what a god-awful human being.

He was an abusive narcist. I hate throwing the term around, but it's the only thing that fit his personality and mental condition. It took my mother over 13 years to break free.

i totally get it. this isn’t as bad as yours but my “friend” fucked up my mental state for a while, nothing was ever good enough for them, they treated me like an animal that they could control. they’re only nice when they need attention/validation. they’re still like this at age 19.

im so sorry that happened, by the way i don’t even know him and i hate how he sounds

Better now, I like to think. Still working through some of the anger left from that time because it was an unhealthy crutch I leaned on. Had to work through a lot of complexes I didn't realize I had.

And, in a fucked up way, that time gives me pride in who I am. A poly-pan transwoman, everything that would piss him off to see. I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud, because I had to get past the hate for myself he tried to push into me. It's another push to keep standing, speaking and fighting for myself and those like me, because no one should have to walk that path and wear this armor.

who was he in relation to you? and i’m so proud you get to express yourself
im poly, pan, and male for now but questioning transfem

I watched someone beat an opossum to death with a shovel as a child. They told me that's just what you did with opossums and couldn't understand why I was crying. It was just minding its own business and they decided they had to kill it for some reason. The sound and image is seared into my head and I'll never get it out. I dunno if they ever got what was coming to them, but I hope they did.

I had a group of """friends""" for slightly over a decade who were very abusive towards me. I was too lonely and desperate to walk away, and they knew that, so I endured the emotional abuse until they finally decided they were bored with me. I probably won't ever fully heal from that. Last I heard the group had broken apart, but afaik that was all that happened.

At least I have better people in my life now, but the events of the latter mean I'm always on edge and just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I'm waiting for someone to pull the rug out from under me and show me they were just getting me attached so they could abuse me too.

My dad’s third wife told me she shouldn’t have even paid for my plane ticket when he died. She married into extreme comfort, so this was a truly hateful statement. It was the most petty thing I’ve ever heard. She has always been a monster. I resolved never to interact with her ever again.

She got an extraordinary payday when my dad died. For her to get what she deserves, she’d have to shack up with a con artist who swindles it out of her. I don’t care about her enough to think about her now that she’s out of my life. Hideous, gross person.

Stepfather. Was the only reason I got my chance to get out before things got really bad, my father finally sat my mother down and threatened to take everything to court if he had to, she could stay in the shit if she wanted, but he was getting me out and getting everything we needed to protect ourselves.

i hope that man went to jail, im sorry he didn’t accept your identity

Won’t tell you the what, but nah, I’m still here.

No, one of them became president and the other one won the November election

I love wealthy people like that.

It's like they know on some unconscious level just how small and insignificant they really are, but can't pair it mentally with the fortune they find themselves in.

So rather than deal with the idea of luck and circumstance being the main factors of their existence, they lean hard on the idea that they deserve it by merit of simply being a superior being to others, and reinforce this belief into their head everyday with small acts of cruelty upon others.

I laugh at the sheer insecurity of it.

hopefully we get better luck in 2028

She was a manager who bullied a handful of people out of their jobs. She tried it on me as well, but I was an outside employee on site to do tech support and my manager and company backed me up. Still a horrible time in my life.

The weird thing is, even after her bosses figured out what she was doing to her staff and put her on a short leash with restrictions on what she could do or say, she still kept it up. Maybe it was compulsive behaviour. A little while later she suddenly announced that she was leaving to start a business as a life coach(!) so reading between the lines it was probably a case of quit or be fired.

I bumped into her again and she was working as a kind of HR manager for students at a university. But I also just checked her Linkedin page and it looks like she's doing life coaching again. This is a small industry and word gets around so if there's justice in the universe, she's been black-balled.

I knew someone who raped both his daughters.

He was prosecuted and took a plea deal, probably offered to spare them a trial. I think he did about ten years in prison, which I would argue is less punishment than he deserved.

i agree, he deserved a life sentence. just TEN years for raping his daughters?

If I remember right, he would have been eligible for a life sentence for the original charges.

that makes a lot of sense. why wasn’t he given one?

Because he took a plea deal, which was probably offered so that they wouldn't have to hold a trial. At least, that's what I gathered from the information at hand