my (18f) sister (13f) is convinced i don’t care about her.
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a lot of the time, i’m either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated.
when i’m overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someone’s saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where i’m listening but can’t process the words.
when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because it’s a lot of information. she says something like “never mind, you don’t care anyway, it’s not important” when i ask to be repeated.
she doesn’t care when i told her why i need it to be repeated.
she also thinks i’m mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i don’t talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i don’t laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok “brainrot” words)
since then, i decided to feign laughter so she’ll not think i’m upset with her.
i do try to be there for my sister, but there’s times where i cannot or just can’t talk.
I don't get the overstimulated. Do you have a particular condition?
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I don't get the overstimulated. Do you have a particular condition?
autism and my dissociation causes me to be unable to talk when im too stimulated
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I did, how does that apply here?
your comment is heavily intimating that the 18 year old would be responsible if the 13 year old turned out to be damaged from neglect That duty does not fall on siblings. it falls on parents. By shifting that responsibility you are attempting to make the sibling the parent in this dynamic.
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a lot of the time, i’m either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated.
when i’m overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someone’s saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where i’m listening but can’t process the words.
when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because it’s a lot of information. she says something like “never mind, you don’t care anyway, it’s not important” when i ask to be repeated.
she doesn’t care when i told her why i need it to be repeated.
she also thinks i’m mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i don’t talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i don’t laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok “brainrot” words)
since then, i decided to feign laughter so she’ll not think i’m upset with her.
i do try to be there for my sister, but there’s times where i cannot or just can’t talk.
Work on building capacity in yourself to engage. You may be less naturally skillful at interacting, but everyone can improve. You're not that much older than her either.
Be kind, open, and honest with her. Ask open ended questions. Make time. -
a lot of the time, i’m either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated.
when i’m overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someone’s saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where i’m listening but can’t process the words.
when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because it’s a lot of information. she says something like “never mind, you don’t care anyway, it’s not important” when i ask to be repeated.
she doesn’t care when i told her why i need it to be repeated.
she also thinks i’m mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i don’t talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i don’t laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok “brainrot” words)
since then, i decided to feign laughter so she’ll not think i’m upset with her.
i do try to be there for my sister, but there’s times where i cannot or just can’t talk.
This is going to sound cold and impersonal, the opposite of what you want, but have you considered having a script to use when you are overstimulated. It could be as short as a catchphrase like saying "hell yeah sister" to everything she says or something more in depth. That way you have something to say even if you don't have something to say.
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your comment is heavily intimating that the 18 year old would be responsible if the 13 year old turned out to be damaged from neglect That duty does not fall on siblings. it falls on parents. By shifting that responsibility you are attempting to make the sibling the parent in this dynamic.
Oh no, I wasn't trying to put the blame on the 18yo - I was just saying that neglect is one of the worst forms of abuse there is, whomever's shoulders that may lie on
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