my (18f) sister (13f) is convinced i don’t care about her.
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lol what a fucking stupid thing to say
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hahaha glad someone liked it
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While you're pop psyching over there ya might want to look up 'parentification'
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thank you so much
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I did, how does that apply here?
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I don't get the overstimulated. Do you have a particular condition?
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autism and my dissociation causes me to be unable to talk when im too stimulated
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your comment is heavily intimating that the 18 year old would be responsible if the 13 year old turned out to be damaged from neglect That duty does not fall on siblings. it falls on parents. By shifting that responsibility you are attempting to make the sibling the parent in this dynamic.
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Work on building capacity in yourself to engage. You may be less naturally skillful at interacting, but everyone can improve. You're not that much older than her either.
Be kind, open, and honest with her. Ask open ended questions. Make time. -
This is going to sound cold and impersonal, the opposite of what you want, but have you considered having a script to use when you are overstimulated. It could be as short as a catchphrase like saying "hell yeah sister" to everything she says or something more in depth. That way you have something to say even if you don't have something to say.
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Oh no, I wasn't trying to put the blame on the 18yo - I was just saying that neglect is one of the worst forms of abuse there is, whomever's shoulders that may lie on
