What's a subtle red flag you've previously missed in a person?
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Being too positive. At some point, that turns into a fault. Also telling me to "stop worrying about [whatever]" doesn't mean I will.
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Self pity. It's one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It's a big red flag
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Coworker. He just straight up said “no” to helping me stock the storage room (which was our job). Otherwise was a real nice guy.
Turns out he was a flakey prick and he left me in a lurch while we were out of town for work.
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Willingness to sleep with me is a huge red flag. Like this person has to have issues.
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Agreeing with having no kids but seeing them become obsessed with other couples' kids.
The literal week we ended up getting married, she started pressing to have kids. Lasted only a few months.
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Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time
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Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time
I don't understand this. What's wrong with feeling 'bleh'?
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Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time
Oh that's a good one
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Insisting on paying for others. Turned out to be a power thing.
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Self pity. It's one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It's a big red flag
People don't talk about this enough. It's one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that's way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that's way too low. In either case you're walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don't say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.
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Self pity. It's one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It's a big red flag
Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a "woe is me" mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it's draining!)
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Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a "woe is me" mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it's draining!)
Oh god yes... "my sock is twisted, whhhyyy meeeeee?" And your life then has to revolve around the twisted sock.
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I don't know what red flag I miss... I hate all of them including me being bullied communally
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Full disclaimer: I don't date so I am talking about in friendships in general.
Being over-apologetic. And by that I mean they are quick to apologize any potential conflict.
Apologizing is a good thing, however if they consistently go out of their way to apologize without you even mentioning anything was wrong, chances are there are more dark/nefarious plays at hand such as manipulation.
I have missed that flag a few times in friendships and they ended up turning toxic over time. Some were recoverable, some wern't
