Is it too late to develop a social life in your mid 20s if you never had one prior?

[dragonsinaroom@lemmy.world]

No its not too late

[classifiedpancake@discuss.tchncs.de]

My 20s were complete garbage. I can't remember most of what happened there because nothing ever happened. At the end I didn't see any hope for myself and had some disturbing thoughts. But I've come around somehow and met my now best friends and many other nice people during my 30s. I owe them my life basically. Though I still have trouble finding romantic connection and I'm not trying anymore.

Where I meet people: At work, neighbors, hiking or board game groups

[admetus@sopuli.xyz]

I feel like the most important thing to take away here is to not feel pushed to have a social life. One city I lived in I had one friend I really considered a friend and the rest were mostly in the background (though fun to hang out with time to time).

For me a social life is enough if I find a single person who is capable of listening and rolls with bouncing ideas off each other.

May or may not apply to OP but zero social life sounds like they're an introvert.

[beerclue@lemmy.world]

Mid 20s? You're barely out of your teenage years, of course you can. Now if anyone has some tips for mid 40s...

[ramendame@lemmy.world]

As someone mentioned before: play boardgames. The nice thing is you don’t need any cause we gamers already have plenty and are always looking for people to play with.

Also go volunteering. You’ll meet people of different ages, genders and backgrounds. I myself volunteer in a youth centre in my neighbourhood. Initially I knew no one on the streets. Now people recognise me, teens and parents alike, say hello and acknowledge me. I myself like this. It makes the neighbourhood feel more welcoming and save. Initially I „hid“ behind our counter having a save distance between me and the teens until I felt comfortable and feeling like I can intrude their space. It takes time. But it is worth it.

[mapleseedfall@lemmy.world]

Can second boardgames. these are the sociable nerds

[satanclaus@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

Nah. You can make friends at any age. Most of it comes down to showing interest in the person you want to befriend and asking them about themselves.

Imo as an ADHD person this world best for me. The hard part is finding the interesting person I wanna befriend. Most have happened casually through games or events. If you board game. Or pickle ball. Or shit join a cooking class. Good chance you'll be interested in someone in the bunch.

[cmgvd3lw@discuss.tchncs.de]

You number friends?

[sunsofold@lemmings.world]

Absolutely.
I was an absolute loner for the better part of a decade. Then my depression just disappeared. I joined a community around a streamer and had loads of fun. Just find the intersection between your preferred subject (literary analysis, anime tiddies, etc.) and your preferred communication method. (Text forum, voice chat, real life meetings, etc.) You'll find at least someone you can hang with, maybe more. Just go at it with openness and joy.

[soapbox1858@lemm.ee]

They are obviously ranked too. duh. Number 1 and 2 are always fighting for rank.
With 18 friends they only have 2 left in the 20 friend limit. It's very competitive.

[ramble81@lemm.ee]

I mean he needed his MySpace top 8

[wahots@pawb.social]

Dude, it's literally never too late. x3

There's old people fuck-a-thons in retirement homes for heaven's sake, lol. And those people are almost a century old.

Get on meetup.com if you aren't sure what's out there, but there's all sorts of fun stuff going on! Meetup is platonic.