Do you have any rules you try to follow when engaging with others online?
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I also follow this in offline interactions.
I'll engage if two of the three can be answered with a "yes".
1 - Is it kind?
2 - Is it true?
3 - Is it necessary?
For online-only conversations, assume that everything you say is public.
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If you have to absolutely, positively, immediately, reply right now for reasons .. don't.
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If I've tagged them as "DNE" (don't engage), then trust I tagged them for a reason and don't engage.
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Ted Lasso rule: Be curious, not judgemental. I try to give people the chance to explain themselves. I assume good faith. Even if I'm pretty sure I'm right, I allow for the possibility that I'm not or that I'm missing some relevant information.
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I wince when I hear people talk about putting everything on signal. It's like, you know if your using Google keyboard on Android, Apple devices, servers to transfer the data, and many others are listening in.
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Applies to emails, texts, pretty much any form of communication. Wait 20 minutes minimum before hitting send.
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The main rule I try to adhere to:
If I think someone who responded to my comment did not read the whole thing, I should not reply.
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Stupid question: Can I tag people here?
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Lemmy itself doesn't support user tags, but some of the clients like voyager, do.
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Cool thanks! I use Voyager and can’t find it
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To add on to this, there's no such thing as an alt account. You will eventually let something slip that will lead back to your main or to you. It's not plausible, but it is possible and I act accordingly.
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Same goes for people actively misreading your content in the worst possible way obviously just to start some shit.
This has been a plague on reddit.
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I only downvote when something is blatantly factually false or posted in bad faith (i.e. obviously trolling and I can't think of a good-faith reason why someone would post this).
If I merely disagree with something, I write an answer explaining why, or if there already is one that I agree with, I upvote that.
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I only comment when I feel I am adding something to the conversation that nobody else has added. On many contentious topics, nearly everything that can be said has already been said by someone, so I usually don't comment on them.
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Don't talk about politics or religion if you don't want to argue since most places are low trust and what you say will be taken in the worst possible way. Lurk for atleast 3 months before posting to get the vibe of the place. The report button exists. Don't feed the trolls.(see the troll song for why) If you don't fit in don't try, no one is going to defend your world view even if its normal IRL. Bare in mind that anything said online can't hurt you if you properly separate them for the IRL you. (E.g. repeating usernames, same email, ect will ID you.). ALL CAPS IS SHOUTING. Don't post AI generated stuff unless its upfrontly tagged. Most things aren't that deep and will be forgotten in 7 days.
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I disagree
