The great millennial garbage gyre
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I can't wait for TRUMPDate. Make America Date Again. Can't go wrong.
But the date is August 2, 1934
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
I bet that the Pandas would step in and keep us going.
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You don't have a fiduciary responsibility to maximize profit, or anything like that. You have a responsibility to act in accordance to company rules and guidelines, and to act in the company's interest, not your own.
There is no requirement to burn to company down to maximize short-term profits, like some people think. That's usually at the expense of long-term profits anyway, so it could be better for profits to do something better for the customer.
You're only required to act "ethically" and keep the company's interests above your own.
wrote last edited by [email protected]If the company has a goal to make more money every year, then you can justify a lot of actions in that pursuit. And once they have a monopoly you kinda don't have many options, so they can push more.
Saying they have a responsibility to keep you on the app may sound silly, but app user churn is most likely measured and has some goal around it. And if a goal is set around that churn then they very much have an obligation to keep you on there as long as possible.
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
wrote last edited by [email protected]oh dont worry. The right wingers will murder us all soon.
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I can't wait for TRUMPDate. Make America Date Again. Can't go wrong.
yes, and women will be required to use it and have babies with the incels on it.
Its that or prison, ladies!
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the sea is full of plenty of fish. (although these days not so plentifully)
A lot of the fish that are left are radioactive and full of poison.
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Pretty sure Tinder shadow banned me for some reason. I saw the same people constantly.
check out https://www.truublue.com/
dating for progressive singles. And check out the ginger lady at the bottom of the front page-- I couldnt say no after seeing that.
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Millennial here. Have recently dabbled with the apps. Honestly the guys I was shown were not objectively bad looking. Many of them were pretty attractive. But not my type at all. My interests were books and video games and nerdy sweetness…and it kept recommending me muscle gym divorced military dads. So I gave up.
Which app? Cause I can't find the nerdy girls.
The algorithm just pushes all these women who are wanting someone who will house them and take them on worldly vacations.
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Which app? Cause I can't find the nerdy girls.
The algorithm just pushes all these women who are wanting someone who will house them and take them on worldly vacations.
I tried bumble and hinge, got the ick, and gave up. Yeah, I’ve heard people saying something similar; going on about women looking to be housed. It’s such a huge turnoff and it makes me consider their financial insecurity, to be honest.
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Perhaps, but we would need to put the idea in practice to determine what's the cause/effect relationship here.
Are people more addicted to their screens because the real world became hostile, or is the real world becoming hostile because people are glued to their screens?
I'd bet on the first option, but I could be wrong.
Real relationships require a vulnerability that dating apps can not provide
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Sorry if I come off like a butthole but I'm both curious yet dubious of the idea. I feel like people probably have thought about it but they probably ran into the same problems you'll run into.
You didn't quite answer my question. Where are you getting revenue? Eg. Subscription, one-time fees for X, grants, investments, etc?
Duallingo started like a non-profit but even their revenue with its massive userbase couldn't cover their expenses so they had to compromise hard to keep the lights on. The same happened to Coffee Meets Bagel. Hinge started with the same premise of "this app is meant to be deleted" but they also had to compromise and eventually sold to Match Group.
Also, I feel like gay men are a unique demographic that has higher that average engagement so Grindr is probably in a uniquely advantaged position to resist enshitification.
I guess I'm just saying it's probably in practice a cost center like city infrastructure or schools or research, so it might only work without heavy compromises if it's also funded by taxes.
It’s almost as if men are a little bit hornier than women…
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I tried bumble and hinge, got the ick, and gave up. Yeah, I’ve heard people saying something similar; going on about women looking to be housed. It’s such a huge turnoff and it makes me consider their financial insecurity, to be honest.
Most people seem to accept living on debt or handouts. It's strange. I see everyone around me (both sexes) acting the same. So it's not even a dating app issue, I think it's a people issue. Offer nothing and expect everything in return. Maybe it's an American thing?
I don't want to be grouped into incel mentality, but is there a dating app to meet people from another country?
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Sorry if I come off like a butthole but I'm both curious yet dubious of the idea. I feel like people probably have thought about it but they probably ran into the same problems you'll run into.
You didn't quite answer my question. Where are you getting revenue? Eg. Subscription, one-time fees for X, grants, investments, etc?
Duallingo started like a non-profit but even their revenue with its massive userbase couldn't cover their expenses so they had to compromise hard to keep the lights on. The same happened to Coffee Meets Bagel. Hinge started with the same premise of "this app is meant to be deleted" but they also had to compromise and eventually sold to Match Group.
Also, I feel like gay men are a unique demographic that has higher that average engagement so Grindr is probably in a uniquely advantaged position to resist enshitification.
I guess I'm just saying it's probably in practice a cost center like city infrastructure or schools or research, so it might only work without heavy compromises if it's also funded by taxes.
Where are we getting the funds for Lemmy and its instances?
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
Schopenhauer did say as much I suppose. Except for the Tinder bit. Now to pin him as a millennial or a Gen Z...
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Most people seem to accept living on debt or handouts. It's strange. I see everyone around me (both sexes) acting the same. So it's not even a dating app issue, I think it's a people issue. Offer nothing and expect everything in return. Maybe it's an American thing?
I don't want to be grouped into incel mentality, but is there a dating app to meet people from another country?
I don’t know, it could be your immediate environment. I certainly noticed this behavior in some friend groups, but not others. I don’t think you need to go that far to avoid the behavior. Just be vigilant and expect reciprocity.
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My husband is 38, we're eachothers best friend. Feeling alone even in company is a sign of depression, which we both have, and both have had, since we were children.
I'm glad to be there for him on his off days, and he's there for me in mine. That's what it's about no? He doesn't see me as a "dick servicer" though, so maybe that's the difference.
I'm sorry you so feel alone no matter what though, must be difficult getting through some days
I don't believe you. I do not believe a woman is there for a man in his off days. I've never seen that. Women do not support men, supporting a man is misogyny. They go on social media claiming to be "strong and independent" always in that order, and demanding heights and salaries that they will begrudgingly fuck for. "You take me on enough expensive dates and I might stoop to fucking you."
That's what the modern online-only strangers-only dating scene looks like. You will be alone with or without these women.
Look up "spool of wire guy."
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High school here runs through grade 12, and is part of primary education. It's publicly funded. The only costs to students are for clubs and sports, and for school-provided lunch (which is excepted if your family is below a certain income). Most students graduate the same year they turn 18, so higher education (college or university) considerations only apply to adults.
There are heavy restrictions on pre-18 employment because of school. Limited hours per week, and evening cutoffs to ensure teens still have time for family/homework/etc.
Some schools (maybe all? I can only speak to my own experience) allow work release to grades 11 and 12, provided you're ahead enough on required credits and coursework for this to not set you back. Basically, you can trade elective classes for early release, but you must prove employment.
Thank you for the detailed answer. I guess I had some misconceptions about high school then.
Mh that's not true about the 18 year age for work here, I have to say in retrospect. In my youth it was still common to distribute brochures etc. at the weekend around the age of ~14, mh internships still exist, but this is unpaid work, at ~16 years then an apprenticeship and from 18 years then in regular work (or depending on further university).
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I think we should make dating apps even worse, and just let humanity die out naturally.
I don't know how you would go about intentionally making them worse. In theory they have a premium mode but in practise the premium mode is the "function at all" mode.
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If the company has a goal to make more money every year, then you can justify a lot of actions in that pursuit. And once they have a monopoly you kinda don't have many options, so they can push more.
Saying they have a responsibility to keep you on the app may sound silly, but app user churn is most likely measured and has some goal around it. And if a goal is set around that churn then they very much have an obligation to keep you on there as long as possible.
There's the alternative of trying to obtain more users, or also to retain users by being a better service (although it has to appeal to a different demographic than those trying to leave for this though).
They have a pretty universally bad name now, so obtaining new users only gets harder, and a lot of people leave even without finding a long term match because the service is shit. They can optimize for these factors without burning the place down.
They have no requirement to grow year over year either. That has nothing to do with fiduciary responsibility. It just keeps stock value growing. Prioritizing long term health at the expense of short term gains is perfectly fine a legal.
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Humans simply are not wired for social media and the Internet. Seeing every single person you know posting themselves beautiful and dressed up doing the coolest things 24/7 will make anyone feel ugly and like they aren’t doing anything with their lives. It takes real focused effort to remember that people (generally) only post when they are doing something special and what you don’t see are the days or weeks between posts that show they live the same boring life you live.
I've never seen a friend post on social media about something and then felt sad. I've instead thought "That looks awesome! Good for them! I can't wait to do something like that too, I'm inspired!"
I think when we lost in person social gatherings as the primary method of meeting new people
This is something only chronically online people say. Most people form almost all of their relationships offline. This is still extremely true of platonic relationships. Online dating has increased in popularity, but mostly this is among people with niche tastes or in remote locations, where finding a match is more difficult due to the rarity of finding potential partners in real life. Tons of people still date primarily via their social circle or community gatherings, and most people use a mix of all their options.
if you are presenting yourself to the world at large would you not want to showcase your best self?
"no let me show myself in my skivvies talking to my therapist!" doesn't seem like a lure for attracting a partner. just my two cents. And I am of the opinion that online dating is awkward, but that is about it.
