Are you better off than your parents at your age?
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Hard to compare in my case. I’m the same age as my mom when she had me, and we were multiple kids at that point. At the time we were probably smack dab middle class and were living comfortably. On the other hand I’m better off in the sense that I’m in another country that has a higher standard of living and way higher salaries, and we don’t have kids.
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Better in what regard?
Fiscally all things adjusted and accounted for? Fuck no,Progress as a person and self growth and development? Absolutely.
Also I will never breed, so always will be one up in my parents there,
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Not at all. And I'm doing extremely well.
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When my parents were my age, they left their home country to move to the US in search of opportunity
Now that I'm that age, I'm leaving the US to move because of literal Nazis
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That's sad. My dad got molested by a priest when he was a kid. Back in the 70s, nobody took it seriously enough and people didn't want the shame of it so it got brushed under the rug. Nobody ever helped him growing up so he became a severe alcoholic and drug addict. Constantly getting taken by the cops, unable to hold a job for long. But he still gave a fuck about me enough to actually make sure I did the right stuff as an adult and get a decent job. I'll finish by saying this, the priest that did it got shipped off by the church to the Phillipines. They tried hiding him. But he did it again there and they fucking killed him. Mutilated him while he was still alive and fed him his own dick then tied his corpse to a pole in the center of town. At least according to my aunties.
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Better in what regard?
Fiscally all things adjusted and accounted for? Fuck no,Progress as a person and self growth and development? Absolutely.
Also I will never breed, so always will be one up in my parents there,
Absolutely same
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Absolutely not.
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Yep. Low bar to clear
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No. I'm not in a bad spot but definitely not as comfortable as I grew up.
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Nope, and the horrible thing is that I have a high earning job while they didn't even work, they got to live off of my grandparents' wealth (which was half from actual impressive entrepreneurship and half from just buying cheap land that over the years became very valuable) and then they mady terrible financial decisions (as rich kids often do) and now I get to earn my own money. I'm glad that I get to be independent, but sure would have been fun to have some family wealth as well...
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Not even close
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Technically not since they were married, were renting small house, and had at least one kid by the time they were my age. I'm still in college.
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In terms of satisfaction? No. In terms of finances? Not sure. By my age, my parents were together, my mom had my sister and my dad became a step father to her, they had a lot of friends and were very popular. Me...not so much in any of those things. But I'm living comfortably in my own apartment, no kids or S.O. so I have a lot of spare cash and a lot of things I like. I don't know if my parents had the same pleasures as me at this age.
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Absolutely. Both me and my siblings. My parents were in an okay spot at this point, but they supported us to do far better.
Times were pretty borked compared to now, at least in this country.
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Financially yes, psychologically, no.
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In some ways, sure. I'm not religious, and I don't have children. In terms of finances, no.
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Financially? No
Psychologically? Also no
but I've actually got therapy and taken a step to breaking generational trauma so that's something! -
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Gosh no, not in Canada.
They paid 170k for a great house in one of the nicest neighborhood of Montreal in the 90s. I'll be paying 3x more for a super basic house in a shitty neighborhood. I was lucky enough to buy a house before the pandemic so I made a profit selling it, but even with that I won't even come close to their way of living.
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Yes! But it's because our situations are very different. I don't have a child, but I was already a preteen when my mom was this age. I didn't have a deadbeat, abusive, drug addicted, , money draining spouse. I've cut off people (family) that I saw take advantage of my mother growing up. I don't have a sibling who is a manipulative, selfish, lazy, money grubbing piece of shit. Fuck, I don't have a daughter (me) that I've had to help for years while she tried to get on her feet.
I also have a wonderful mother who did what she could to set me up for success, trying to correct the mistakes of her childhood. My great aunt left me some money that helped with school (I'm still in debt, but could have been way worse). I have a good friend that talks me out of reckless shit, bit egging me on to take advtage.
I'm also less social, so I'm not going out to lunch or parties and what have you. I live alone with one cat.
TL;DR: Yes, but is because I have less responbilities than my mother had at this age, and it's cheaper living a solitary lifestyle with one kitty cat.
