What do I want for my birthday?
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It's that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I'm not the kind of person that ever wants anything...
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it's hard when I don't talk about things I want. And when asked, I don't know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn't want things want for their birthday?
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An experience, like going axe-throwing.
A favorite food.
A music playlist made especially with you in mind.
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I also donβt like receiving gifts from my spouse. So I just tell her to buy my bar tab for the night.
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Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like "all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don't need anything more." If that even is something you'd even want to do if course. Don't force it if it isn't what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you're happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I'd probably just say "get me a big ol' bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I'll be in heaven."
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A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.
Or, if you don't have boots, you can ask for those.
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Full disclosure, I peeked at your comment history.
How about those phone mounts and maybe a neat 2-in-1 tripod/monopod for your binoculars? Or a shoulder sling?
Otherwise, my go-to is an experience like others suggested. Escape room, paint nite, afternoon of pool/ bowling/ mini golf, Top Golf, cooking class, museum visit, comedy night, hockey game, roller skating, hiking, music bingo/pub trivia, or consider a hotel room nearby for the night with an indoor pool or my absolute favorite...a cabin weekend with a hot tub and a real wood-burning fireplace.
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I always ask for the same thing.
A rare steak and messy anal.
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Pick something you already have and use often, like a phone charger or an office chair or a pair of shoes, and ask for a higher quality version of the same thing. Something that will last longer or be more comfortable.
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My partner gifted me a pottery class recently, which we are doing next weekend and im VERY excited about. Maybe do that?
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Beans
Jamon Iberico
Life size model of Captain Picard
Escape Room
8000 Hamsters
Ketamine
Dinner at a fancy restaurant
Art
Bathtub of chocolate pudding
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Maybe a really nice edition of a book you already love, from a luxury publisher like The Folio Society or Easton Press?
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An escape room with 8000 hamsters and ketamine. Now that's a birthday
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Best I can do is a meatball and an over-the-pants tugjob.
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A pair of Calico Cut Pants
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With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn't have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine's my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there's a thing you've been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
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Food? Everybody likes food, right?
Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever
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Get a hobby. You'll always need/want stuff if you become a photographer or a fisherman or pnp-player or a ...
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Consumables are great. It opens up for repeatability and the receiver is never stuck with dust collectors.
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I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don't have to think on the spot about what I want.
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You want a 6npack of BIC medium black pens
