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ADHD sufferer here.
A lot of these commenters seem to be using their ADHD as a crutch. Most people in my sphere are late because arriving late gets them the attention they crave.
Sorry, but having ADHD is NOT a good excuse when it comes to being somewhere on time.
attention? who does that? i can say for certain i don’t know a single person… i hate being late (and frequently am). it’s awkward and embarrassing and nothing else
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Unironically, though.
Stop trying to be "on time" and start planning to arrive early. That way when something inevitably trips you up, you've got a buffer to work with, rather than any deviation automatically making you late.
Legitimately I started doing this when I realized I'm a better person when I'm not rushing. I can take my time getting there, maybe help someone get their bags to their car, chat with the panhandlers, hold doors open without wishing the other person would hurry up, etc.
Better than just flooding myself with cortisol all the way to my appointment and arriving all flustered and shit.
For many people this is where the word s*** that you mentioned really does matter. The goal is to get to the thing before it begins which could be 30 seconds or 30 minutes early, whatever. And I think now when we all have digital devices, it's pretty easy to make use of your time by reading a book or the news or watching TikTok or whatever, so it's not like you're wasting time sitting around if you happen to arrive 20 minutes ahead of schedule.
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That's part of the problem. People assume an alarm—or some other '""simple"" solution—would solve everything. There's a fundamental lack of understanding, then, worsening the issue, people are judged based on that non-existent foundational comprehension that people don't always work the way you do.
It's simply not up to us. We can try, and sometimes succeed, but it's simply not within our control.
Why does an alarm not work?
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ADHD sufferer here.
A lot of these commenters seem to be using their ADHD as a crutch. Most people in my sphere are late because arriving late gets them the attention they crave.
Sorry, but having ADHD is NOT a good excuse when it comes to being somewhere on time.
Boy what the fuck are you talking about. Attention-seeking? If it were attention-seeking, why didn't people with disorders predicated on attention-seeking consistently go around being late all the time? You must have diagnosed yourself off Tiktok or Instagram because this is a comically off the mark reasoning.
