I love bpd girls
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How does the post blame the guy?
Genuinely curious because i'm not seeing it..
don't get it as well, but I guess it's because of the @toxxxicmasculinity
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Yes, you should run. It probably doesn't do you any good to tell you this now, as I know how intoxicating those times can be, but you should run. I was in exactly this situation. Also it WILL be hard to find equivalent sex in the future. Just try not to think too much about the fact that you might have now peaked in that regard.
If you get to the point that you want some helpful answers, consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I read it in one night, it was so helpful back in the day. See if maybe it touches any sensitive areas.
It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
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Can't it be kept in check with meds?
The flipside is the meds will numb the qualities that make such people so special in the first place
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It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
wrote last edited by [email protected]Same here. She really, really loved me, in her way, and I love(d) her. Closest I've had yet to something long-term sustainable. But was it tho? She compared me to Jesus and called me a sex god. She drew my penis as art. Touched me constantly. Said I looked and smelled like a French king (it was well-intentioned). Really took an interest in my hobbies--to the point that they became her hobbies and it became a lot. We were really, really close. I ended up having to call the police on her when she finally confessed to the cheating and it ended. She shaved her head and moved to Indonesia. As with the highs, so with the lows.
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Same here. She really, really loved me, in her way, and I love(d) her. Closest I've had yet to something long-term sustainable. But was it tho? She compared me to Jesus and called me a sex god. She drew my penis as art. Touched me constantly. Said I looked and smelled like a French king (it was well-intentioned). Really took an interest in my hobbies--to the point that they became her hobbies and it became a lot. We were really, really close. I ended up having to call the police on her when she finally confessed to the cheating and it ended. She shaved her head and moved to Indonesia. As with the highs, so with the lows.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Dude that is crazy. Are you doing ok now? That would traumatize me for the rest of my life.
What you said is terrifying accurate to my situation, she treats me like some literal god
I don't think she's the type to cheat but you have me questioning that now. I am a lot more concerned she will kill herself rather than cheat tbh but if either of those things happened I'd be a destroyed person
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The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.
Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.
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She was not honest and was not working on it. I was just hopeful it would magically get better. Because I’m stupid and figured it had to if I just kept working on it and being a good boyfriend. But I know now there wasn’t much I could do.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Bingo. Been there. So much better to be alone. Hard to make any progress in life when you have a partner who is totally unreliable and unsupportive and views everything in life as a threat to themselves.
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Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.
Also at any moment the other personality that wants to use the knife for some kinky shit could come out.
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It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
this is classic abuse victim rationalization.
Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn't mean she still isn't treating you like shit.
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Wishing you the best therapist she can find. "Integrated Family Systems" could be of help.
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this is classic abuse victim rationalization.
Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn't mean she still isn't treating you like shit.
I'm mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I'm a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way
I'm raised by narcissists and I'm slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it's easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don't really intend to manipulate people but it's still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn't. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually
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I'm mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I'm a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way
I'm raised by narcissists and I'm slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it's easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don't really intend to manipulate people but it's still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn't. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually
oh by all means then. treat each other like shit and rationalize it or whatever.
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oh by all means then. treat each other like shit and rationalize it or whatever.
So far it feels like a net win compared to the rest of my shit life and I was single for 1.5 years before this and I couldn't really stand it anymore
No normal girl is going to tolerate me in a long term relationship, they are completely out of my league
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I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD
Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.
This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.
This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal
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She’s disordered, but it’s the man’s fault. Typical.
Looks like the He-Man Woman Hater's Club found Lemmy.
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You hear about the guy with 5 dicks? His condom fit like a glove.
Johnny 5 cocks? The X-men mutant?
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The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.
Ah the multiple personality serial killer trope. Classic, fallacious, and not the least bit problematic.
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*She can fix herself, given the internal motivation, a stable environment, and a whole lotta patience and earned trust
Source: gf has BPD and I'm really proud of her
You're good people
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The crazy girls being better at sex thing always confused me. I vaguely understand that correlation but like… it holds so true. What is it about bpd that makes you bang so good?
From personsl experience: it's not worth it.
Swap pronouns were applicable.
You'll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won't have the time or energy for sex. Then she'll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did't want her anymore and she wanted revenge.
She'll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it's probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn't have room in his parent's apartment that she's moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.
My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.
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Can't it be kept in check with meds?
It's a trauma disorder so medication is really only fighting the symptoms. It can be healed tho. Not everyone with BPD projects it outwardly either and not all that do are abusive.
