So proud!
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Unironically, thats how I feel explaining things when I get excited, and I kinda like being a kid excited about sharing something. Because either I get to share something I find really cool and you hopefully do too, or you already knew about it and maybe know more than me and I can learn something more about the thing I'm excited about. But mansplaining does imply a level of condescension that I really fucking hope I don't come across as.
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They're good dogs, Brent.
Bratt is just angry for no reason.
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Mansplaining is when you are a male and you open your mouth to say something. It might have been used properly in the past but now it's just a buzzword used to silence people.
wrote last edited by [email protected]It does seem to be a way to shut men down without making any kind of point. Look at some of the responses in this thread.
Another “emotional invalidation” or “NPD” or “weaponized incompetence.”
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Homie I gotta stop biting. If you can't see how your comment was:
- overconfident
- inaccurate
- oversimplified
- and could be read as condescending
Idk what to tell ya.
Good luck out there.
Asking someone to explain something is none of those things.
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
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Unironically, thats how I feel explaining things when I get excited, and I kinda like being a kid excited about sharing something. Because either I get to share something I find really cool and you hopefully do too, or you already knew about it and maybe know more than me and I can learn something more about the thing I'm excited about. But mansplaining does imply a level of condescension that I really fucking hope I don't come across as.
you can ask if it's okay to share!
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That's right, ArbitraryValve! Good catch, nicely done bud!
OP walked right into that, face first.
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I've had this experience before. I was excited to talk about what I learnt whilst volunteering for a war museum, and wanted to share my excitement with people. Got accused of Mansplaining. It really was upsetting, since I was just talking about a lovely experience and didn't want to upset nor offend anyone...
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My partner has taught/trained me to ask "would you like to hear more?" before I info-dump on him.
Example:
Me: "at work today I've been playing around with configuration settings for Primo VE, specifically the search scopes... Um... would you like to hear more?"Response: "I'm glad you have an interesting problem at work and no, no thank you."
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I also love explaining things and get excited when it's an area i know about, and then got accused of mansplaining. seeing that many men in these comments suffered the same fate, maybe some women could become more chill lol
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
Bingo, every fucking time. I'm literally just sharing whats in my head. You know, trying to communicate like a fucking person? Sorry you took that as me thinking you were stupid. Because now i definitely think you're stupid.
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Honestly I think everyone would be happy with this is everyone did it but sadly often times people let their egos get too big and they have to brag about it and make the other person feel bad.
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The meme: A dude condescendingly explaining something to a woman.
The comments: Men patting each other on the back for saying it's okay to explain things.
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Asking someone to explain something is none of those things.
Oh yeah you are 100% right. It was the rest of the comment.
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Mansplaining is when you explain a subject to a woman as if she doesn't know it, when she would be fully expected to know it. An example would be a man without an astrophysics degree explaining astrophysics with condescension to a woman with an astrophysics degree. It sounds silly but I've seen it happen, more often than not it happens online though because terminally online people tend to be more condescending.
Manspreading is more often when dudes intentionally take up more sitting space than they clearly need in public when it's obvious there is enough space for additional people. Often it's a lack of self awareness.
Male gaze is the way women are most often portrayed in visual arts and media from a heterosexual, masculine perspective, often objectifying them as sexual objects for the pleasure of the male viewer. It suggests that media is often constructed and consumed from a male perspective.
Hell, even a lot of sexualization of men is from the male perspective. Having spoken to a lot of women about how they experience attraction, most aren't very interested in the hypermasculine view of the male "ideal body" and are far more interested in certain behaviors and mannerisms, or even just the look of their face and hands, rather than everything else.
I'm writing this not as an argument, but as taking your questions in good faith. I hope it was in good faith.
What I picture in my head when I hear the term manspreading is the guy on every bus or subway who is sitting in a middle seat with legs spread wide. It could also be arms around the backs of the surrounding chairs.
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Mansplaining is when you explain a subject to a woman as if she doesn't know it, when she would be fully expected to know it. An example would be a man without an astrophysics degree explaining astrophysics with condescension to a woman with an astrophysics degree. It sounds silly but I've seen it happen, more often than not it happens online though because terminally online people tend to be more condescending.
Manspreading is more often when dudes intentionally take up more sitting space than they clearly need in public when it's obvious there is enough space for additional people. Often it's a lack of self awareness.
Male gaze is the way women are most often portrayed in visual arts and media from a heterosexual, masculine perspective, often objectifying them as sexual objects for the pleasure of the male viewer. It suggests that media is often constructed and consumed from a male perspective.
Hell, even a lot of sexualization of men is from the male perspective. Having spoken to a lot of women about how they experience attraction, most aren't very interested in the hypermasculine view of the male "ideal body" and are far more interested in certain behaviors and mannerisms, or even just the look of their face and hands, rather than everything else.
I'm writing this not as an argument, but as taking your questions in good faith. I hope it was in good faith.
Manspreading is more often when dudes intentionally take up more sitting space than they clearly need in public when it's obvious there is enough space for additional people. Often it's a lack of self awareness.
I feel like doing it intentionally and doing it because you're lacking self awareness are sorta at odds
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I've had this experience before. I was excited to talk about what I learnt whilst volunteering for a war museum, and wanted to share my excitement with people. Got accused of Mansplaining. It really was upsetting, since I was just talking about a lovely experience and didn't want to upset nor offend anyone...
They already knew everything you had to say?! War experts out there I guess
1 “fun” fact if you got it, maybe one of the less bloody/violent ones
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My partner has taught/trained me to ask "would you like to hear more?" before I info-dump on him.
Example:
Me: "at work today I've been playing around with configuration settings for Primo VE, specifically the search scopes... Um... would you like to hear more?"Response: "I'm glad you have an interesting problem at work and no, no thank you."
You are a starship troopers propaganda video. Would you like to know more?
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Can someone mansplain mansplaining to me? It seems like any time someone with a beard inhales sharply.
Kind of like how manspreading is men sitting down.
And the male gaze is men looking at things.
Mansplaining is when a man & woman have a conversation, he catches a puzzled look on her face with prolonged silence, he proceeds to elaborate & try to clarify the last topic to clear up confusion so she can participate, thereby pisses her off, because she already understood & the man didn't mindread.
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Unfortunately I am autistic and explaining something I think is cool. Only it gets interpreted as condescension
Its not always but its often enough
I definitely get the same sorta thing, you just gotta practice managing it. Usually I’ll say something like “I have many thoughts and don’t wanna mansplain but I don’t know your familiarity…” and then ramble. Context is important, and a lot of people also don’t know where we’re at or where we’re coming from so if we just bust down the door and start telling them how something is then that’s kinda on us to manage.
And if they don’t take the clear opportunities I give them to slow me down and then say I should have somehow known better I ask them how on earth I was supposed to know what they never shared. People will often chill out after that.
