PixelFed has increased the Fediverse's monthly active users by over 40% in the last few weeks, how do we feel?

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And Nextdoor

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Here, the issue. People don't feel like small instances would live for long and migrating do not transfer the old posts so people feel more safe subscribing to the large instances

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I'm a man, and I was assaulted when I was younger, and you are exactly why men don't come out about it. We look like whiny snivelling little children who try to pretend this is the fault of women while we live in a goddamn patriarchal society and have men at every step preventing the very care we need. A woman ran the support group I went to, a woman ran the shelter I had to stay in, a woman held my hand in the fucking hospital, and at every step men insulted me and laughed at me and asked if I was a fag, because they thought the woman was good looking. This absolute bullshit where you blame women like it's their fault they're attacked by men, like it's their fault for talking about it, the entire 'mens lib' movement is garbage and forces those of us who've been through assault to be represented by the worst our sex has to offer.

The best thing you could do to help men like me is to shut your goddamn mouth and at the very least leave us to the care of women, because they actually do seem to give a shit and at no time ever blamed 'all men' for what I went through.

Fuck your reductive bullshit, fuck ever being tricked by the wealthy into attacking women on their behalf, and I still hope you never go through what I did.

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Do you seriously believe that there's not a single man, in the whole wide world, who has your back?

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You SERIOUSLY don't hear other people, do you? You don't see what's said to you, what's right in front of you? All you think about is what you want and how you can change what they say to meet it.

The mens lib movement, and the ridiculous attacks on women you voice don't help people like me, who were attacked, because you change the focus, from help for everyone, to pitting men against women. No woman's group ever blocked me access to care. Women don't vote conservative at the rate men do, and conservative's stop these groups from being made. The help I got was entirely from women volunteering their time and help. The people who tried to limit it, or change access, were men. The Conservative governments that remove funding for these programs are run by men, and voted for by men, and protected by men. The CEO's who sabotage funding for public resources so they can get more tax breaks are patriarchal. Are women there? Sure. Is it run by them? No.

Our entire political, economic, and social system set up to benefit 'masculine' efforts. Being raped by a woman is seen by this system as 'effeminate.'

The men who did eventually help me are hardcore left-wing socialists who understood, and spoke with me about how harmful the patriarchal system we all live under was to me, and others like me. We also spoke about the sheer damage the garbage people like you and your 'mens lib' movement has hurt us. Women didn't even have the right as human beings until recently. In our own societies we deny them bodily autonomy and the right to vote and the right to be people under the law. And then people like you come out and say it's all womens fault, and every time a woman speaks out about institutionally allowed sexual assault you scream from the rafters that men are hurt to, but NEVER when I asked for fucking help! NEVER when I was suffering! Only when women speak out, or someone talks about the FACT women are more likely to be assaulted, are assaulted more often, and the systems in place that allow it to happen, then you cowards come out and PRETEND TO PROTECT ME?!

FUCK. THAT.

You don't represent me, and people like you make me ashamed to be a man.

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I feel like it's people who want to make money adding another platform to advertise on other platforms.

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Now we’re just missing a Fediverse version of Facebook.

Friendica?

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I actually love the name Friendica.

It's better than lemmy and mastodon.

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Probably 99% of them.

Just trying to get in early so they can become "influencers."

Make no mistake, this is all about money.

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I don't want to represent or speak for you, I want you to speak your own truth, and listen to that of others. I also never said that it's "all women's fault", I'm saying that generalised enmity is counterproductive.

I'm saying that we all have a part of the puzzle and if we all manage to chip in instead of villainising each other in essentialist terms, things would move along a lot faster. I'm an Anarchist, not an incel.

men are hurt to, but NEVER when I asked for fucking help!

Yes, they were. They were absolutely hurt and damaged when they were not able to help you because they internalised a patriarchal narrative: "Men are perpetrators, not victims". It's there to replace camaraderie with hierarchy, a pecking order. It does not serve men a bit, hierarchy never does any good.

These two things -- you not getting help from men, and men being hurt -- are not separate issues. They are not at odds with each other. They're causally connected.

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Most of them are political memes or simply are not funny

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Try #funny, is not imgur, but at least no politic content.

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I mean, there's limited content, and Lemmy hasn't attracted the same kind of personality as modern Reddit. It makes total sense that things would be upvoted quickly, but comments would be sparse or short.

People patted themselves on the back when they showed up for being "old reddit" and "power users", but most of us were just cranky phone users who didn't want to use the official app. Lemmy users are not the boistrous, verbose philosophers people wanted to believe they were.

We're scrollers, sitting on the toilet.

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This is a reasonable take but ngl still I'm still a little sus.

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Honestly, no arguement here. I can't think of anything better so I'm unqualified regardless

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An 'ideal' solution might require a complete redesign on how federation works.

Something like a more decentralised network where you don't have a 'home' instance.
An instance would be more like a relay into a 'core' network, and you could swap between them at any time.

It'd probably require your account info to be public though, so passwords wouldn't be possible to implement in a foolproof way.

Instead of signing in, your device could generate a public/private keypair on signup.
The whole network would have your public key, and only content/actions that your device signs would be propagated on the network.

Sorry, you probably don't care about my ideas lol. Just thinking out loud I guess.

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they tried that and without the centralised moderation it became racist very quickly https://aether.app/

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Oh wow, those are cool. What a shame.

I guess it shouldn’t be a surprise that unmoderated communities attract the degenerates

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Tbh I feel a little queasy about the change of tone but thats how it goes with influx of people. I‘ll keep my strict anti tech bro stance and will rapidly block any bigots as I always have. People can of course say and do what they please here and I‘m not gonna stop them. But i also am not forced to listen to it. Thats very incompatible to the outside world so clash is inevitable imho.

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Me too. I can't find you on pixelfed?

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PixelFed has increased the Fediverse's monthly active users by over 40% in the last few weeks, how do we feel?