Do you ever go out, and while you're out, you think, ‘this is exactly why I don't go out’?
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I'm queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
"Am I the only black person around here?"
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
"Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?"
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez...
Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the 'Hate them... not you though, you're one of ours' mindset.
"Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he's alright."
"We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me 'boss' when I go in."
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
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I will do anything to avoid going to the store on Sunday. It took me too long to learn.
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And when you look at your bank account the next day
Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
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I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass for me
That's fine. I even somewhat agree with you. However, acting like you are above doing what millions of people enjoy is some real dork shit.
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I tend to enjoy it once Im out, it's just overcoming that inertia to go out that's hard for me
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Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
If I don't look at my account online, does it even really exist?
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If it was planned out and some beer was involved it would have been a lot better IMO... I had already spent the entire morning mowing my buddy's yard and trimming trees for him, so my batteries were already low before all that happened.
You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you're not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.
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Yes. I only want to go out to quieter places, where you can hear yourself think and talk: parks (nature in general), libraries, museums, coffee shops, bookstores, quirky mom and pop shops, tiny restaurants, etc.
Otherwise, I’d much rather stay at home.
My old high school friends were all extroverts who loved going out to bars and clubs, drinking heavily (and smoking), and skirt-chasing. That’s what hanging out meant. One day, in my mid-twenties, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I realized “I’m not having any fun with these people at all.” So I ghosted all of them. I feel guilty about it at times, but I had to.
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You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you're not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.
Not sure if I am but thank you, I always try to help anyone who needs it. My buddy is terrible at fixing things, so I've been doing a lot of work for him and his mom.
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Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.
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Yes. I only want to go out to quieter places, where you can hear yourself think and talk: parks (nature in general), libraries, museums, coffee shops, bookstores, quirky mom and pop shops, tiny restaurants, etc.
Otherwise, I’d much rather stay at home.
My old high school friends were all extroverts who loved going out to bars and clubs, drinking heavily (and smoking), and skirt-chasing. That’s what hanging out meant. One day, in my mid-twenties, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I realized “I’m not having any fun with these people at all.” So I ghosted all of them. I feel guilty about it at times, but I had to.
You could've also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently
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You could've also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently
It was also a long time ago
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Nah I love going out
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No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.
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Every. Single. Time.
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I can't go anywhere with noisy crowds. The sensory stimulation is too much for me. It's not fun feeling ready to snap at any moment. Anytime I try going to the wrong kind of places I will regret it, so yeah.
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Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.
Yea, I'm just not interested any more.
I used to want to understand people better, but it's always the same old thing - everyone's got a chip on their shoulder and it's tiresome dealing with that.
I just wanna hang out and get to know you, but that chip really gets in the way.
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No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.
I hope it get's better for you.
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I will do anything to avoid going to the store on Sunday. It took me too long to learn.
Lol - I had to. Learn the same lesson.
Google Maps has been a great help to know when to go to places like the grocery store or gym.
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Nah, I always think that it's even better than I could comprehend inside. (being stressed in your own home is not fun)
