The great millennial garbage gyre
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I hear ya there. I had a blast 10+ years ago with online dating, mostly okcupid. I’ve heard that it’s went to shit and I just don’t even have the energy to trudge through the apps.
I'm recently single and had ok results with ok Cupid in the past so I signed back up. Absolutely everything is hidden behind a subscription now. I deleted it right away. I knew it was going to be bad when match bought them years ago, but I'm not paying $30/mo for the morale destroying thing that online dating is.
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I’ve been curious if a government-run dating app could do better - if its goal is to achieve genuine engagement, not cycles of frustration that boost subscription rates.
This is one of many subjects where capitalist concern ruins the product (and that’s not even something I say as often as others on Lenny)
You said capitalism and summoned your resident anticapitalist. How can I be of assistance, comrade.
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They want something planned out multiple days a week and in exchange they'll put up with you grunting on top of them.
Lol, women enjoy sex as well my dude. With an opinion like that it kinda sounds like you may be stepping on your own feet there.
I'm referring to these particular women, not women as a whole.
There's a type of woman who are essentially asexual, never masturbates, says they don't really need sex, but still wants to be in a heterosexual relationship from either societal expectations or because they think a boyfriend is useful in other aspects of their life.
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You said capitalism and summoned your resident anticapitalist. How can I be of assistance, comrade.
Looking for an anticapitalist on lemmy is like looking for a lesbian at a Teagan and Sara concert. It's not everybody, but it's not a difficult search
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The text in () was also not referring to you, but in general. In retrospect, I'm thinking about the costs of high school. Unfortunately, I can only find information about years abroad for non-US citizens. Many people take on debt for college, don't they?
High school here runs through grade 12, and is part of primary education. It's publicly funded. The only costs to students are for clubs and sports, and for school-provided lunch (which is excepted if your family is below a certain income). Most students graduate the same year they turn 18, so higher education (college or university) considerations only apply to adults.
There are heavy restrictions on pre-18 employment because of school. Limited hours per week, and evening cutoffs to ensure teens still have time for family/homework/etc.
Some schools (maybe all? I can only speak to my own experience) allow work release to grades 11 and 12, provided you're ahead enough on required credits and coursework for this to not set you back. Basically, you can trade elective classes for early release, but you must prove employment.
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I'm lean and short
Barely any tummy.
Red panda!
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I’d love for you to be right. Please elaborate.
You don't have a fiduciary responsibility to maximize profit, or anything like that. You have a responsibility to act in accordance to company rules and guidelines, and to act in the company's interest, not your own.
There is no requirement to burn to company down to maximize short-term profits, like some people think. That's usually at the expense of long-term profits anyway, so it could be better for profits to do something better for the customer.
You're only required to act "ethically" and keep the company's interests above your own.
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I wouldn't want to meet other Lemmy users in person, let alone date them.
Hot!
Check your dms! -
Stop giving a fuck about that, work hard, eat right & exercise, get some great guy friends, community, get some hobbies you love.
It's a great part of the human experience, but it's not worth rushing or forcing a fit. I know a handful of guys that forced the fit, wasn't worth it when they got run through the divorce courts.
Thanks, right message at the right time!
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Hot!
Check your dms!The last DM I got was Nicole, sadly.
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We need to normalize blaming monogamy for shitty monogamists the way people blame non-monogamy for shitty non-monogamists.
Non-monogamy is the logical extension of unlearning person-ownership, which is objectively good.
Been there, didn't work out for me. I get the ownership argument and all, long-term perspective etc., but just going non-monogamous doesn't solve anything.
Current hot take: it's more important that you really invest all the time, attention, effort, love they deserve into every person you want to have in your life. Personally, I can't do that for more than one other human. I even struggle with one.
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I suspect that ordinary avenues for meeting friends in one's 30's is also available for meeting partners, only you have to acknowledge that most of the people you meet aren't going to be single/interested.
I'm an extrovert. I talk to strangers in certain settings, especially where waiting around is normal. One of my best friends, I met in line waiting to get into a standup comedy show. I've met other friends in line for concerts and sporting events, too. I've also met friends sitting at the bar or some kind of communal table of a restaurant, and connected over the food itself. It just takes the boldness of asking for contact information and then texting "it was nice to meet you today, great talking to you" and then sometimes that becomes a friendship.
But pure strangers are hard to connect with in one interaction. Most of the friends I made after 30 were from repeated interactions over time: neighbors you see regularly, other regulars at the dog park/coffee shop, etc.
And once you're in a mode where you can make friends, if some of them happen to be single and compatible, maybe you try going out on a date.
And yes, this means that sometimes you'll meet people at the gym, or at their place of work, or other circumstances where it's frowned upon to hit on strangers. But making the friendship bridge first can give you that read on the situation of whether they're actually open to dating.
Interesting.
Is it just that younger people experience more social anxiety or that it's now frowned upon to be hit on? I used to be hit on a lot between the ages of 19 and 25; it felt gross sometimes but it was the norm. There seems to be more anxiety these days to meet people face to face. I wonder if social media has anything to do with it.
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I can't wait for TRUMPDate. Make America Date Again. Can't go wrong.
But the date is August 2, 1934
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
I bet that the Pandas would step in and keep us going.
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You don't have a fiduciary responsibility to maximize profit, or anything like that. You have a responsibility to act in accordance to company rules and guidelines, and to act in the company's interest, not your own.
There is no requirement to burn to company down to maximize short-term profits, like some people think. That's usually at the expense of long-term profits anyway, so it could be better for profits to do something better for the customer.
You're only required to act "ethically" and keep the company's interests above your own.
wrote last edited by [email protected]If the company has a goal to make more money every year, then you can justify a lot of actions in that pursuit. And once they have a monopoly you kinda don't have many options, so they can push more.
Saying they have a responsibility to keep you on the app may sound silly, but app user churn is most likely measured and has some goal around it. And if a goal is set around that churn then they very much have an obligation to keep you on there as long as possible.
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
wrote last edited by [email protected]oh dont worry. The right wingers will murder us all soon.
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I can't wait for TRUMPDate. Make America Date Again. Can't go wrong.
yes, and women will be required to use it and have babies with the incels on it.
Its that or prison, ladies!
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the sea is full of plenty of fish. (although these days not so plentifully)
A lot of the fish that are left are radioactive and full of poison.
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Pretty sure Tinder shadow banned me for some reason. I saw the same people constantly.
check out https://www.truublue.com/
dating for progressive singles. And check out the ginger lady at the bottom of the front page-- I couldnt say no after seeing that.
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Millennial here. Have recently dabbled with the apps. Honestly the guys I was shown were not objectively bad looking. Many of them were pretty attractive. But not my type at all. My interests were books and video games and nerdy sweetness…and it kept recommending me muscle gym divorced military dads. So I gave up.
Which app? Cause I can't find the nerdy girls.
The algorithm just pushes all these women who are wanting someone who will house them and take them on worldly vacations.
