The great millennial garbage gyre
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In my 50s and I don't bother anymore. It's just not worth the hassle. In my 30s I would have had to send out 100 messages to get 1 date. It's so much worse in my 50s.
I'm in IT who generally is tech oriented. I've never even thought of touching dating apps. The idea itself of meeting digitally first, when there are so many women around in real life, is somewhat absurd to me. I feel like the apps might be used mostly by the ones who fail to make contact in real life, which already makes you questionable
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But who makes the profit in your silly goose scenario? Somebody has to be making money or it's a terrible idea!
This is what we call long-term investment a taxman wins once you have kids
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Married dude here who has a lot of single dude friends. 1/3 is accurate.
And if it's not Rogan, it's some other right-adjacent influencer. It's fucking weird too. They're regular dudes, helping old ladies on the street and supporting a neighbor. Then suddenly, they crack and share how terrible women are.
Then you got women who are on the other side, complaining about how terrible men are.
I don't understand it.
I mean, when there's less cross-interaction nowadays and everyone's in their own bubbles prevent a challenge their preconceptions, it makes sense.
This is affecting all facets of society, politics even.
Also there's survivor bias: there is also the fact that on these platforms, the impact of assholes in the dating pool is much greater then the good ones, because it's the same assholes being cycle through the system, whereas the good ones have already reached the terminal state and found their partner.
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Oh that's kinda crazy. The minimum age here is like 14, albeit with a huge amount of restrictions. I think it got my first job at 15
But I was working in my parents restaurant since i was like 6 or 7. Its "technically" not allowed but people mostly turn a blind eye to parents using their kids as labor, unless its otherwise abusive/neglectful
wrote last edited by [email protected]Damn, at 15 you're still at school here and going to school is compulsory by law. (It is also financially supported by the state, i.e. pupils and parents don't have to pay for school attendance themselves. Well, through taxes)
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Ran into any problems where you can't keep up?
Definitely. She makes dirty dishes waaaaaay faster than I can wash them. I have no idea how, but she'll use 6 plates 4 spoons and a colander when she gets takeout.
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I can't wait for TRUMPDate. Make America Date Again. Can't go wrong.
Someone tried this with a dating app for right-wingers only called "The Right Stuff", which has faced significant criticism for lacking female users.
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I am forklift certified. I do not need this.
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The joke is well we are pretty much the same, but complain about not being able to find partners. Reality: because we don't want to. Lemmy users are not so different from Reddit users.
Ah yes, both big dumb pandas. At least were fluffy…?
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Ah yes, both big dumb pandas. At least were fluffy…?
I'm lean and short
Barely any tummy.
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Here's a concept: women over 29 years old don't view Tinder as a good option for finding decent men. Therefore only the most desperate are the ones who sign up to display themselves on the digital meat market.
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Honestly, some of the women I see have profiles that are basically demanding an incredible amount of labor from their potential partners.
No coffee dates, no walks. They want something planned out multiple days a week and in exchange they'll put up with you grunting on top of them.
They want something planned out multiple days a week and in exchange they'll put up with you grunting on top of them.
Lol, women enjoy sex as well my dude. With an opinion like that it kinda sounds like you may be stepping on your own feet there.
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Married dude here who has a lot of single dude friends. 1/3 is accurate.
And if it's not Rogan, it's some other right-adjacent influencer. It's fucking weird too. They're regular dudes, helping old ladies on the street and supporting a neighbor. Then suddenly, they crack and share how terrible women are.
Then you got women who are on the other side, complaining about how terrible men are.
I don't understand it.
And if it's not Rogan, it's some other right-adjacent influencer. It's fucking weird too. They're regular dudes, helping old ladies on the street and supporting a neighbor. Then suddenly, they crack and share how terrible women are.
Yeah.... Idk what it's all about. A lot of the girls in the company have issues with dudes who like the idea of hooking up with a dancer, then as soon as they get in a committed relationship they want them to quit because they get insanely jealous of other people watching them dance.
The younger crowd of men seem to be super possessive and simultaneously believe that girls only have sex to get things they want and at the same time are massive sluts who can't be trusted not to cheat......
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The bar isn't low. Not being a lazy bum or misogonyst is the bare minimum (as it should be). The real bar is multiple bars in form of a 110 meters hurdles. You have to jump over all of them. Everything below that and the other person will feel as if they are settling.
Not being a lazy bum or misogonyst is the bare minimum (as it should be).
Idk, just judging by any post containing gender discourse on Lemmy.....seems to be a pretty big hurdle for a lot of dudes.
You have to jump over all of them. Everything below that and the other person will feel as if they are settling.
That may just be a product of being younger. By the time you get to my age both men and women seem to be wanting to settle down and are more likely to compromise with the idea of an imperfect partnership.
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Damn, at 15 you're still at school here and going to school is compulsory by law. (It is also financially supported by the state, i.e. pupils and parents don't have to pay for school attendance themselves. Well, through taxes)
I didn't work full time? I worked like 5hrs a week, just enough to have some spending money haha
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I didn't work full time? I worked like 5hrs a week, just enough to have some spending money haha
wrote last edited by [email protected]The text in () was also not referring to you, but in general. In retrospect, I'm thinking about the costs of high school. Unfortunately, I can only find information about years abroad for non-US citizens. Many people take on debt for college, don't they?
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I'm in IT who generally is tech oriented. I've never even thought of touching dating apps. The idea itself of meeting digitally first, when there are so many women around in real life, is somewhat absurd to me. I feel like the apps might be used mostly by the ones who fail to make contact in real life, which already makes you questionable
I met my now wife through myspace back when i was 19.
I went out and always managed to find some cute girl no matter where i went, but they all lacked depth and interests. Even then, i can't even imagine what women are like now....they probably look like a phone brand logo 24/7.
We started talking because of a friend of hers, that lasted about a year until i was finally able to meet her for the first time...turns out she wasn't acting about who she was and had been genuine all the time.
Easiest decision i ever made.
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I’ve been curious if a government-run dating app could do better - if its goal is to achieve genuine engagement, not cycles of frustration that boost subscription rates.
This is one of many subjects where capitalist concern ruins the product (and that’s not even something I say as often as others on Lenny)
"App" and "genuine engagement" are 2 things that don't go together.
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I hear ya there. I had a blast 10+ years ago with online dating, mostly okcupid. I’ve heard that it’s went to shit and I just don’t even have the energy to trudge through the apps.
I'm recently single and had ok results with ok Cupid in the past so I signed back up. Absolutely everything is hidden behind a subscription now. I deleted it right away. I knew it was going to be bad when match bought them years ago, but I'm not paying $30/mo for the morale destroying thing that online dating is.
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I’ve been curious if a government-run dating app could do better - if its goal is to achieve genuine engagement, not cycles of frustration that boost subscription rates.
This is one of many subjects where capitalist concern ruins the product (and that’s not even something I say as often as others on Lenny)
You said capitalism and summoned your resident anticapitalist. How can I be of assistance, comrade.
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They want something planned out multiple days a week and in exchange they'll put up with you grunting on top of them.
Lol, women enjoy sex as well my dude. With an opinion like that it kinda sounds like you may be stepping on your own feet there.
I'm referring to these particular women, not women as a whole.
There's a type of woman who are essentially asexual, never masturbates, says they don't really need sex, but still wants to be in a heterosexual relationship from either societal expectations or because they think a boyfriend is useful in other aspects of their life.
