The great millennial garbage gyre
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im curious now. what does it look like? what are the typical options?
it cant be as bad as a 29 year old dude on tinder, no way.
i do agree that they are intent on making that shitty app ever shittier yeah.
A lot of women use the phrase “all the good ones are taken” but the reverse can also be true as well. Where all the good women are also taken. So most dating apps are full of the people who can’t keep a relationship, cheat, aren’t investing into something, or are the “leftovers.” I have a ton of female friend and what I saw on the dating apps when we were 25 was horrendous. As you get into your late 20s and early 30s you start seeing a lot of divorcees and single parents who then don’t have time and therefore don’t invest. Or do “invest” but now aren’t worth it because their kids should be more important.
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This reminds me of the conversation I had with my co workers the other day. They basically warned don't do to your 10th/15th year class reunion, especially if you're in a relationship. All the girls who were used to constantly being in demand suddenly... aren't. And they're HORNY. And not in a very good way. In a very sad/depressing way.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I don’t really see the point in them anyway, why would I care about a dick measuring contest between people I no longer know
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I have zero sympathy for cis straight people who think they have limited dating options.
Huh? My LGBT friends are out there slaying and when my straight ass was last single, I got maybe a date a year. At this point, I'm fully prepared to die single because at 29 as a below average looking male, I'm not exactly the person any woman out there is looking for.
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I saw a girl on tiktok say something similar about how after a shit day at work she will look at hinge and be even further upset about the people who have liked her on hinge, as though this is all she deserves in life.
It sounds extremely depressing out there these days.
That sounds very entitled of her. She can choose whom to like back. And if she isn't happy with the options she has, she can go swipe on her own.
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Why would they use Tinder?
I think the 17 year old sees them because they've got their age range at like 18-20, loads of underage people make Tinder accounts and put their real age in the bio. And the 29 year old would then see a lot fewer men. That's what I'm guessing the comment you replied to was about.
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Right? I'm using my real name for my BlueSky account and I end up having to delete almost every comment I make for the same reason. It's a little paralyzing to have yourself on display like that.
It's strange to admit that now, because I went to college in 2004 when Facebook was just getting big and literally everyone was on it. I miss those days. It's hard to believe now with what an absolute shit show it has become, but early Facebook was wonderful. It genuinely made it easier to have a social life.
Early Facebook was cool, and then all our parents joined.
I nuked mine... a decade ago? Around when the Cambridge Analytica story broke.
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Whats it like in general? I uninstalled after I realized I can only pull porn bots shilling Instagram. I rather just die alone.
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We need to normalize blaming monogamy for shitty monogamists the way people blame non-monogamy for shitty non-monogamists.
Non-monogamy is the logical extension of unlearning person-ownership, which is objectively good.
It's cool that you're non mono, I probably am too, but people are justified to prefer to be mono regardless of your personal opinions on relationship type
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most men then
What do you possibly base this on, the idea that men only care about sex and can't want relationships?
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I have zero sympathy for cis straight people who think they have limited dating options.
Ok then I'll have zero sympathy for assholes, regardless of orientation. Like yourself.
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As a single (Maybe neurodivergent?) 30 year old male, what other option I have?
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What do you possibly base this on, the idea that men only care about sex and can't want relationships?
i never said any of that
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A lot of women use the phrase “all the good ones are taken” but the reverse can also be true as well. Where all the good women are also taken. So most dating apps are full of the people who can’t keep a relationship, cheat, aren’t investing into something, or are the “leftovers.” I have a ton of female friend and what I saw on the dating apps when we were 25 was horrendous. As you get into your late 20s and early 30s you start seeing a lot of divorcees and single parents who then don’t have time and therefore don’t invest. Or do “invest” but now aren’t worth it because their kids should be more important.
America is a different universe lmao. Most people aren't even married once in their late 20s in Denmark.
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As a single (Maybe neurodivergent?) 30 year old male, what other option I have?
Book clubs.
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A lot of the more popular ones, okcupid included, all got bought up by Match Group and almost immediately started trending anti-consumer in their updates or removal of features. They want you paying, they don't give a shit about success.
Close, they actively fight success. Legally obligated to, even. It’s their fiduciary responsibility to keep you using the app.
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As a single (Maybe neurodivergent?) 30 year old male, what other option I have?
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Strangely enough, I've got a couple of friends on Tinder who have noticed that their pool of people gets much better after their age rolls over "40".
Whatever it is about the Tinder algorithm automatically seeds the worst, grossest, weirdest, gnarlest dudes to anyone under that line. And then anyone over that line gets access to the pool of "normals".
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Close, they actively fight success. Legally obligated to, even. It’s their fiduciary responsibility to keep you using the app.
So capitalism is incompatible with dating apps. Who woulda thunk?
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It's probably better than the sea of picless profiles of "discreet" married "straight" men on Grindr.
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We need to normalize blaming monogamy for shitty monogamists the way people blame non-monogamy for shitty non-monogamists.
Non-monogamy is the logical extension of unlearning person-ownership, which is objectively good.
Non-monogamy is the logical extension of unlearning person-ownership
Like, that's definitely coffee-house sex philosophy truthiness. But it ignores the desire for someone(s) to come home to and rely on. A relationship is more than just getting off. And monogamy (or committed poly, if that's your vibe) is about building a friendship with the loved one and a community with their social circle.
You don't own your partner any more than you own your parents or your siblings or your closest friends. You just want to be near them regularly, because you love them. And when there's only so many hours in the day, you dedicate yourself to these people because you want a relationship that's deep rather than a series of flings that can only ever be shallow.
