Do you ever go out, and while you're out, you think, ‘this is exactly why I don't go out’?
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Yea, I'm just not interested any more.
I used to want to understand people better, but it's always the same old thing - everyone's got a chip on their shoulder and it's tiresome dealing with that.
I just wanna hang out and get to know you, but that chip really gets in the way.
Not everyone has a chip, though. What everyone does have is a soul. Try to reach it in some kind of positive way, and people will like you.
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I'm queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
"Am I the only black person around here?"
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
"Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?"
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez...
No idea if you already know these places (you probably do) but The Cobblestone, Peader Brown's, and McDowells are all great pubs that are perfectly happy serving a drink to anyone of any orientation.
Sorry for the bother if you already know.
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Nope. I usually think "I should go out more" and then when I'm still recovering two days later I think "Ah, this is why I don't go out more."
relevant (?) Bill Watterson
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No idea if you already know these places (you probably do) but The Cobblestone, Peader Brown's, and McDowells are all great pubs that are perfectly happy serving a drink to anyone of any orientation.
Sorry for the bother if you already know.
Those places are lovely, of course I know then - I'm from there
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Usually the opposite, maybe branch out and find new friends (don't have to lose the old ones lol) I could have fun wherever going out with the right people.
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Usually the opposite, maybe branch out and find new friends (don't have to lose the old ones lol) I could have fun wherever going out with the right people.
Then again we aren't usually just drinking, that sounds terrible
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You could've also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently
Ppl assume ghosting = ignoring responses (maybe its supposed to) but when I ghost I just stop hitting them up first and eventually they stop hitting me up, ppl treat it like its ghosting so I assume it also counts but it doesn't feeel/seem as bad
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Nope. I usually think "I should go out more" and then when I'm still recovering two days later I think "Ah, this is why I don't go out more."
Yep, I always try to keep it going a 2nd day too extending my hangover to a week
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I mean posing the question like that is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, no?
On the other hand, as neurodivergent this hits everytime I leave the house.
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If I don't look at my account online, does it even really exist?
If an empty bank account is unobserved, is it truly empty?
The amount of money I don't have remains the same, does it not?
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Spent my 20s in bars all over the place. I remember several times, sitting in a new place, thinking, "I've been here 100 times already."
Now that I hardly go to bars, my wife and I like to hit a dive now and again. Apparently they don't have shitty places quite like that in the Philippines. She gets so cute and happy, totally novel experience for her. And if they have karaoke? Game. On.
That feeling of all the bars being so similar was an early prelude to stopping going out all the time for me. I always thought it was weird that I never missed something I spent 5 - 7 days a week doing for over a decade. When the novelty wore off it was so easy to just never go back.
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Never be scared to duck out early from something that is not fulfilling. I've left group gatherings to go hiking solo because it was more enjoyable.
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Went to a new restaurant after work when I knew it wouldn't be busy. Just felt lonely but in that moment, that's pretty much what I thought. It wasn't a bar place, just a restaurant. I'm introverted af and so I don't like small talk anyway but yeah. Life gets to you.
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Never but I say "this is why I don't party for 24+ hours". A good party or event shouldn't overstay its welcome as experience quickly declines once everyone tires out and start making mistakes and get into intoxicated/tired arguments.
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Spent my 20s in bars all over the place. I remember several times, sitting in a new place, thinking, "I've been here 100 times already."
Now that I hardly go to bars, my wife and I like to hit a dive now and again. Apparently they don't have shitty places quite like that in the Philippines. She gets so cute and happy, totally novel experience for her. And if they have karaoke? Game. On.
It sounds like your wife just likes to party! Cuz I can assure you Manilla is filled with shitty dive bars too haha. It's just also filled with amazing people who love to love and love to party. Filipinas rock! You two must have so much fun
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Every time I'm in a mall or restaurant and see a flock of yelling and otherwise poorly behaved kids and their useless parents.
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Every. Single. Time.
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It sounds like your wife just likes to party! Cuz I can assure you Manilla is filled with shitty dive bars too haha. It's just also filled with amazing people who love to love and love to party. Filipinas rock! You two must have so much fun
LOL, I assumed so! And she's from Manila! Seems redneck dive bars are novel for some reason. And despite the bars we've hit being full-on poor rednecks, no one blinks at the Asian chick, everyone very nice.
We haven't been for awhile. The one we like just can't stay in business for long. Too far outside town, and we're on the edge, but not far enough to be the only bar.
You've inspired me to take her out tomorrow night! We're broke, but we can blow a bit on pool and beers.
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That feeling of all the bars being so similar was an early prelude to stopping going out all the time for me. I always thought it was weird that I never missed something I spent 5 - 7 days a week doing for over a decade. When the novelty wore off it was so easy to just never go back.
Now that I'm older, and laid off the bar scene for a decade+, it's like coming home. Still, only fun a couple of times a year. And now I don't smoke, and we can't smoke inside, so I'm not coughing my lungs out the next morning.
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Nope. I usually think "I should go out more" and then when I'm still recovering two days later I think "Ah, this is why I don't go out more."
wrote last edited by [email protected]Yep. It's somewhat ingrained in UK culture, at least for people of my gen. I'm 48 this weekend, and plan on staying in with my fam and maybe having a few beers. But that's only because I'm off for a city break with friends next week to see The Beta Band and basically eat and drink for 2 days. Can't wait.
