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That's an impressive drop. Any ideas why?

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    Spousal Rape Laws started getting enforced finally.

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    • ibaudia@lemmy.worldI [email protected]

      I've also never been in a relationship that totally satisfied my sex drive, so I feel this a lot. My fiance used to be very sexual like me, but then she went on antidepressants and that was kinda killed. Now, she's off then again, but her sex drive never rebounded, even though she thinks I'm more attractive now that I've been working out and gained muscle. Just sad to be jerking off in the office or bathroom every day instead of being intimate with someone you love because they don't want to have sex with you 🫤

      I don't blame her or anything, it just hurts my soul a bit. Her sex drive is so low now that I feel guilty and anxious even asking, because I know she'll either reject it outright or just tolerate it if she really wants to make me happy that day, which kills it for me.

      I'd say we only really have sex where we're both equally enjoying it maybe once every few weeks to once a month. If her drive were the same as mine, that would be once or twice a day. Just a shitty situation for me.

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      I don’t blame her or anything, it just hurts my soul a bit. Her sex drive is so low now that I feel guilty and anxious even asking, because I know she’ll either reject it outright or just tolerate it if she really wants to make me happy that day, which kills it for me.

      Yeah, I'm single now and intend to stay that way but I don't blame my exes or hold it against women as a whole. It's just a fact of life. It has bothered me enough to end relationships over it but it was just about the incompatibility not any malice towards them. I'd much rather just hang out as friends and not have that "is she going to be in the mood or not?" question running in my head the whole time or feeling shitty if I make a move and get shot down, or worry that they're feeling like I'm trying to pressure them into something. It just creates a bad situation and stresses me out because it's not like I can just turn it off. I've tried jacking off but my shit recovers too fast when I'm around a woman that I like for that to help.

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        1. People are more willing to be honest now.
        2. How much of that sex in the past had the same amount of consent?
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        It says 1990 not 1900!

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          Spousal Rape Laws started getting enforced finally.

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          So we're gonna see it go back up?

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            I have a really high sex drive and I've never been in a relationship where I consistently got it often enough to be satisfied so I stopped trying. It also doesn't help that my living situation is not conducive to bringing people home with me.

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            Monogamist problems.

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              https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/antidepressant-sexual-side-effects#side-effects-in-women

              The best answer is how anti depressants which at least 20% of those in the USA take ---- depresses the sex drive for both males and females.

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              11.4% take anti depressants and between 40-65% experience some degree of sexual dysfunction so even using the highest numbers and assuming that the sexual dysfunction completely eliminates interest in sex (it doesn’t) that would only be 7.41%

              https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db528.htm

              https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6007725/#%3A~%3Atext=Given+that+SSRIs+may+cause%2Ca+barrier+to+medication+adherence.

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                Should I invest in sex now that it's low?

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                Yes. Put it all on options.

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                  https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/antidepressant-sexual-side-effects#side-effects-in-women

                  The best answer is how anti depressants which at least 20% of those in the USA take ---- depresses the sex drive for both males and females.

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                  That's some b.s rfk was saying. That's not the cause. Dysfunction is not the same as low sex drive. It can mean any number of things.

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                    https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/antidepressant-sexual-side-effects#side-effects-in-women

                    The best answer is how anti depressants which at least 20% of those in the USA take ---- depresses the sex drive for both males and females.

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                    Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of.

                    Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

                    Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

                    Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

                    Women are dying from pregnancy.
                    Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

                    Women are scared.

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                      Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of. It's a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don't deserve basic human rights.

                      It's a huge mood killer.

                      Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

                      Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

                      Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

                      Women are dying from pregnancy.
                      Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

                      Women are scared.

                      *I realize not every sex encounter is a man and woman. But most of the population is hetero.

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                        Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of. It's a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don't deserve basic human rights.

                        It's a huge mood killer.

                        Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

                        Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

                        Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

                        Women are dying from pregnancy.
                        Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

                        Women are scared.

                        *I realize not every sex encounter is a man and woman. But most of the population is hetero.

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                        Can I also add in stress and other environmental factors?

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                          Besides plenty of other reasons people mentioned, Gen Z in particular is pretty antisocial. I've seen them hang out at bars, they might get one drink and just stare at their phone. Just anecdotal, but from what I've gathered it definitely feels like those type of folk either don't know how to have fun or are averse to it. I don't mean that in a completely negative way, either. I think covid really made a lot of people in general more socially inept. Again, I don't mean that to denegrate and I've definitely felt that a bit myself.

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                            Spousal Rape Laws started getting enforced finally.

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                            An ex once who told me that she had a rape fetish, was totally into it. I was against it but since she was longing for it so badly I told her "I‘ll do it during week 18 but I won’t tell you when" and she was excited.

                            Long story short: she enjoyed it while it lasted but cried afterwards because I was too harsh.

                            Years later I ran into her husband and it turned out that she has BPD.

                            I am very lucky to have had a written contract back then.

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                              An ex once who told me that she had a rape fetish, was totally into it. I was against it but since she was longing for it so badly I told her "I‘ll do it during week 18 but I won’t tell you when" and she was excited.

                              Long story short: she enjoyed it while it lasted but cried afterwards because I was too harsh.

                              Years later I ran into her husband and it turned out that she has BPD.

                              I am very lucky to have had a written contract back then.

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                              I think generally you'd want to start smaller when trying any CNC stuff. But hey, a lot of kinks exist only in our minds but aren't something people want to try, and sometimes we find out the hard way. I hope you two have each other the aftercare needed to move past that.

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                                Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of.

                                Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

                                Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

                                Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

                                Women are dying from pregnancy.
                                Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

                                Women are scared.

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                                trend was before any new abortion bans. You probably cannot consider men avoiding women, but that is likely a larger overall factor.

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                                  Besides plenty of other reasons people mentioned, Gen Z in particular is pretty antisocial. I've seen them hang out at bars, they might get one drink and just stare at their phone. Just anecdotal, but from what I've gathered it definitely feels like those type of folk either don't know how to have fun or are averse to it. I don't mean that in a completely negative way, either. I think covid really made a lot of people in general more socially inept. Again, I don't mean that to denegrate and I've definitely felt that a bit myself.

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                                  Younger generations seem to treat basic conversation as cringeworthy. Like the fact that you’re even talking to them is seen as appalling, regardless of the context.

                                  I’ve seen kids walk up to a register at a fast food joint, then act surprised and put off when the cashier asked for their order. Like the cashier was in the wrong for initiating a conversation. Oftentimes, the kid won’t even respond until the cashier is like “ooookay, uhh… If you’re not ready to order, can you step out of line?”

                                  The best description I’ve seen for it is “they’re waiting for the dialog options to load.” Because it 100% looks like they’re just waiting for some external force to move the conversation along. It reminds me of when boomers get the lead paint stare while waiting for the card reader to finish reading their chip. The machine will just be dinging at them to remove their card, the cashier will be like “Uhh sir? Please take your card” and the boomer will act surprised. Like they were just stuck in a loading screen while the rest of the party was already pulling mobs.

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                                    I think generally you'd want to start smaller when trying any CNC stuff. But hey, a lot of kinks exist only in our minds but aren't something people want to try, and sometimes we find out the hard way. I hope you two have each other the aftercare needed to move past that.

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                                    Of course we did! CNC without aftercare is unacceptable

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                                      Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of. It's a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don't deserve basic human rights.

                                      It's a huge mood killer.

                                      Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

                                      Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

                                      Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

                                      Women are dying from pregnancy.
                                      Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

                                      Women are scared.

                                      *I realize not every sex encounter is a man and woman. But most of the population is hetero.

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                                      It’s a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don’t deserve basic human rights.

                                      While I don't disagree with this theory, I wonder why you would think that this is a recent development.

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                                        Lack of genuine idle time breeds ... non-breeding.

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                                          Yes. Put it all on options.

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                                          I'ma short that shit to the ground

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