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How much of a deal breaker would be a high body count for you?

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    Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

    When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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      Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

      When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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      Considering that I’m approaching triple digits, it’d be pretty hypocritical for me to not be comfortable with my partners also having a high count.

      Edit to add:
      Honestly, I prefer that my partners have a decently high count. It means that they know what they’re doing, know what they want, and know how to ask for it. The only downside is that we never have a good answer to the stock question of, “What wild fantasy do you have that you’ve never done?” We’ve all probably done anything that we’ve fantasized about.

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        Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

        When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

        tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT This user is from outside of this forum
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        Not a deal breaker at all :3

        Honestly makes it more fun uwu

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          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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          I know for a fact my wife has a higher count than I do, how much more? No clue, because I never asked and it doesn't matter.

          Everything she's done up until I met her, made her the woman I love today.

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          • F [email protected]

            Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

            When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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            If there are no STI's involved, I fail to see how it's anyone else's business. Unless your partner decides to willingly divulge this info, of course.

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              Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

              When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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              So "body count" in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.

              I can't answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question...if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.

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                Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                Personally I'd start to have an issue if they've been with over double my count as I think its indicative of a mismatched libido that could lead to problems.

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                  Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                  When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                  I know for a fact that I am completely comfortable with low double digits and the numbers really aren't that important. I'm not a high scorer by any means, but never really thought about the numbers. Can't remember ever asking for a count.

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                    Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                    When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                    I don’t ask for that information. As long as he has shown himself to be a good, loyal partner, his sexual past wouldn’t matter to me unless he did something unethical to achieve it.

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                      Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                      When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                      I have low numbers and it is a non-issue for me... NO STI!

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                      • stinerman@midwest.socialS [email protected]

                        So "body count" in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.

                        I can't answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question...if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.

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                        Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.

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                          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                          If you have a problem with the number of people your partner slept with prior to meeting you, you really shouldn't be dating, as you need therapy to work through your issues before you start mucking about with other people.

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                            Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                            When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                            I'm not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand 'body count'?

                            Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don't give a f... I mean, I don't care. It's not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.

                            The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.

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                              Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                              When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                              Body count is stupid.

                              As long as someone is honest with you, cares about you, and gotten tested so they aren't spreading anything... who honestly gives a shit?

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                                I'm not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand 'body count'?

                                Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don't give a f... I mean, I don't care. It's not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.

                                The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.

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                                Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.

                                If this is in any other context than sex, I'm concerned

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                                  Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                  When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                  For me, I don’t care to know the details of their past relationships. It’s none of my business. If anything, sharing body counts is just another way to shame a partner for something that should not be held against anyone. So what if she sucked 37 dicks? Doesn’t matter if it was in a row or not.

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                                    Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                    When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                    I’m married so it’s moot, but I’m gonna go against the grain a little bit here. I don’t know that it would ever be a dealbreaker but it might signal a fundamental incompatibility because of me. I recently discovered the term “demisexual” and that describes me pretty well. I’d say I’m somewhere between demi and flat out asexual. So yeah, I wouldn’t judge a high number from a partner but I would worry that we wouldn’t work out, if that makes sense.

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                                      Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.

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                                      Because a linguistic association between sex and murder is so adorable, especially when it comes from kids!

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                                        Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                        When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                        Not only do I not mind, I would hope that my perspective partner would have enough sexual experience so that we would both enjoy ourselves.

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                                          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                          Not a factor at all, but using the term "body count" is enough on its own to lose interest.

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