because the last shred of reason for being has been invested in someone or something else, so they keep moving? Robin Williams?

                        I think we have very different ideas of what self-interest is. Namely, I think that you have confused the idea that one must suffer, or at least feel nothing, or it's not altruistic enough. That one should not enjoy acts of love, kindness, caring, giving, art, exploration... or they're secretly solipsistic. This isn't the condemnation of the world you think it is. This feels like a projection of an internal insecurity onto the greater portion of humanity.

                        I think most people have been guilty of thinking this at some point. Rather than feel threatened by my words or that I'm being critical of you and only you, I would ask that you do what I did when I once thought this very thought... think on if you're really willing to live the rest of your lived experience with this thought at the forefront. Not everyone gets this one right, but it could have consequences on your ability to actually 'enjoy' another human being without needing something from them to do so.

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                          Nobody cares. You're homeless? Nobody cares. You just got dumped? Nobody cares. You're sick? Nobody cares. You're struggling? Nobody cares.

                          Sure you might have some friends who care in a very superficial way, but when the going gets tough, everybody leaves.

                          There's just no hope, and you're on your own.

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                          That is indeed life as an adult!

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                            Have you ever considered buying a device that connects to the internet and has a 'search engine?'

                            Have You?

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                            Buddy I was making a joke https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cfA39GPjxSE&pp=ygUZdG9ueSBwZXJraW5zIGhlYXZ5d2VpZ2h0cw%3D%3D

                            Also, lighten up. It's embarrassing.

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                              Many adults have a much self-reflection and critical thinking skills as a 3-year-old.

                              Also, you can be highly intelligent yet very dumb.

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                              I don’t understand the last part…

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                                You mean.. mothers breastfeeding feeding their children? You mean men who find big rocks and throw them into water from heights to make a big splash? Do you mean people who donate their organs to other people? Do you mean the many artists, scientists, teachers, and basically everyone else that gets their ass out of bed every day to then put a smile on their face for other people, despite feeling existential despair inside because the last shred of reason for being has been invested in someone or something else, so they keep moving? Robin Williams?

                                I think we have very different ideas of what self-interest is. Namely, I think that you have confused the idea that one must suffer, or at least feel nothing, or it's not altruistic enough. That one should not enjoy acts of love, kindness, caring, giving, art, exploration... or they're secretly solipsistic. This isn't the condemnation of the world you think it is. This feels like a projection of an internal insecurity onto the greater portion of humanity.

                                I think most people have been guilty of thinking this at some point. Rather than feel threatened by my words or that I'm being critical of you and only you, I would ask that you do what I did when I once thought this very thought... think on if you're really willing to live the rest of your lived experience with this thought at the forefront. Not everyone gets this one right, but it could have consequences on your ability to actually 'enjoy' another human being without needing something from them to do so.

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                                No one can look into someone else's soul and divine their intentions. IMO it's most likely that people's internal states are a mixture of various emotions and intentions when they are doing a gesture like you've given examples of, probably not all of them coherent with one another.

                                It seems to me that it's more a matter of perspective and you can choose to ascribe self-interest or choose to ascribe altruism but in both cases you are projecting, since it's just unknowable.

                                I think free software is quite a nice case study if you want to discuss it in a relatively emotion free context. Organ donation has a lot of other moral "baggage" around it as an issue. These people are giving up their valuable skills and time to create something which is for the benefit of others. Contributors also get to put it on their CV and get status in an online community. Often the more self-interested people drop out quite quickly and the ones who want to support their community stick around longer.

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                                  Im not worried about how the average pedestrian acts. Its totally the average driver.

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                                  💀

                                  Drivers doing their best not to run over cyclists

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                                    Buddy I was making a joke https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cfA39GPjxSE&pp=ygUZdG9ueSBwZXJraW5zIGhlYXZ5d2VpZ2h0cw%3D%3D

                                    Also, lighten up. It's embarrassing.

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                                    HAVE YOU???

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                                      For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                      That my abusive mother had 3 kids by a previous marriage. She gave up full custody so she could keep the (shitty, old) house. I learned this when I was 18 or 19.

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                                        For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                        Your success in life is dictated by the social connections you have and how good you are at maintaining them. When I was young I thought focusing on my education and working harder would automatically lead to a successful career, and while good academic performance does help, what's far more useful is having connections who will help you out, either through referrals or just by being a source of information about stuff you didn't know and it's easy to have some social life in school or college without much effort, because everyone meets up at a single place, as an adult socialization takes effort, cause now everyone is away living their own busy lives and it's not as easy to meet up face to face. This is why rich people like exclusive clubs so much, being able to be in the right social circles and having the ear of influential people will pay huge dividents. Also being a skilled liar is definately a very useful skill to have.

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                                          For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                          An adult secret I love to teach kids is that none of us really know what the fuck we're doing either, we've just gotten better at winging it over the years.

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