Life at 40
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For me I found casual or occasional smoking could too easily become "just one more". I hated the fact that it had a grip over me but I needed a more definitive reason to quit.
What worked for me was when my sister told me she was going to have a baby. I didn't want that kid to have smoking adults in her life. Which meant I had to quit, and hopefully that would help my sister to quit as well. I don't know if my actions made any difference but she did quit. Doing it for a kid was a powerful motivator for me. When she gave me the news, I put down the phone, tossed my remaining cigarettes in the trash and left it at that. Not even one last one. I knew I had the motivation I was waiting for and that was the end of it.I guess everybody has their own way that works for them and you just need to find what that is.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Yeah for sure. I'm afraid of the "just one more" thing too, that's why I don't think of it as casual. It's more like I expressly forbid it in association with things I do every day or places I am every day, then if it happens in the corner cases once in a blue moon, I'm fine. So for instance, one rule I have is not to buy any packs ever and I don't keep any around the house — you don't move in with your FWB lol. But if there's a crowd of friends or something, we can partake, but it's like a ritual, it has a clear start and end and you don't take it home with you. I specifically modeled it after weed, since I'm not addicted to that at all, and if it's around me I sometimes partake and sometimes don't. That's how I'm currently with cigarettes. Plus, I don't go out much these days, so I barely even see anyone else do it.
That said, you're right: both that it's a different experience for everyone, and that it's better to just never touch it again, but personally I can't live with the thought of being banned from something for the rest of my life, because that implies I've already experienced it for the last time in my life, and that just brings in the existential dread.
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Just wait until 40. It's like going down a step with your eyes closed without knowing the step is coming. Very jarring and painful.
Haha omg, actually the best description of hitting 40 I have seen! Pretty much this yes
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Aging sucks. I think with the tremendous computing resources presently wasted on vapid AI slop and endless fart videos, we could instead use it for anti-aging research.
Not gonna happen, humans don't prioritize like that.
They'll make slop and scams in desperate attempts to justify taking their share of the produce from the mechanized fields.
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Not gonna happen, humans don't prioritize like that.
They'll make slop and scams in desperate attempts to justify taking their share of the produce from the mechanized fields.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I remember SETI@home and folding@home.... SETI I think is a dead end, but understanding our genome and proteome and how constantly recycled ageless atoms somehow manage to encode "age" is something I really want to know.
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My co-worker running ahead of me at 40, looking like the happest person there:
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Aging sucks. I think with the tremendous computing resources presently wasted on vapid AI slop and endless fart videos, we could instead use it for anti-aging research.
Let's just say that even if you where immortal, there is still the issue of your "soul" aging. In other words, you know you are old, and you won't enjoy playing Pokemon Platinum in the same way.
Society will also increasingy isolate you in various ways.
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My co-worker running ahead of me at 40, looking like the happest person there:
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Let's just say that even if you where immortal, there is still the issue of your "soul" aging. In other words, you know you are old, and you won't enjoy playing Pokemon Platinum in the same way.
Society will also increasingy isolate you in various ways.
I'd rather be isolated than dead.
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Let's just say that even if you where immortal, there is still the issue of your "soul" aging. In other words, you know you are old, and you won't enjoy playing Pokemon Platinum in the same way.
Society will also increasingy isolate you in various ways.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Fear mongering nonsense. Did anyone feel that way when infant mortality went way down?
You'll have other people the same "old" as you to hang out with. Many people say they "feel 25" inside, well guess what, now we can make your body align with that.
We already have "anti-aging" compared to how people aged, say, two hundred or two thousand years ago.
Besides, "immortality" is an absolute, you can always choose to unalive yourself if you feel so strongly about Pokemon Platinum. No Greek-style tragedy of the "immortal" who can't kill themselves.
Seems to me there is a lot more in life that can be enjoyed with a few extra centuries.
Or even better, a Logan's Run style of extended youth for your "allotted" four score and ten, then poof! Carousel. No aging, no senescence, no frailty, sickness, disease, waning sense and shrinking brains, just extended 20-something for 60 years, then ZAAP!
I'll take that over the meandering aging nonsense of how I'm supposed to revel in my aging carcass.
PS: There is no soul. Just complex patterns in a vat of neurons.
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Fear mongering nonsense. Did anyone feel that way when infant mortality went way down?
You'll have other people the same "old" as you to hang out with. Many people say they "feel 25" inside, well guess what, now we can make your body align with that.
We already have "anti-aging" compared to how people aged, say, two hundred or two thousand years ago.
Besides, "immortality" is an absolute, you can always choose to unalive yourself if you feel so strongly about Pokemon Platinum. No Greek-style tragedy of the "immortal" who can't kill themselves.
Seems to me there is a lot more in life that can be enjoyed with a few extra centuries.
Or even better, a Logan's Run style of extended youth for your "allotted" four score and ten, then poof! Carousel. No aging, no senescence, no frailty, sickness, disease, waning sense and shrinking brains, just extended 20-something for 60 years, then ZAAP!
I'll take that over the meandering aging nonsense of how I'm supposed to revel in my aging carcass.
PS: There is no soul. Just complex patterns in a vat of neurons.
Ok. All that just to tell you I'm 29, and get asked occasionally what grade I'm in. I'd know. I can already see all the anti-aging interventions, but I feel like I missed out on something permanently. Like nothing can make up for that fact.
And that is why I'm going to compensate by being a glorious warrior. I have nothing else left.
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I'd rather be isolated than dead.
Not saying I'd rather be dead (oftentimes I would), but there's some things money, time, and success can't fix. Like for example: if you fuck a goat, you are a goat fucker for life.
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This checks out.
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Aging sucks. I think with the tremendous computing resources presently wasted on vapid AI slop and endless fart videos, we could instead use it for anti-aging research.
Naah, it's not nearly smart enough to do that yet.
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After reading the newer comments I don't know what to think. Maybe this changes based upon the country one finds one self in?
Yeah kids are often off, by a good amount, but I haven't really seen one multiple decades out of whack with reality. Maybe toddlers, but these kids are 7. Now they probably would say 40 is old, but wouldn't ascribe attributes to a 40 year old they see in actual elderly people.
Might be the country, but I am in the US, and we are supposed to be stupid, especially the current generation of brain rotten children, so I don't know.
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Ok. All that just to tell you I'm 29, and get asked occasionally what grade I'm in. I'd know. I can already see all the anti-aging interventions, but I feel like I missed out on something permanently. Like nothing can make up for that fact.
And that is why I'm going to compensate by being a glorious warrior. I have nothing else left.
Knew a fellow who had a similar look. He'd go into the bars and hand the hottest woman there a $20 and ask her to buy the drinks because he was afraid of getting carded. Most of the time they enjoyed the idea of corrupting an innocent and paid for his drinks.
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This but it just keeps on going.
8? 15 = adult
15? 25 = adult
25? 35 = adult
I have income, a job, a car, a place to live. I dont feel like an adult yet.Heard an interview one. The man said that at 20 he could imagine being 40, and at 40 he could imagine being 80. He was 67 at the time...
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Fear mongering nonsense. Did anyone feel that way when infant mortality went way down?
You'll have other people the same "old" as you to hang out with. Many people say they "feel 25" inside, well guess what, now we can make your body align with that.
We already have "anti-aging" compared to how people aged, say, two hundred or two thousand years ago.
Besides, "immortality" is an absolute, you can always choose to unalive yourself if you feel so strongly about Pokemon Platinum. No Greek-style tragedy of the "immortal" who can't kill themselves.
Seems to me there is a lot more in life that can be enjoyed with a few extra centuries.
Or even better, a Logan's Run style of extended youth for your "allotted" four score and ten, then poof! Carousel. No aging, no senescence, no frailty, sickness, disease, waning sense and shrinking brains, just extended 20-something for 60 years, then ZAAP!
I'll take that over the meandering aging nonsense of how I'm supposed to revel in my aging carcass.
PS: There is no soul. Just complex patterns in a vat of neurons.
Tell that to my knees
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Knew a fellow who had a similar look. He'd go into the bars and hand the hottest woman there a $20 and ask her to buy the drinks because he was afraid of getting carded. Most of the time they enjoyed the idea of corrupting an innocent and paid for his drinks.
Priceless. I can drink a certain hard drink casually...Thank you for giving me ideas
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Me, over 50
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I'd rather be isolated than dead.
Depends. Will I still have my glasses, now that I have time to read all the books in the library?
